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To apply for DLA for DD when we have a household income of over 300k?

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Milesandmilesandmiles · 24/07/2024 16:14

Just that really - we have an autistic daughter who needs support with most things (although is in mainstream school). Between us DH and I earn over 300k, so we don’t need the money. However, conscious that we won’t be around for ever and we could save it for DD’s needs as she grows. But is this what state benefits are for?

OP posts:
x2boys · 24/07/2024 18:46

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 18:41

My DB gets DLA - he's 28 and has an indefinite award since the age of 11 - so not necessarily.

That must be very rare ,most people were moved over to PIP
Generally speaking DLA is children up 16 and PIP for 16 +

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 18:43

SummerFeelsLikeAutumn · 24/07/2024 16:49

I agree with this. If people don’t need the money it shouldn’t be claimed. There’s so many families living on a lot less than £300k, struggling to get to the end of the month and who have to claim DLA to give their children the things they need. I’m sure in another world anyone on £300k a year wouldn’t even consider claiming as I’m assuming on that wage there will be some sort of inheritance left as well as savings. I haven’t seen the OP reply as yet and I’m wondering of this is one of these posts made simply to be inflammatory?

Yes - she's lit the touch paper on this one .....thinking it's a troll poster

TheKeatingFive · 24/07/2024 18:43

I wouldn't hesitate.

It's for her, not you. It isn't means tested. It might make access to other services easier later on.

A no brainer.

x2boys · 24/07/2024 18:43

Sirzy · 24/07/2024 17:09

I have never had to sign something and send it back (ds been getting DLA for about 10 years now)

I have filled in the form, had a letter to say I am the nominated person and then the decision and that’s it other than letters about Christmas bonus (ha!) and new years rates.

Me either ,my son is 14 now and he's been getting DLA since he was 3 nobody asks whatsit gets spent on.

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 18:41

LostTheMarble · 24/07/2024 16:40

It depends on many factors. First application usually gets you a 2 year award (sometimes 1 year). Typically if needs haven’t changed and aren’t expected to, the next award is until aged 12 (sometimes until 16), or may give a higher/lower award or even stop it altogether.

All DLA stops after the age of 16 (with some leeway) and moves over to a PIP application. At which point you have to either nominate yourself as the person advocate or it can go to the person themselves.

My DB gets DLA - he's 28 and has an indefinite award since the age of 11 - so not necessarily.

IClaudine · 24/07/2024 18:40

Rosscameasdoody · 24/07/2024 18:23

Don’t be so sure. The consultation paper is due to close and the new government is looking very carefully at the results. They’ve been tight lipped when it comes to disability benefits, and as always, the disabled are the low hanging fruit when it comes to cuts. Labour doesn’t necessarily equal fair.

My guess is that the government will kick the consultation (which has now closed) on PIP reform into the long grass.

Introducing vouchers would be a major change to PIP requiring primary legislation. There was nothing in the King's Speech to give Parliamentary time to this.

Vouchers were a batshit idea dreamed up by a toxic Tory government in its death throes.

Osborne tried to introduce something along the same lines, but much less draconian (disability aids instead of PIP). He got his arse absolutely kicked, ministers were kicked off disability charity boards and Osborne swiftly dropped the idea. Same would happen if Labour went down the vouchers route and Starmer knows this.

youareonlyhereonce · 24/07/2024 18:39

Goslingsforlife · 24/07/2024 16:39

DLA is for children only. After 16 it's PIP. there is nothing infinite with dla

My DB has been on DLA since the age of 11 - he's 28 and still gets DLA - an indefinite award. (He has ASD) and my DM uses the DLA for him.

GoodieMcTwoshoes · 24/07/2024 18:36

Get all the help you can for her @Milesandmilesandmiles . That's just being a good parent. x

Having the DLA assessment showing her needs will also help you be able to get other support/resources for her.

x2boys · 24/07/2024 18:32

Nappyvalley15 · 24/07/2024 18:23

I was joking about the school fees issue. I know it wouldn't touch the sides.

As a parent with a neurodiverse DC in PS I know how little sympathy we get on here.

I think I am old school - I see benefits as something you apply for when you need it. Parenting a neurodiverse child is challenging. So the OP may need money down the road, but for now seems able to cover the costs.

The Op,s daughter wouldnt Necessarily qualify as it goes off need not diagnosis,and the autism spectrum is huge
But if she does its because has significant needs

BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 18:32

I don't think it's means tested if it's the same rules as PIP. So yes, anyone can apply.
I guess some might say you don't 'need' the money, but it's not like your taking it out of someone else's benefits. It's what that benefit is meant for. If they only wanted it to go to low income people then they'd have it means tested.

Namechange3868 · 24/07/2024 18:30

AmberFawn · 24/07/2024 17:06

Do you claim DLA? I have done for the last ten years for my child, including a renewal last year. You get a separate agreement you sign and send back as the administrator of the child’s benefit outlining your responsibilities, which include parts on what it should be spent on. If you’re actually claim you should probably remember that bit.

Yes I do, thank you very much. I have that agreement in front of me (you don't have to sign it and send it back). The four criteria are:

  1. You must always act in the best interests of XX when managing and spending the DLA.
  1. You must always report any changes in XX circumstances that may affect their entitlement.
  1. You must report and changes in your own circumstances that may affect your ability to act as an appointed person.
  1. You must not take a fee or any payment for acting as the appointed person for XX.

Absolutely zero about them auditing or needing to keep proof of expenditure.

