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Travelled to friend's house for dinner, just strawberries for desert - AIBU to think it's low effort?

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Carefreebie · 24/07/2024 00:44

On the weekend my partner and I travelled to a friend's house for dinner. The journey was over an hour by train.

The main course was sausages with nice sides (potato salad, tomato salad, another salad). That was nice.

But desert was just strawberries with some pouring cream.

We had a nice time, but AIBU to feel that the desert was very low effort and unexciting, and should have been more exciting than strawberries given the journey?

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

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Anonym00se · 24/07/2024 12:24

Good job you didn’t come to my house. We only have dessert on Christmas Day! We’re just not pudding people.

the80sweregreat · 24/07/2024 12:24

Sounds great ! I hate cooking , so having someone else do it for me is a win win in my book.
What do you normally cook or dish up for them ?

MeouwCat · 24/07/2024 12:23

No extra sugar, please, I am dieting

MeouwCat · 24/07/2024 12:22

Britsh strawberrie and cream. mmm.

Butwhybecause · 24/07/2024 12:22

Butwhybecause · 24/07/2024 12:20

🤣🤣🤣

I'd have enjoyed it all SquidgeyB

I love strawberries, especially with cream
And anything that is prepared for me, in fact.

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ps but not squid, thank you. Or laverbread.

Beezknees · 24/07/2024 12:22

Last time I visited my friend in London (I live in Derbyshire) we had a frozen pizza.

I go to see my friend, not to be cooked for.

Butwhybecause · 24/07/2024 12:20

SquidgeyB · 24/07/2024 00:59

Well I had friends over at the weekend and made sausages with salads and strawberries and cream.....feeling quite hurt at this post!!

🤣🤣🤣

I'd have enjoyed it all SquidgeyB

I love strawberries, especially with cream
And anything that is prepared for me, in fact.

SherbetSweeties · 24/07/2024 12:19

British strawberries and cream sounds delicious 🤤

WombatChocolate · 24/07/2024 12:18

I suppose some people have a need to be fawned over. They want anyone hosting them to have knocked themselves out with cooking and cleaning. Somehow, it gives them their self worth.

It’s the same when people are disappointed by a present which looks cheapest or one that looks like huge amounts of effort wasn’t put into it.

I just think some people want a lot of attention given to them. They judge the level of friendship by this kind of thing.

In my view,hospitality is about the friendliness of the welcome and how comfortable you’re made to feel. Often that’s in the Hines which aren’t pristine or don’t serve amazing food - but you have a lovely time, because the people are lovely.

MeouwCat · 24/07/2024 12:17

You seen the price of strawberries these days.

willWillSmithsmith · 24/07/2024 12:15

Lifeomars · 24/07/2024 12:12

I am always just so happy and grateful if someone makes food of any description for me. Lovely not to have to shop cook, serve and clear up a meal. Wouldn't care if they had sent out for a MacDonalds and as for strawberries and cream, it is one of my favourites and so summery.

Totally.

Skyrainlight · 24/07/2024 12:13

I would hate to have you around for dinner. Judgmental much?

Atichen · 24/07/2024 12:12

holju · 24/07/2024 11:58

If you're just nipping next door expect no more than a half empty jar of nutella and a spoon.

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I mean I'd be very happy with that I'm.a chocolate fiend :)

Lifeomars · 24/07/2024 12:12

I am always just so happy and grateful if someone makes food of any description for me. Lovely not to have to shop cook, serve and clear up a meal. Wouldn't care if they had sent out for a MacDonalds and as for strawberries and cream, it is one of my favourites and so summery.

willWillSmithsmith · 24/07/2024 12:08

Not much of a friend are you? Strawberries and cream sounds like a lovely dessert to me. Maybe she should have served you Death by Chocolate?

ManchesterLu · 24/07/2024 12:07

holju · 24/07/2024 11:58

If you're just nipping next door expect no more than a half empty jar of nutella and a spoon.

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To be fair, that's pretty much my ideal meal haha.

ManchesterLu · 24/07/2024 12:07

Surely you go to see your friends, that being the main purpose, and the meal is just a bonus? It sounds perfectly fine to me, and you sound ungrateful.

holju · 24/07/2024 11:58

BeachParty · 24/07/2024 11:03

What on earth's wrong with poached pears?!
Sounds lovely.
What dessert is acceptable for a 78 minute trip that involved a pesky lorry?
Also what dessert for a 40 minute trip? 30?
We need some kind of spreadsheet for travel timings and acceptable sweet treats.
This thread's mad 😂

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If you're just nipping next door expect no more than a half empty jar of nutella and a spoon.

Iwasafool · 24/07/2024 11:57

Carefreebie · 24/07/2024 00:54

I'm not meaning to say I ever hope for super impressive food. I just find a bowl of strawberries very unexciting.

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We are all different, I can't think of anything nicer than a bowl of strawberries and cream but if you are disappointed it's a shame. Maybe she's like me?

twodowntwotogo · 24/07/2024 11:54

Carefreebie · 24/07/2024 00:44

On the weekend my partner and I travelled to a friend's house for dinner. The journey was over an hour by train.

The main course was sausages with nice sides (potato salad, tomato salad, another salad). That was nice.

But desert was just strawberries with some pouring cream.

We had a nice time, but AIBU to feel that the desert was very low effort and unexciting, and should have been more exciting than strawberries given the journey?

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

YABU, an hour isn't that long to travel. If you lived in London it can take that long just to get across the city. It's nice you got to spend time with friends, and fresh strawberries with cream is a lovely dessert.

Freakwave897 · 24/07/2024 11:53

yes they would, but they're not low carb

A roasted Mediterranean veg salad is not low carb?

Who says they all have to be low carb anyway?

Pinkelephant66 · 24/07/2024 11:51

It’s having a friend over for dinner, not Come Dine With Me

KatiesMumWoof · 24/07/2024 11:51

Freakwave897 · 24/07/2024 11:37

Greek dill lemon potato salad, cous cous salad, chick pea salad, roasted Mediterranean veg salad, all with fresh herbs and great dressings; something like a honey, lemon, mustard dressing would go well with sausages.

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@Freakwave897 yes they would, but they're not low carb.

@LuckySantangelo35

Mostly I have pasta type bowl with a lot of 'green' in the base (usually rocket & watercress) with cucumber, pepper 🫑, radish, some kind of small, on the vine, tomatoes (not too many as higher in carbs) some olive oil & ground pepper, with a selection of gherkins, pickled onions, pickled cauli and occasionally as a treat (go me 🤣🤣) beetroot. Topped with cubed cheese and sausages sliced (if they make it that far!!) oh & Heinz or Hellman's vegan 'mayo' or a dip type thing.

i have it down to a fine Art.

NotSoNo · 24/07/2024 11:50

I think you sound really ungrateful

BeachParty · 24/07/2024 11:48

rainfordays · 24/07/2024 11:48

I think poached pears are a real treat and would be delighted 😂 what do people have against fruit for dessert?!

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Yeah, that post baffled me as well 😂