To have exchanged the voucher

HemelHan · 2024-07-24T15:52:14+00:00

DM bought me a voucher for a maternity photo shoot. Honestly I find them so cringe and it’s really not me so I contacted the photographer who agreed to exchange it for a newborn photo shoot with me paying the difference. DM said she would have happily paid for a newborn one too and it’s a shame etc etc. but surely it’s better than wasting the voucher?

caringcarer · 25/07/2024 00:08

I didn't want to be photographed when I was pregnant with hugely swollen ankles. I can clearly recall not wanting to go unless I had to during the last month of my pregnancy as I hated my ankles so much. Think very hot summer. I think.it was sensible to swap for newborn photos.

Maddy70 · 24/07/2024 23:54

I would never do a maternity shoot. Totally cringe imo. You did the right thing. Shd bought you a very lovely thoughtful gift just not right for you

Changingplace · 24/07/2024 21:11

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Lol don’t be ridiculous, you’re entitled to want certain things like maternity photos or wedding videos and I’d never say that’s wrong for you if that’s your thing, but don’t be so patronising to say my feelings are wrong, they’re my personal opinion of what I do if don’t need in my life.

HelterSkelter224 · 24/07/2024 20:50

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I do regret not getting proper newborn photos of my daughter but there's not an inch of me that regrets not having a photoshoot of my swollen self during pregnancy

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HemelHan · 24/07/2024 20:40

maudelovesharold · 24/07/2024 19:49

Maybe it’s more to do with regretting not doing something which her Mum thought would be nice? There are lots of things which I regret not doing because I didn’t want to at the time, but which would have made my Mum happy at very little cost to me. Or maybe I’m just projecting!

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I will do many things for my mum, even if I don’t want to. Posing in a bra and bedsheet with my massive belly is not one.

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HemelHan · 24/07/2024 20:39

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Oh stop 😂

no one’s dying words have ever been “I wish I had professional maternity photos”

I am sure sure once 20 years have elapsed there are more important things to care about and will erase any slight linger of regret

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AllTipAndNoIceberg · 24/07/2024 17:48

Why do you think this? Do you know the OP?

Or do you actually think that deep down, most women regret not having had themselves professionally photographed during pregnancy?

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Maybe it’s more to do with regretting not doing something which her Mum thought would be nice? There are lots of things which I regret not doing because I didn’t want to at the time, but which would have made my Mum happy at very little cost to me. Or maybe I’m just projecting!

MrsApplepants · 24/07/2024 19:44

I had my baby 15 years ago. No maternity shoot, no baby shower, no gender reveal. Absolutely no regrets.

Sahara123 · 24/07/2024 19:34

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 24/07/2024 19:08

Asking for a friend, when does this regret kick in, does it take more than 20 years?

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36 years here ummmmm nope, nothing !
Those saying it’s a thoughtful gift , it really isn't , unless you're absolutely sure . Id’ve hated it .

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 24/07/2024 19:08

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Asking for a friend, when does this regret kick in, does it take more than 20 years?

countrysidelife2024 · 24/07/2024 18:53

I have never regretted not taking any photos of my Large stomach to be honest 😂Ive never understood the appeal

AllTheChaos · 24/07/2024 18:48

Oh Jesus, I can’t stand the pregnancy photoshoots. I’m another who finds them cringeworthy and tacky as hell. Plus I’ve seen the (normal) pictures of me when I was pregnant, eg from a close friend’s birthday party. I looked like I felt: like a fat, angry whale. Really not something to be ‘immortalised’!

MinniesCountdown · 24/07/2024 18:43

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Changingplace · 24/07/2024 18:35

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People said this to me about having a wedding video, they were wrong :) If the OP doesn’t want it she doesn’t want it.

BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 18:19

@HemelHan I'm so sorry, I misread your OP and thought it was DH who bought you the voucher. Lol @ the baby shower comment though!
The rest of what I said still makes vague sense though hopefully! 🤣

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HemelHan · 24/07/2024 18:15

BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 18:02

It's a bizarre gift to give someone if they haven't requested it. I would be horrified at having my photo taken, posing in a studio with a stranger while heavily pregnant. It just looks so cringe!

And I can't stop envisaging Demi Moore and all her copycats posing naked while pregnant on a magazine cover. If she can't make it look good, nobody can, haha!

It's good you exchanged it for a newborn one. Then you'll still have photos of that time, just there's more point when you can actually see the baby! Hopefully your husband can understand your reasons.

If you'll let him, he could take a few arty pregnant pictures of you if he really loves and wants to capture that look.

I don’t think DH really gives a shit either way 🤣 If I wanted to do it all I think he’d go along with it but he really doesn’t get all of the stuff that people do (gender reveal/photo shoots etc/baby showers..)

but we went to a baby shower and he said “but the baby isn’t here yet?” Haha

I agree

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HemelHan · 24/07/2024 18:12

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I can guarantee you I won’t 🤣

I have plenty of “bumpdate” photos to look back on for myself. I absolutely do not want to pose away with my belly out in front of a random like I’m a B list celeb in Hello.

I think it’s tacky, cringey, and I would never display or have use for the photographs.

also - I am going to give my DM a photo of the baby to put up in her house, so she will get benefit too. I would NO WAY let her put up or have a maternity shoot one 😂

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BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 18:02

It's a bizarre gift to give someone if they haven't requested it. I would be horrified at having my photo taken, posing in a studio with a stranger while heavily pregnant. It just looks so cringe!

And I can't stop envisaging Demi Moore and all her copycats posing naked while pregnant on a magazine cover. If she can't make it look good, nobody can, haha!

It's good you exchanged it for a newborn one. Then you'll still have photos of that time, just there's more point when you can actually see the baby! Hopefully your husband can understand your reasons.

If you'll let him, he could take a few arty pregnant pictures of you if he really loves and wants to capture that look.

Funkyslippers · 24/07/2024 17:57

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I had normal pics taken of me throughput my pregnancy. Never once have I wished I'd gone to a photoshoot

Londonrach1 · 24/07/2024 17:56

FictionalCharacter · 24/07/2024 17:24

YANBU. No point in keeping a voucher you won’t use, and daft to use a voucher for photos you don’t want.

Why. So glad I never had a photo of me pregnant

BibbleandSqwauk · 24/07/2024 17:56

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Don't be ridiculous, how can you possibly know what the op will or won't think. She's not you.

Belfastchild74 · 24/07/2024 17:55

No newborn photoshoots either, plenty of photos though and no regrets there either. Just in case anyone is wondering...

GonnaeNoDaeThatJustGonnaeNo · 24/07/2024 17:55

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No regrets here.

If it's not your thing then it's not your thing.

I don't think I have any photos of me (obviously) pregnant at all.

Belfastchild74 · 24/07/2024 17:54

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Really????

From my pov...
3 kids, no maternity photoshoots.
No regrets

Totally not unreasonable

Tetchypants · 24/07/2024 17:54

Yet another cringey tacky thing to add to the list, along with baby showers and gender reveal parties.

I’d have done the same, OP!