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Travelled to friend's house for dinner, just strawberries for desert - AIBU to think it's low effort?

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Carefreebie · 24/07/2024 00:44

On the weekend my partner and I travelled to a friend's house for dinner. The journey was over an hour by train.

The main course was sausages with nice sides (potato salad, tomato salad, another salad). That was nice.

But desert was just strawberries with some pouring cream.

We had a nice time, but AIBU to feel that the desert was very low effort and unexciting, and should have been more exciting than strawberries given the journey?

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

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Cinocino · 24/07/2024 15:11

J97King · 24/07/2024 14:59

I recently drove my daughter a long trip to see a family member. I stayed at a Premier inn so not to put them out (they had a baby several months earlier) but they invited us to have dinner there. This was planned in advance - they checked we would be OK with the main course. But there was no dessert at all. I was pretty stumped - it felt unwelcoming. Strawberries and cream would have been lovely!

Fucking hell.

Sparrowball · 24/07/2024 15:08

A baby that's only months old and no dessert? Maybe you should report them to social services?

🙄🙄🙄🙄

readingismycardio · 24/07/2024 15:00

J97King · 24/07/2024 14:59

I recently drove my daughter a long trip to see a family member. I stayed at a Premier inn so not to put them out (they had a baby several months earlier) but they invited us to have dinner there. This was planned in advance - they checked we would be OK with the main course. But there was no dessert at all. I was pretty stumped - it felt unwelcoming. Strawberries and cream would have been lovely!

Do you by any chance remember life with a baby?

J97King · 24/07/2024 14:59

I recently drove my daughter a long trip to see a family member. I stayed at a Premier inn so not to put them out (they had a baby several months earlier) but they invited us to have dinner there. This was planned in advance - they checked we would be OK with the main course. But there was no dessert at all. I was pretty stumped - it felt unwelcoming. Strawberries and cream would have been lovely!

DamnYerEyes · 24/07/2024 14:49

DamnYerEyes · 24/07/2024 14:47

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

Maybe she found your three course dinner too much and just wanted a more relaxed get together at hers.

You really aren't coming across well OP Shock

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DamnYerEyes · 24/07/2024 14:47

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

Maybe she found your three course dinner too much and just wanted a more relaxed get together at hers.

You really aren't coming across well OP Shock

JustMeSammy · 24/07/2024 14:33

I find it a bit odd how many people are saying that they don't eat dessert so the OP wouldn't get anything. I never eat dessert either, but if hosting I would definitely make one! That's an entirely different scenario?

ruethewhirl · 24/07/2024 14:16

Cinocino · 24/07/2024 14:01

Maybe OP is the same poster as the one who was fuming that her fun and charismatic friend won their come dine with me game but served pizza.

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Ooh, was that a recent thread? Sounds fun... 😄

Cinocino · 24/07/2024 14:01

Canonlythinkofthisone · 24/07/2024 13:54

😂thanks for the giggle. Yes the company is literally special, it's the only reason I go to see friends in fact. If I wanted posh grub, I'd book a restaurant.

Clearly, you've spent so long in a kitchen rustling up something spectacular that you forgot to make any friends, is there a recipe for a personality you could try?

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Maybe OP is the same poster as the one who was fuming that her fun and charismatic friend won their come dine with me game but served pizza.

Rowen32 · 24/07/2024 13:59

An hour isn't that far to travel.. I've been to super nice restaurants/hotels in summer season and that's one of the desserts

Canonlythinkofthisone · 24/07/2024 13:54

Windchiming · 24/07/2024 12:52

Why spoilt? You mean sausages and potato are spoiling someone.
I do think it's low effort when someone makes effort to visit you from far. When they do, OP shows the appreciation for the efforts they make for the visit by making effort in food department.
Op, next time provide them low effort meals too. Because if their company alone is so special when you visit them, yours should also be.

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😂thanks for the giggle. Yes the company is literally special, it's the only reason I go to see friends in fact. If I wanted posh grub, I'd book a restaurant.

Clearly, you've spent so long in a kitchen rustling up something spectacular that you forgot to make any friends, is there a recipe for a personality you could try?

betterangels · 24/07/2024 13:46

I do think it's low effort when someone makes effort to visit you from far.

An hour isn't that far. Regardless, you should go see friends for their company, surely, and not for the food.

DancingLions · 24/07/2024 13:44

Well, off the back of this thread I just picked up some strawberries and cream for my pudding tonight! Thanks OP 👍

ruethewhirl · 24/07/2024 13:41

Sausages are also processed. How about cooking a bit?

How about not judging other women on their culinary prowess or apparent lack thereof? Y'know, it being 2024 and all that.

betterangels · 24/07/2024 13:41

holju · 24/07/2024 11:58

If you're just nipping next door expect no more than a half empty jar of nutella and a spoon.

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My own glass and spoon, and it's grand!

TheKeatingFive · 24/07/2024 13:30

What was your expectation OP?

VeryHappyBunny · 24/07/2024 13:25

The only time strawberries would be problem is if you have an allergy. I don't have cream so I would have my strawberries with Cointreau. As long as there is plenty of both I am happy.

WhereDidItG0 · 24/07/2024 13:23

Are you someone's MIL by any chance?

WednesburyUnreasonable · 24/07/2024 13:22

I don’t think it’s unfair not to be rapturous over the classic unprocessed elegance of strawberries and cream (I’d find it unexciting too, but I am half Middle Eastern so inherently vulgar by the standards of 1920s aristocrats), but the attitude towards your friends for making a simple dessert IS unfair and is something I’d reflect on.

ruethewhirl · 24/07/2024 13:21

Windchiming · 24/07/2024 12:52

Why spoilt? You mean sausages and potato are spoiling someone.
I do think it's low effort when someone makes effort to visit you from far. When they do, OP shows the appreciation for the efforts they make for the visit by making effort in food department.
Op, next time provide them low effort meals too. Because if their company alone is so special when you visit them, yours should also be.

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Ironically, you summed it up in your last sentence. It should be the company that matters. You sound very preoccupied with food (and also like you don't travel much, if you think an hour on the train is 'far').

Silvers11 · 24/07/2024 13:16

TinDogTavern · 24/07/2024 00:56

You travelled a whole hour? To see people you like? Who prepared a two course meal for you? And both courses were nice?

The BASTARDS. Go No Contact immediately.

😂😂😂

Brilliant!! Sums it up nicely!!

TriesNotToBeCynical · 24/07/2024 13:14

As long as there was bucket loads of cream (and sugar) I'd be well satisfied with strawberries and cream. It's not the effort, it's the result that counts.

Duckswaddle · 24/07/2024 13:13

You’re a right bellend aren’t you.

yikesanotherbooboo · 24/07/2024 13:07

Strawberries are a perfect and classy summertime pudding. There is only a shortish season and they epitomise a British summer. I would have been delighted to be given them. I'm not sure what your issue really is apart from possibly wanting some obvious sign of graft. Many people I know buy tarts or similar for pudding which is equally low effort ( more so as no hulling required).

Cinocino · 24/07/2024 13:07

Windchiming · 24/07/2024 12:54

Sausages are also processed. How about cooking a bit?

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How about socialising with the people you have invited over to spend time with you?