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To apply for DLA for DD when we have a household income of over 300k?

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Milesandmilesandmiles · 24/07/2024 16:14

Just that really - we have an autistic daughter who needs support with most things (although is in mainstream school). Between us DH and I earn over 300k, so we don’t need the money. However, conscious that we won’t be around for ever and we could save it for DD’s needs as she grows. But is this what state benefits are for?

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Mrsjayy · 24/07/2024 16:44

Bananaspread · 24/07/2024 16:42

IMO all benefits should be a last resort safety net for the times when individuals, families and communities can’t manage or won’t help.

Disability benefits are for individual needs it isn't about family helping out or "communities helping " whatever that means

BrumToTheRescue · 24/07/2024 16:43

MouseofCommons · 24/07/2024 16:42

Yanbu. If nothing else it should trigger some extra support for you. I get covid boosters because DD gets DLA.

Carers didn’t need the person they cared for to get DLA (or PIP or AA).

Bananaspread · 24/07/2024 16:42

IMO all benefits should be a last resort safety net for the times when individuals, families and communities can’t manage or won’t help.

MouseofCommons · 24/07/2024 16:42

Yanbu. If nothing else it should trigger some extra support for you. I get covid boosters because DD gets DLA.

BrumToTheRescue · 24/07/2024 16:41

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 16:34

Is it a fixed award or an indefinite award ? If it's the fixed I would claim - then when you reapply she may be assessed as not needing it.
Morally on 300k - that's a question only you feel comfortable with.

Claimants wouldn’t know if they had been given a fixed award for a period of time or an award until transfer to PIP (wouldn’t be indefinite for a child on DLA) before applying.

Onlywayisupmaybe · 24/07/2024 16:41

Sirzy · 24/07/2024 16:26

It’s not means tested, if she is eligible then you have just as much right to claim it as anyone else.

This

DancingLions · 24/07/2024 16:41

If you're entitled to claim it then you aren't doing anything wrong. Although it wouldn't sit right with me on that income. The pot is limited and people have to really fight to get it. I wouldn't feel right about claiming and someone else missing out who really needs it.

LostTheMarble · 24/07/2024 16:40

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 16:34

Is it a fixed award or an indefinite award ? If it's the fixed I would claim - then when you reapply she may be assessed as not needing it.
Morally on 300k - that's a question only you feel comfortable with.

It depends on many factors. First application usually gets you a 2 year award (sometimes 1 year). Typically if needs haven’t changed and aren’t expected to, the next award is until aged 12 (sometimes until 16), or may give a higher/lower award or even stop it altogether.

All DLA stops after the age of 16 (with some leeway) and moves over to a PIP application. At which point you have to either nominate yourself as the person advocate or it can go to the person themselves.

Puravida23 · 24/07/2024 16:40

Dosent sit comfortably with me. The benefits system exists to support those in need who cannot support themselves. This is not the case here. Ultimately there are only so many funds available the government dosent have an unlimited money tree.
If people not in need start claiming this may ultimately result in cuts in benefits for those who need it. I would see it as my social duty not to claim for benefits I don’t need but ultimately it is your choice you are within your right to claim if you wish, plenty of people do

ElecticBetty · 24/07/2024 16:39

ElecticBetty · 24/07/2024 16:37

Yanbu! Everything needs to be documented and support needs all seem to stack on top of each other. Ehcp builds the DLA, DLA supports PIP etc etc.

get DLA, spend it or put it in a trust for her it doesn’t matter. But claim what she’s owed. Even if you pay the DLA money in to support charities with her difficulties etc

Oh, and claim it on behalf of the shite government and DWP and stats arseholes who number crunch.

your daughters claim only goes to help inform statistically how many children need support a year. Let her number count on behalf of those whose parents deserve but fail to claim DLA, or don’t know it exists etc.

Goslingsforlife · 24/07/2024 16:39

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 16:34

Is it a fixed award or an indefinite award ? If it's the fixed I would claim - then when you reapply she may be assessed as not needing it.
Morally on 300k - that's a question only you feel comfortable with.

DLA is for children only. After 16 it's PIP. there is nothing infinite with dla

Mrsjayy · 24/07/2024 16:39

Mrsjayy · 24/07/2024 16:38

This. It isn't to be saved I mean you can keep some but it's not for "building up"

Apart from that op it's up to you if you want to apply for it.

It will do her good if you want to access services as "proof of disability "

Penguinsandpuffins · 24/07/2024 16:39

You should absolutely claim for her if you think that she meets the criteria. 100%.

