Friend thinks I've been "sneaky " am I wrong?

BeckiBoBecki · 30/07/2024 23:07

redredridingout · 23/07/2024 18:25

It's my best friends 30th birthday
She is having afternoon tea on Saturday for her close friends and then a party on the night.
She invited my friend (who comes on nights out with us ) to the party on the night.
She doesn't meet my friend alone only with me.
My friend lives 45 mins away from us and 1 hour from party venue and also doesn't know anybody but me and my best friend at this party.
So I said she could stay at my house to save taxi fare and I would drop her off next day.

I've decided I'm just going to go to the afternoon tea and skip the night party - so text friend saying I wasn't going now.
Friend is annoyed saying she can't go without me going as she knows nobody and it's too far for her to get home /has bought friend gift and bought an outfit.
Surely that's not my problem?
And should be up to me if I don't go
Aibu ?

Yep, you're the asshole.

Every1sanXpert · 28/07/2024 18:07

Fairly new to MN. What’s a reverse?

Createausername1970 · 28/07/2024 10:00

Don't know whether it's a reverse, but it's a shit thing to do to a friend. There is nothing "sneaky" about it, it's blatant selfishness and inconsideration. It would probably end the friendship for me.

I would post the present to the bride and tell her that I was looking forward to coming but "friend" let me down.

Emmz1510 · 28/07/2024 09:32

Yabu- flaky and awkward IMO. Why would you invite someone to stay so you can both attend a party and then pull out of the party?

JMSA · 28/07/2024 06:40

YABU. Just stick to the original plan.

Busynana2024 · 28/07/2024 06:38

But is she still able to stay with you? Couldnt she get a taxi from your house to the party and back again, you did tell her she could stay!

ForGreyKoala · 28/07/2024 05:51

PaminaMozart · 23/07/2024 23:12

Selfish in expecting her to drive for hours, late at night, after attending a wedding? I'm not sure any hotel, however nice, could make up for this...

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Where did she say her bf "expected" her to drive for hours??? She could have turned down the offer of a night in the hotel, but said "we" decided to stay. Some women do have minds of their own you know.

CountessWindyBottom · 27/07/2024 19:15

FFS 😂

Victoriancat · 27/07/2024 18:43

Of course its your problem, you sound an arse

BowlOfNoodles · 24/07/2024 01:25

Delphiniumandlupins · 24/07/2024 01:24

A 'reverse' post appears to be from Person A when in reality they are Person B in the story. So, the OP might actually be the person who has been let down by a friend withdrawing from an offer of accommodation and company at an event at 4 days notice. They reveal in their OP that they are self-centred, inconsiderate and a really rubbish friend. The sympathy for the abandoned friend is greater than if she had posted complaining.

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Gotcha thank you x

Delphiniumandlupins · 24/07/2024 01:24

BowlOfNoodles · 23/07/2024 23:43

I'm still new to the site what do you all mean reverse posting?

A 'reverse' post appears to be from Person A when in reality they are Person B in the story. So, the OP might actually be the person who has been let down by a friend withdrawing from an offer of accommodation and company at an event at 4 days notice. They reveal in their OP that they are self-centred, inconsiderate and a really rubbish friend. The sympathy for the abandoned friend is greater than if she had posted complaining.

Jesusmaryjosephandtheweedon · 24/07/2024 00:33

Firstly why aren't you going to your "best friends" party? Secondly why are you letting a friend down after making plans with her and saying she could stay in your home.

Both are shitty things to do. Not things a good friend would do

NotSureWhatUsernameToChoose · 24/07/2024 00:09

Just waiting for the OP to come back (if she actually does) with the faux innocence of "What's a reverse?"

Truetoself · 23/07/2024 23:55

Are you sure it's your BEST friend's party? If so why would you not go... even if you don't fancy it.
You are letting your other friend down.

Normallynumb · 23/07/2024 23:53

YABU
You've let two friends down

MustBeGinOclock · 23/07/2024 23:52

Yes you are being unreasonable. I wouldn't be happy with you if you were my friend and I'd probably reconsider why I wanted to be friends with you atall.

BowlOfNoodles · 23/07/2024 23:43

I'm still new to the site what do you all mean reverse posting?

Galoop · 23/07/2024 23:42

You're also a crappy friend to not go to your best friends party. So I call BS on this thread.

Galoop · 23/07/2024 23:41

YABU and a crappy friend. Although the other friend should just go by herself and not rely on just your company.

paradisecircus · 23/07/2024 23:34

YABU but I also call reverse.

Viviennemary · 23/07/2024 23:28

YABU. You've spoilt things for your friend and the friend. And let down birthday friend. Pretty bad IMHO.

honestyISkind · 23/07/2024 23:19

Can she still stay at yours? If not, that's not sneaky but it's rotten to let her down like that.

Shinyandnew1 · 23/07/2024 23:19

You’re either a really crap friend or you’re posting reverses which is really annoying and usually banned. Which is it?

GogAndMagog · 23/07/2024 23:16

What, it is your best friend's 30th birthday, and you are going to the afternoon tea only but not the night out??? So you let down best friend and your other friend.

Soon you'll have no friends. You are a self absorbed misery guts.

PaminaMozart · 23/07/2024 23:12

Delphiniumandlupins · 23/07/2024 23:04

I'm guessing she fancied a night in a nice hotel with her bf (not sure why you're calling him "selfish").

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Selfish in expecting her to drive for hours, late at night, after attending a wedding? I'm not sure any hotel, however nice, could make up for this...