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Travelled to friend's house for dinner, just strawberries for desert - AIBU to think it's low effort?

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Carefreebie · 24/07/2024 00:44

On the weekend my partner and I travelled to a friend's house for dinner. The journey was over an hour by train.

The main course was sausages with nice sides (potato salad, tomato salad, another salad). That was nice.

But desert was just strawberries with some pouring cream.

We had a nice time, but AIBU to feel that the desert was very low effort and unexciting, and should have been more exciting than strawberries given the journey?

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

OP posts:
smooththecat · 24/07/2024 01:58

Don’t come to my place because I don’t like dessert and rarely do it.

BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 01:57

@Sparrowball I 'expect' what I would provide for others. So I was describing what I would ideally like/ do myself. But everyone is different. I was being a bit tongue in cheek. As I assume was the nature of the post?

YapYapMeow · 24/07/2024 01:57

A state banquet with white tie dress code is mandatory in that case.

And have an orchestra for background music.

Grin
ThatAgileGoldMoose · 24/07/2024 01:56

Come to mine and I'll treat yer to a Greggs bake with Iceland crinkly chips and a Viennetta 👌

OptimismvsRealism · 24/07/2024 01:56

I am always secretly annoyed when pouring cream comes out instead of whipped.

BlackeyedSusan · 24/07/2024 01:53

Could have been macaroni cheese as a main a d pom bears for a starter...

Yourdemonsyourproblem · 24/07/2024 01:50

Sausages and potatoes is low effort why would you expect the desert to be different

Bellsandthistle · 24/07/2024 01:48

What did you bring?
Maybe they found it quite rude that you didn’t even bother to bring a pie.

SheilaWilde · 24/07/2024 01:46

You must live a very sedentary life if you think travelling an hour 'on the weekend' is a long journey. My daily commute is an hour each way.

You're also incredibly rude to critique her choice of food, it's your friend's house not a restaurant. What did you take with you to thank her for hosting?

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/07/2024 01:46

SquidgeyB · 24/07/2024 00:59

Well I had friends over at the weekend and made sausages with salads and strawberries and cream.....feeling quite hurt at this post!!

Did your visitors travel by train to you ?

I love a sausage personally

And strawberries

Sparrowball · 24/07/2024 01:43

YapYapMeow · 24/07/2024 01:41

'Over an hour' on a train. that's hardly a long journey.

My friends are travelling for about 20 hours to visit me in a few weeks. I wonder what they're expecting to eat. 🤣

A state banquet with white tie dress code is mandatory in that case.

And have an orchestra for background music.

YapYapMeow · 24/07/2024 01:41

'Over an hour' on a train. that's hardly a long journey.

My friends are travelling for about 20 hours to visit me in a few weeks. I wonder what they're expecting to eat. 🤣

Sparrowball · 24/07/2024 01:41

BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 01:35

Even if it was a BBQ, I'd hope for burgers, chicken etc as well as sausages and salad? Desserts don't bother me much and I love having fruit salad at someone's house, but usually a few fruit chopped up so a bit more effort.

But strawberries in season are lovely, and some people hate making puddings. If I was like that I'd ask guests to bring dessert. But overall it does sound somewhat low effort food wise.

They could've served cheeses if the pudding (ahem..and main) were modest?
Even from lidls, nothing fancy if there are fiscal issues on their side. That's no effort but still tasty.

Was there enough booze? Was it fun overall, good convo? Was the food you did have tasty and plentiful? Did they have good music? Were the hosts very present, and did everyone feel included? Was their home pleasant?

If yes to most of those I'd let them off. But just know to eat before I go round theirs next time!

Gosh, you really don't expect much!

Friendship shouldn't be conditional on your friend's cooking, entertaining and housekeeping abilities.

NotAgainWilson · 24/07/2024 01:36

Good grief, if you had come to my house you would have got a freshly defrosted cheese cake from Iceland, with no shame or apologies. Or,

I would have suggested dinning out not to have too cook for you at that level of expectation.

BobbyBiscuits · 24/07/2024 01:35

Even if it was a BBQ, I'd hope for burgers, chicken etc as well as sausages and salad? Desserts don't bother me much and I love having fruit salad at someone's house, but usually a few fruit chopped up so a bit more effort.

But strawberries in season are lovely, and some people hate making puddings. If I was like that I'd ask guests to bring dessert. But overall it does sound somewhat low effort food wise.

They could've served cheeses if the pudding (ahem..and main) were modest?
Even from lidls, nothing fancy if there are fiscal issues on their side. That's no effort but still tasty.

Was there enough booze? Was it fun overall, good convo? Was the food you did have tasty and plentiful? Did they have good music? Were the hosts very present, and did everyone feel included? Was their home pleasant?

If yes to most of those I'd let them off. But just know to eat before I go round theirs next time!

Callmemel · 24/07/2024 01:35

I love a dinner party, with decent wines and curated menus, carefully selected cheeses etc. but this obviously wasn't that occasion!

For a casual summer gathering, sausages with fresh salads and strawberries and cream sounds fine really. The distance you travelled isn't really relevant.

Wahine24 · 24/07/2024 01:34

When your friend finds out about this thread, I don't think you are going to have to worry about going back again ......
You sound ungrateful and rude

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/07/2024 01:34

Sparrowball · 24/07/2024 01:30

Snap!

I was typing as you posted, maybe we should all contact Wimbledon? I'm sure they'd understand the gravity of the situation. 🤣

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I'm sure they will want to up their game immediately!

Can't be thought of as boring

Galoop · 24/07/2024 01:33

I don't care what my friend serves as long as it's tasty and there's enough if it and most importantly they have wine! I agree strawberries are a bit lame, next time offer to bring dessert.

Meadowfinch · 24/07/2024 01:31

Strawberries are a classic summer dessert.

You are absurdly ungrateful, as well as ignorant of the fact that many people don't want their lovely fresh fruit adulterated with a lot of unnecessary sugary rubbish.

If you were my guest, you wouldn't be invited again.

Elphamouche · 24/07/2024 01:30

Wow. An hour isn’t that far!

YABVU

Sparrowball · 24/07/2024 01:30

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/07/2024 01:27

Uh oh better tell Wimbledon their food choices aren't exciting enough...

Also this makes me want Strawberries and cream. Haven't had any this summer yet but I love it as a little treat after a meal!

Snap!

I was typing as you posted, maybe we should all contact Wimbledon? I'm sure they'd understand the gravity of the situation. 🤣

Appledoughnut · 24/07/2024 01:28

It's strawberry season. They are delicious right now.

Sparrowball · 24/07/2024 01:28

The OP complains about strawberries and cream and some posters complain about the fact she was given sausages, or that they were served with salad. We even have one asking were they cooked on a pan!

OP, you should contact Wimbledon and tell them to up their game.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/07/2024 01:27

Uh oh better tell Wimbledon their food choices aren't exciting enough...

Also this makes me want Strawberries and cream. Haven't had any this summer yet but I love it as a little treat after a meal!