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Do I have a right to be annoyed?

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somewhatmiffed · 24/07/2024 15:49

Two sisters
Anne - 55 years old, single, owns a house with 120k outright, works 30 hours a week,
Sue- 42 years old married with 3 kids, two are now adults one is a child and severely disabled. Have a mortgaged house £150k. Works very part time due to youngest needs.

When their mum died she left her share in the the house to their dad and bequeathed money to Anne and sue (50k each ) and each the grand kids (20k each) The adult twins got their money direct, the younger child's money went in a account for him. The twins were 18 at the time so they bought driving lessons/cars and did a gap year travelling plus some designer hoodies.

Dad has a mirror will so when he dies his children get 50k each, grand kids 20k each. The house has been left to Anne and Sue and any remaining funds will also go to them.

Anne has at times expressed annoyance at this seeing it as Sue getting 60k more. She feels it should be split 50/50 and then Sue give from her share.

Recently dad mentioned changing his will so it's split 50:50 to Sue and Anne. He asked Sue what she thought, she said it's his money , his choice but the twins would probably be upset as they have been previously told about the inheritance (by their grandmother)

Sue knows that Anne has been saying something as it's not something dad would just think of.

Also to mention Anne lives other side of country and visits 3 times a year. (Although does ring weekly) Sue cares for her dad - shopping/paying bills etc. visits a couple times a week, grandchildren probably see him around once a month.

Is Sue right to be annoyed for the Will is changed?

OP posts:
otravezempezamos · 24/07/2024 16:17

I don’t understand how Sue ‘is getting 60K more’. The money will be paid to her kids, not to her, and she will have her own share which is the same as Anne’s.

Amazonmulu · 24/07/2024 16:17

He's not dead yet - just leave the man alone!

Also Anne and Sue get equal amounts do t they?! £50k each. It's not Sue's fault Anne didn't have kids. If she had they would have each got £20k.

But again - just leave the man alone!

GabriellaMontez · 24/07/2024 16:17

I think Anne would be wrong to approach her Dad about this.

Particularly as it's something he agreed with late wife.

Sirzy · 24/07/2024 16:15

The one with a right to be annoyed is the father who is now going to be left feeling guilty whatever he does!

Boomer55 · 24/07/2024 16:14

An inheritance is just a wish list until someone dies. Leave people alone to work out their own finances.🙄

BallaiLuimni · 24/07/2024 16:12

This sort of thing horrifies me. I can't imagine putting such pressure on my parents. It's entirely up to them what they want to do with their money. If it seems 'unfair' I might wonder but there is no way I'd start hassling them or make a fuss.

If my own children behaved like this I'd be so fucked off and disappointed with them.

WallaceinAnderland · 24/07/2024 15:58

It's up to the dad. No one has a right to be annoyed.