Mrsjayy · 24/07/2024 16:38

TwoBlueFish · 24/07/2024 16:19

You aren’t supposed to save DLA, it’s for the extra costs associated with having a disability. If she has extra costs then yes apply. Be aware that if you expect that she will be on income related benefits (such as universal credit) as an adult then she will not be eligible if she has more than £16k savings in her name.

This. It isn't to be saved I mean you can keep some but it's not for "building up"

Apart from that op it's up to you if you want to apply for it.

ElecticBetty · 24/07/2024 16:37

Yanbu! Everything needs to be documented and support needs all seem to stack on top of each other. Ehcp builds the DLA, DLA supports PIP etc etc.

get DLA, spend it or put it in a trust for her it doesn’t matter. But claim what she’s owed. Even if you pay the DLA money in to support charities with her difficulties etc

Goslingsforlife · 24/07/2024 16:37

not everyone with ASD qualifies for DLA. it depends how it affects you. If she is coping in mainstream and her care needs are such that you both can work (and seeing your income, it's probably not very part time), I hazard a guess that her care needs may not even high enough to qualify.

DC1 has severe low functioning autism and we were refused, even on MR and needed a tribunal application to get an award. It's not easy to get.

BrumToTheRescue · 24/07/2024 16:37

I agree with others. DLA isn’t means tested. However, be careful saving in DD’s name. Especially if DD won’t have capacity as an adult, will need social care support as an adult, will not be able to work/need means tested benefits, &/or she has/may have as she gets older an EHCP.

Mickey79 · 24/07/2024 16:36

Yes you should. As others have said DLA is not means tested. As a benefit, it’s not there to top up parents incomes, and shouldn’t be treated as such. It is there for your daughter, to pay for the extra costs associated with her disability.

CoralReader · 24/07/2024 16:35

Your tax is paying for it, so why shouldn’t you?

LostTheMarble · 24/07/2024 16:34

It’s for her, you can always put anything she’s awarded (if she is) into a separate bank account out of your own money iyswim. But to be honest I’ve found it comes with more value than just the money. I almost didn’t apply for my eldest but then he was dropped from the paediatrician for some ill informed reasons about the ASD spectrum. Applied for DLA and used his approval for that as part of the appeal to get him seen again (by a different consultant thank goodness). I now using it to help with an EHCP application (luckily just did a successful renewal so all his care needs are written out and ready to go!). Writing the form is hard, but it really gets a great collective of information ready to hand about your child, their current needs and mapping out where things may improve or may become more challenging later.

Schoolhols · 24/07/2024 16:34

I remember that Katie Price got a lot of stick for using a local authority funded taxi to get Harvey to and from school (back when she was well off), however her argument was that she pays a lot more tax than most people and therefore why should she not apply for this funding when her son is eligible

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 16:34

Is it a fixed award or an indefinite award ? If it's the fixed I would claim - then when you reapply she may be assessed as not needing it.
Morally on 300k - that's a question only you feel comfortable with.

theeyeofdoe · 24/07/2024 16:29

Think how much tax you pay?

i would definitely claim for her if she had extra costs. We don’t for DD as apart from her school there aren’t really any yet. But we would have sent her to private school anyway.

FluffyDiplodocus · 24/07/2024 16:29

I think you’re just as entitled to apply, but I get that it probably feels a bit of a grey area. Our household income is around £55k and we receive it. I still feel guilty about it, but it is useful and I know that I could fully justify how it supports DS (not that you are ever asked). I know you’re not meant to save it but my colleague saves their payments, she doesn’t think her son will be able to live independently and intends to use it for a loft conversion for him as an adult. I get that you’re not meant to save it, but I can’t see the harm in her doing that tbh!

IClaudine · 24/07/2024 16:29

TwoBlueFish · 24/07/2024 16:19

You aren’t supposed to save DLA, it’s for the extra costs associated with having a disability. If she has extra costs then yes apply. Be aware that if you expect that she will be on income related benefits (such as universal credit) as an adult then she will not be eligible if she has more than £16k savings in her name.

Where in the regulations does it specify what DLA/PIP can and can't be spent on and where does it say it can't be put in a savings account, please? Yes, it might be wise to make sure the savings don't exceed limits in the future that might affect other benefits, but there are no actual rules against doing so,

Also you don't have to prove extra costs. It is awarded on the basis of how the disability affects day to day life.

OP, David Cameron claimed it for his son.