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Travelled to friend's house for dinner, just strawberries for desert - AIBU to think it's low effort?

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Carefreebie · 24/07/2024 00:44

On the weekend my partner and I travelled to a friend's house for dinner. The journey was over an hour by train.

The main course was sausages with nice sides (potato salad, tomato salad, another salad). That was nice.

But desert was just strawberries with some pouring cream.

We had a nice time, but AIBU to feel that the desert was very low effort and unexciting, and should have been more exciting than strawberries given the journey?

When my friend came to mine, I did a 3-course meal, feeling I should make a big effort because of her long journey.

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BeachParty · 24/07/2024 11:03

5128gap · 24/07/2024 06:31

I once went to dinner at my friends and she served poached pear for dessert. It had taken us 78 minutes to get there because a lorry had shed its load on the M6. Which I suppose wasn't my friends fault. But still.

What on earth's wrong with poached pears?!
Sounds lovely.
What dessert is acceptable for a 78 minute trip that involved a pesky lorry?
Also what dessert for a 40 minute trip? 30?
We need some kind of spreadsheet for travel timings and acceptable sweet treats.
This thread's mad 😂

diktat · 24/07/2024 11:02

LuckySantangelo35 · 24/07/2024 10:16

What kind of salad do you have with the sausages?

id like to try this as a low carb dinner but sausages with lettuce or usual salad type stuff sounds rank.

That's where my brain went, strawberries and cream is one of the few desserts I can have on low carb 😂

Lavenderblossoms · 24/07/2024 11:01

Wow how ungrateful.

ladyvimes · 24/07/2024 11:01

I am craving strawberries and cream now.

NippyCrab · 24/07/2024 10:57

NeverEnoughPants · 24/07/2024 10:54

You can't beat British (or better yet Scottish) strawberries in season. Sausage and salad sounds odd as a combination - if I was to be a bit taken again by anything it would be that, but I certainly wouldn't be ungrateful enough to post about it online or tbh even give it a second thought.

It sounds like she's eating reasonably healthily, and has no interest in compromising that for a guest. You on the other hand sound like you are high maintenance.

The strawberries are delicious at the moment aren't they, we got a couple of punnets at our local fruit stall on Monday, even the supermarket ones are good. I've had them everyday for breakfast. Scottish straws mwah we love you 😍

NippyCrab · 24/07/2024 10:56

I think the OP won't be returning because her poor friend was so obviously on here unless that post was a joke.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/07/2024 10:55

Sounds really nice!

Pudding is always a bit of an after thought at a dinner party really - I’d want to do nice mains and make sure everyone had drinks they like, but who goes to dinner wondering what the pudding will be?

Guests often bring a pudding too.

You mainly go for the company of course but I would think pudding is the least important bit of the food

NeverEnoughPants · 24/07/2024 10:54

You can't beat British (or better yet Scottish) strawberries in season. Sausage and salad sounds odd as a combination - if I was to be a bit taken again by anything it would be that, but I certainly wouldn't be ungrateful enough to post about it online or tbh even give it a second thought.

It sounds like she's eating reasonably healthily, and has no interest in compromising that for a guest. You on the other hand sound like you are high maintenance.

SummerDays2020 · 24/07/2024 10:50

Meals have to differ in complexity depending on how far you've travelled? Who knew?

Simple food is often the best. I love strawberries and cream!

I'm glad I'm not your friend, though. I go to my friend's houses because I want to see them and I couldn't care less how much effort they put into the food!

luckylavender · 24/07/2024 10:49

Sounds lovely to me. But I would have skipped the cream. I hate heavy desserts.

FeralSpoonie · 24/07/2024 10:49

TheRakesTale · 24/07/2024 10:42

FFS that is so pathetic

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More pathetic than your ‘actually it’s pudding’ comment when you must know desert is a perfectly common word used by millions of people and equally acceptable as pudding…?

vickylou78 · 24/07/2024 10:49

Wow this is so ungrateful!! Someone hosts you for dinner and your moaning the dessert wasn't extravagant enough! Really! Maybe your friend stupidly thought it was about spending time together? And didn't realise they were being judged!

Lovemusic82 · 24/07/2024 10:47

Who eats sausages with salad?

Strawberries and cream seems fine, it’s strawberry season and British strawberries taste amazing. I would prefer them in a pavlova but on their own with cream is fine.

PassingStranger · 24/07/2024 10:45

Orders76 · 24/07/2024 00:47

That sounds like a weird thing to pick on. Strawberries and cream are expensive and delicious, as well as being low processing.
Personally I visit friends if I want, and don't expect to be fed in relation to journey,!

On season,,Strawberries ate not expensive.

KatiesMumWoof · 24/07/2024 10:44

Geiyotue · 24/07/2024 07:28

Oh come on. I actually like strawberries so no complaints there, but sausages? I rarely serve sausages at home and if I do it's a "oh fuck it's late and we've got no food in and I can't be bothered to cook" kind of thing from the emergency pack in the freezer, with beans and chips. Kids' food. Perfectly comforting for a can't-be-arsed meal if we are desperate but definitely not something on my regular meals list.

I would raise an eyebrow at a friend serving me that, and sausages don't go with salad (which is also not a meal)!

A quick pasta dish would be better.

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@Geiyotue sausages & salad DO go together just fine. As a low carb vegetarian it's a regular feature for dinner here, obviously vegetarian sausages (cauldron if anyone's curious)

whatsappdoc · 24/07/2024 10:44

It's all I can do to make DP say 'dessert' instead of 'afters'. Don't think I cba to upgrade to 'pudding'.

TheRakesTale · 24/07/2024 10:42

FeralSpoonie · 24/07/2024 10:41

I expect she’s pointing out how keen you are to make sure everyone on the thread thinks you’re posh.

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FFS that is so pathetic

FeralSpoonie · 24/07/2024 10:41

TheRakesTale · 24/07/2024 10:30

Pudding is the correct term in my circles. I am not being rude.
Please explain what you mean by 'trying to be someone I am not'. It's fascinating

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I expect she’s pointing out how keen you are to make sure everyone on the thread thinks you’re posh.

NoSnowdrop · 24/07/2024 10:37

I wouldn’t have fancied sausages with salad but you just have to gracefully accept the food you were given.

It’s not worth feeling disgruntled about. We’re all different and you go all out with a theee course extravaganza and your friend doesn’t, it’s fine.

whatsappdoc · 24/07/2024 10:34

Some women are never happy unless another woman has spent hours shopping, cooking and cleaning. Come on op, if this had been a male host (non-chef) would you have complained or would you have thought he did really well?

InsomniacA · 24/07/2024 10:34

KatiesMumWoof · 24/07/2024 09:50

@InsomniacA

they can be, all that dancing in the bowl! 🤣🤣

(I too have an iPhone that thinks lovely should always be lively)

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Yes, my iPhone is quite creative. And insistent.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there were an Edit Post option, such as on Reddit?

JSMill · 24/07/2024 10:30

That sounds lovely. Anyway, isn't having a meal with friends about the company rather than the food?

TheRakesTale · 24/07/2024 10:30

KatiesMumWoof · 24/07/2024 10:28

@TheRakesTale you are rude & trying too hard to be something you're not

no class at all.

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Pudding is the correct term in my circles. I am not being rude.
Please explain what you mean by 'trying to be someone I am not'. It's fascinating

KatiesMumWoof · 24/07/2024 10:28

TheRakesTale · 24/07/2024 06:11

Actually, it is pudding

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@TheRakesTale you are rude & trying too hard to be something you're not

no class at all.

hot2trotter · 24/07/2024 10:28

This has got to he a wind up

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