Boomer55 · 24/07/2024 18:29

Otherstories2002 · 24/07/2024 18:29

It’s blatantly untrue that’s why.

there is no such guidance or audit.

True. There isn’t and never has been.🙄

Otherstories2002 · 24/07/2024 18:29

Sirzy · 24/07/2024 17:09

I have never had to sign something and send it back (ds been getting DLA for about 10 years now)

I have filled in the form, had a letter to say I am the nominated person and then the decision and that’s it other than letters about Christmas bonus (ha!) and new years rates.

It’s blatantly untrue that’s why.

there is no such guidance or audit.

Boomer55 · 24/07/2024 18:29

Rosscameasdoody · 24/07/2024 18:23

Don’t be so sure. The consultation paper is due to close and the new government is looking very carefully at the results. They’ve been tight lipped when it comes to disability benefits, and as always, the disabled are the low hanging fruit when it comes to cuts. Labour doesn’t necessarily equal fair.

It’s very unlikely to happen. Vouchers are very, very expensive, and admin heavy.

The new government are more interested in sorting out working age sickness benefits.

The rules with those may well change. They see more people in work as a help to growing the economy.

Otherstories2002 · 24/07/2024 18:28

AmberFawn · 24/07/2024 16:56

If you’re found out to be saving it and not using it it could well be taken away based on the evidence you don’t need it. Do apply because as PPs have said, it’s a gateway to other things that will help your child. But use it

that is absolutely untrue.

Otherstories2002 · 24/07/2024 18:26

Puravida23 · 24/07/2024 16:40

Dosent sit comfortably with me. The benefits system exists to support those in need who cannot support themselves. This is not the case here. Ultimately there are only so many funds available the government dosent have an unlimited money tree.
If people not in need start claiming this may ultimately result in cuts in benefits for those who need it. I would see it as my social duty not to claim for benefits I don’t need but ultimately it is your choice you are within your right to claim if you wish, plenty of people do

That is not what DLA is for.

Otherstories2002 · 24/07/2024 18:24

Goslingsforlife · 24/07/2024 16:37

not everyone with ASD qualifies for DLA. it depends how it affects you. If she is coping in mainstream and her care needs are such that you both can work (and seeing your income, it's probably not very part time), I hazard a guess that her care needs may not even high enough to qualify.

DC1 has severe low functioning autism and we were refused, even on MR and needed a tribunal application to get an award. It's not easy to get.

Edited

That’s grossly short sighted of you.

x2boys · 24/07/2024 18:24

Emmanuelll · 24/07/2024 18:08

Actually, I’ve noticed that a lot of people seem very resentful about others getting DLA. Especially parents who claim it. I see it on disability groups - people desperate to tell others they should not apply. It’s a very unattractive trait.

I have seen the opposite on those groups every day i see people trying to put claims in for the flimisiest of reasons ,with zero evidence of any disabilities, then getting irate when they get knock backed ,

Spidey66 · 24/07/2024 18:23

Schoolhols · 24/07/2024 16:34

I remember that Katie Price got a lot of stick for using a local authority funded taxi to get Harvey to and from school (back when she was well off), however her argument was that she pays a lot more tax than most people and therefore why should she not apply for this funding when her son is eligible

I remember that! I'm no fan of KP but the free taxi was for her severely disabled son, not her, in order he got to school. And as she said at the time, she was one of the taxpayers that the DM readers complained she was ripping off!

And yes David Cameron claimed it for Ivan, who also had considerable NHS treatment. OP don't worry about claiming it, it's for your daughter not you.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/07/2024 18:23

Emmanuelll · 24/07/2024 18:10

Yes ⚠️Vouchers are not going to happen⚠️

Don’t be so sure. The consultation paper is due to close and the new government is looking very carefully at the results. They’ve been tight lipped when it comes to disability benefits, and as always, the disabled are the low hanging fruit when it comes to cuts. Labour doesn’t necessarily equal fair.

Nappyvalley15 · 24/07/2024 18:23

I was joking about the school fees issue. I know it wouldn't touch the sides.

As a parent with a neurodiverse DC in PS I know how little sympathy we get on here.

I think I am old school - I see benefits as something you apply for when you need it. Parenting a neurodiverse child is challenging. So the OP may need money down the road, but for now seems able to cover the costs.

Otherstories2002 · 24/07/2024 18:22

Absolutely claim. We are in a similar boat and claim. It is used specifically for disability related needs. The literal purpose of it.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/07/2024 18:20

DancingLions · 24/07/2024 16:41

If you're entitled to claim it then you aren't doing anything wrong. Although it wouldn't sit right with me on that income. The pot is limited and people have to really fight to get it. I wouldn't feel right about claiming and someone else missing out who really needs it.

The pot isn’t limited if you’re entitled to it. People have to fight for all disability benefits because that’s the way they are designed - that’s nothing to do with their income and everything to do with whether their condition satisfies the strict eligibility conditions. No one is going to miss out of they need it.

Boomer55 · 24/07/2024 18:20

IClaudine · 24/07/2024 18:07

This. So much misinformation on this thread!

Thank you. I was getting bemused by all the misinformation. People may disapprove of disability payments, but the rules have been there since the 90’s.🙄

MuchasSmoochas · 24/07/2024 18:19

You should and if it makes any difference as a tax payer I am more than happy. Disability support is a right not a privilege. By not claiming it you could inadvertently be adding to the stigma. I think we have a moral responsibility for people with disabilities as society.

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