AIBU to be angry at DH over DS 8 on water slide?

I think the stupidity or otherwise of DH depends if he has told DS not to go down the slide that way again. There is obviously written warning that it is dangerous. He sustained a bump to the head, another time he may not be so lucky.

I suspect you did not supervise your ds when he went down the slide, so is using attack is the beat form of defence now that it happened. These kind of things can have lifelong consequences if they go wrong.

You did not help yourself mentioning about the main earner etc but I can understand why you are upset that it happened.

🙄 at the 'i am the breadwinner and my job is important'

I just don't get MN sometimes, going down on your back head first, is completely unsafe!! How on earth would the back of your head not be the first thing to hit the pool floor, when you go down that way!

Crikey! It's so very clear that OP only mentioned that she's the higher earner as a bit or context as to why she had to leave to take the call as it was important. Probably so that not everyone jumped on her to tell her that she shouldn't of taken a call whilst on holiday. Anyway, OP your not wrong to be annoyed but I have 2 boys and I am mum, the sensible one who does EVERYTHING for them, DP is the 'fun one' who does all the silly stuff with them. As long as your ds is okay then chalk it up to experience and move on. Your ds might not do it again, but he might, he's 8.

So he had a great time and fell and hit his head....

Alls well!

And your salary is irrelevant

OP, it's MN so of course there will be the unpleasant element that love to be as belittling as possible to OPs.

You are not wrong to be very upset.
Thank god it is ONLY a sore neck.

He's an idiot and if he is throwing childcare in your face ....a nasty idiot.
Life changing accidents can happen in a split second, it is why children need us to parent as best we can.

What he allowed isn't fun, it's really fxxking stupid.
Necks get be snapped in a second and to carry the weight of that as a parent, must be absolutely horrendous.

I wouldn't ruin the holiday for you all, but I wouldn't be happy at all.
He needs to take safety seriously and if he doesn't then he is absolutely useless to you and your son.

Not much can be done right now. Talk to your husband and remind him you want a safe summer for your child

Yes it is a huge risk on two counts.

The first risk factor is the shallow water.
The second is going head first into that water.

The proof of the risk is the fact that the child hit the bottom of the pool with his head.

The husband here is a first class moron.

Sensible like a grown ass adult?

Are my expectations of a father too high?

Op probably mentioned the breadwinner comment as she went off to take a call & was anticipating all the ‘parent your child then’ comments that usually surface on here.

Op, you DH didn’t make the best decision but no harm done this time & hopefully he knows for the future. Kids though will always do stuff like this.

You sound quite unpleasant OP!
Parents occasionally make errors in judgement and your kid has a minor injury. Both dad and kid might learn from that consequence and not do it again. Yapping about how you’re the breadwinner just makes you look like a tit - I have no idea why pp are so keen to defend you. If the scenario was flipped and your husband came here yapping about how you’d made a minor parenting error as the main carer while he was out ‘bread winning’ on holiday I am pretty sure he’d have his arse handed to him.

Hope your husband has his ducks in a row…..

Fwiw, OP, your husband is being a dick, and he is lucky your child didn't sustain a serious injury. You are all lucky.

Where I live, there are lifeguards who would stop a child going down a slide backwards, and the slides are all situated in proper diving pools with deep water.

And the prize for twattiest response goes to...

Have voted YABU because your salary has sod all to do with this.

Kids do daft daring stuff and incur minor injuries.

Now he knows why not to.

Did he actually let him or is this something DS just did? I’d imagine he didn’t go ‘hey dad, can I go down head first?’ He just probably went and did it, he’s 8, not 2 so DH was hardly helicoptering him. If he did let him do then he’s stupid though.

I presume DS has learned his lesson now and won’t do that again?

"my ds" sounds like you treat your husband as childcare rather than a husband or father.

whats the actual circumstance of the slide. did he push the kid down head first, did he tell him to go head first? was dad at the top of the slide at all, or the bottom in the pool and therefore had no control of how the kid came down?

Yeah I agree with this actually and it's not just what Dads do etc. Doesn't matter the parent's gender, they should parent.

However I agree with pp that your breadwinner comment was unnecessary and irrelevant. I say that also as significantly bigger breadwinner (and would never say what you did as though it was relevant to how grateful my partner should be or how much better he should risk assess - utterly irrelevant).

YANBU when I meet my DH in the late ‘80’s he knew nothing at all about periods, which amazed me considering he had 4 older sisters.

good god - you sound like fun.

Back in the early 2000’s I was about 8 on holiday in Turkey. It was one of those complex hotels with a water park and the lifeguard was a nutcase.

He would encourage all the kids to climb up the slides, go down backwards, go down on the sun-lounger toppers and lilos. We loved it. Our parents not so much -a few bumps but we were all fine.

Regardless of whether the division of labour in the OP's family is fair, the parent in charge has to actually parent. Negligent parenting is not an acceptable form of protest.

No idea why you’re getting piled on, that’s really unsafe and the ‘you’re boring’ comment is the cherry on top of a shite cake.

So wouldn’t you expect your DH to understand if you had to take a work call on holiday, and for him to step up to look after the kids? Or would you expect him to complain about it, and neglect the kids to the point of injury?

(My DH is also a SAHP. He steps up. He’s very competent to parent our kids, and is supportive if I need to prioritise work.)