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confusedwithschool · 2024-07-24T12:12:54+00:00

My 7 yr old DD has the dreaded chicken pox ( she’s on day 5) but still absolutely covered. Half of his class are out cos of this Tomorrow is my DS’s year 6 graduation and there is no one I can call to babysit ( that’s even if they would want to ) I can’t take her there as I would be exposing other kids but at the same time how can I miss my sons grad? im torn . I plan to be on video call with her while there and the school is just down the road , a 2 min walk not sure what I can do ?

Mayhemmumma · 26/07/2024 08:31

I'm glad you got to see the graduation.

Flossyts · 26/07/2024 08:16

I’ve just started leaving my 9 year old and lots of friends and family think that’s too young. I think 7 is probably pushing it I’m afraid. Are you friendly with your next door neighbours maybe? Ie if there was an emergency there would be someone she could go to?

sorry just seen you were able to get sorted

GrannyRose15 · 26/07/2024 07:58

IdgieThread
i suppose you never have fat thumb syndrome. Lucky you.
The advice to leave a child alone may be terrible. However, the advice not to tell thousands of people on social media that you are going to do it is sound.

Lozza24 · 26/07/2024 07:11

Honestly you shouldn’t be torn at all ! Leaving a 7 year old at home alone is unacceptable. You should not have at any point seen this as a possibility or an option. No not a chance would I have ever left my child at that age wouldn’t have even crossed my mind for a split second. Please do not do this.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 26/07/2024 06:47

S0livagant · 25/07/2024 22:06

Which law?

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I meant that the OP had misunderstood what the poster she replied to was saying.

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confusedwithschool · 26/07/2024 00:38

Wooky073 · 26/07/2024 00:28

Graduation from year 6 is a big thing. I would take the sick child with you, but stay at the back by the doors and the child maybe just sat outside but in sight if at all possible. Do school have any suggestions to help? Could the sick child go into the playground for 30 mins - unlikey to pass it on outside. or get someone to stay with child even if they are in the garden or park for 30 mins whilst you attend. Lots of potential workarounds which enable you to attend without leaving child x

Thanks

I posted an update yesterday that the school offered to watch her while I attend the assembly. But we ended up staying outside the assembly hall together outside where I could see my DS and I didn’t need to leave her side

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Harmonypus · 26/07/2024 00:34

Isn't this illegal at only 7 yrs of age? I would hope so!

Wooky073 · 26/07/2024 00:28

Graduation from year 6 is a big thing. I would take the sick child with you, but stay at the back by the doors and the child maybe just sat outside but in sight if at all possible. Do school have any suggestions to help? Could the sick child go into the playground for 30 mins - unlikey to pass it on outside. or get someone to stay with child even if they are in the garden or park for 30 mins whilst you attend. Lots of potential workarounds which enable you to attend without leaving child x

Emma785 · 25/07/2024 23:10

i get your dilemma and why you and your eldest would be upset it is a big step leaving for seniors (my middle child left last yr and I know I would have been upset to miss her celebration) my youngest at the time was 7 and I know for sure had she of been poorly I would had to have missed it there is absolutely no way I would have left her home alone or taken her with me unless I knew for sure she was not contagious. I’m immunosuppressed myself so taking a child poorly I just couldn’t put others at risk either.

PorridgeEater · 25/07/2024 22:59

NuffSaidSam · 24/07/2024 13:25

Year six graduation is not a really thing so don't worry too much about missing it! I'm sure your eldest is capable of understanding why you can't be there.

Don't leave your seven year old home alone (or in the car?!).

This

S0livagant · 25/07/2024 22:06

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 25/07/2024 21:38

No, you'd be breaking the law if you had left your 7 year old at home alone.

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Which law?

S0livagant · 25/07/2024 22:05

elenna55 · 25/07/2024 21:28

Officially you cannot leave a child under the age of 12 alone, for longer periods of time, if anything happens in your absence you would be persecuted for child neglect. The law on leaving your child on their own - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk )

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30 minutes is a very short period of time.

speyside · 25/07/2024 22:04

they normally have live videos now so you can see it and celebrate together later
dont risk it remember madeleine mccann

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 25/07/2024 21:38

confusedwithschool · 25/07/2024 20:15

It is now 7 days so not infectious anymore

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No, you'd be breaking the law if you had left your 7 year old at home alone.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 25/07/2024 21:36

GrannyRose15 · 25/07/2024 21:01

sshh don’t tell anyone rush in and out and if anyone aske say you have a babysitter. Put her in front of the telly and she’ll be fine for a one off. Certainly wouldn’t do it on a regular basis.
By the way you graduate when you get a degree after three or four years of university study. I detest this dumbing down if my achievemenrs by applying the term to 11 year olds.

This is terrible, terrible advice.

Also, your spelling errors and lack of punctuation are doing a great job of dumbing down your 'achievemenrs'. The 11 year olds in my class can write a lot better than you!

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 25/07/2024 21:32

confusedwithschool · 24/07/2024 16:06

it is Really interesting to see people getting hungover about what a child leaving Primary school is called . Whether it is called graduation, leavers assembly, it is a very huge milestone for my child and for we as parents.

thank you so much to everyone who offered kind suggestions and made me wake up my tired brain from sleepless nights to think of other alternatives. She would stay with a TA who is available as all other teachers and students would be at the assembly

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"Hungover" 😂

elenna55 · 25/07/2024 21:28

K0OLA1D · 24/07/2024 13:24

I was thinking 11 was a bit ott. Mine have been left from 10 alone completely for small amounts of time and now they're 10 and almost 13 they stay in all day some days in the holidays while we go to work!!

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Officially you cannot leave a child under the age of 12 alone, for longer periods of time, if anything happens in your absence you would be persecuted for child neglect. The law on leaving your child on their own - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk )

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GrannyRose15 · 25/07/2024 21:01

sshh don’t tell anyone rush in and out and if anyone aske say you have a babysitter. Put her in front of the telly and she’ll be fine for a one off. Certainly wouldn’t do it on a regular basis.
By the way you graduate when you get a degree after three or four years of university study. I detest this dumbing down if my achievemenrs by applying the term to 11 year olds.

MumToATallOne · 25/07/2024 21:00

Can you send a friend or relative along to be at the event for your DS if he really wants someone to be there at the event for him?

albatrossjoe · 25/07/2024 20:38

Personally I wouldn't. In general, but especially if they're unwell and not used to being alone. In the UK there's no minimum legal age, but Gov website states its recommendation is that most children under 12 wouldn't be mature enough to be left home unsupervised.

Sorry though OP, that's a rubbish situation to be in. X

Teenie22 · 25/07/2024 20:33

Not sure they’d still be infective on day 5?

TEARELBO · 25/07/2024 20:26

confusedwithschool · 25/07/2024 20:15

It is now 7 days so not infectious anymore

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When my son had CP our doctor told us they are infectious until every scab is gone.

Lrichy13 · 25/07/2024 20:18

I have a son the same age who just had his leavers prom and assembly. I would have been gutted to have missed it and I know he would have been too. Glad the school
are helping you to meet both kids needs. Enjoy x

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confusedwithschool · 25/07/2024 20:15

wasdarknowblond · 25/07/2024 20:11

Wouldn't you be breaking the law?

It is now 7 days so not infectious anymore

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confusedwithschool · 25/07/2024 20:14

KatiesMumWoof · 25/07/2024 19:56

@confusedwithschool

how did it all go?

Hello thanks for checking in.

I took her and we stayed outside the assembly hall. She is not infectious anymore as it is now 7 days . But we left after 30mins because she was still a little bit fatigued.

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