Been told my child is very weird and childish

Her child might be being excluded from parties or it might just seem like that as she’s not that popular. Which happens for many reasons. Many kids exist of the fringe of friendship groups - especially girls - and as a mother that’s painful to see.

Maybe OP has took this wonderful opinion to heart and taken the word of a 10 year old girl as gospel.

There is nothing wrong with this child.

Believe me, once she gets to high school, you tend to mature fast anyway when you have the peer pressure around you! You might end up yearning for her ten year old self.

I think kids grow up way too fast these days, as it is. They are exposed to too much, too young.

Let her be herself. If you want her to mature a bit then maybe give her some responsibilities that only she can do so she feels a bit adult like. But just let her enjoy herself. She's only ten. :-(

Ignore the nasty woman.

Do you know ALL children find this annoying or just your kid?

Have you ever read a year 6 class group chat - as that’s full of weird shit.

I think op is best placed to know whether her child is being excluded by her peers or not.
She doesn't seem to disagree with the other Mum's opinion.

I absolutely agree schools can be bad at missing autism in girls - both of mine were 'fine in school' but they were far from isolated cases that the school didn't pick up.

I have poor social intuition and so do my dds and there are some really nice social groups out there with coaches and it's building the understanding of what's going on when you might not have the intuition or be reading the clues.

One of the great things about an ND diagnosis is the ND friendship groups that are run, much higher level of acceptance than normal.

@Suzieandthemonkeyfeet Posters are suggesting the OP at least consider it, based on their experiences with their own autistic children and the fact that the DD’s behaviour rings loud bells for some of us.

Really? If a 10yo was behaving like this then I too would be telling my dc to just not engage. In fact there's a child like this in dc class and you know what, he doesn't really have firm friends. Children do find this annoying.

It was an opinion and not a fact. This is going off what a 10 year old kid said to her mum.

Some kids are always on edge of friendship groups - one of mine was the same. Doesn’t mean she was ostracised for a specific reason - just that she wasn’t popular enough to make the cut for every party. And in year 5/6 the parties really get whittled down.

Its ridiculous that posters are suggest that OP kid is fucking autistic of the back of what a 10 year old kid said.

Op clearly isn't arguing that her dd isn't being excluded and not invited to parties.
She'd know perfectly well if this wasn't in fact true.

Why don’t you try reading the thread. OP already told her daughter to stop and she won’t as she finds it funny. OP is concerned as the daughter is left out and not invited to things and this Mum has told her why. Do you really think kids secondary school are going to entertain ‘I like poop’ when lots of girls are starting to go through puberty and get periods? It’s too immature and needs ironing out before she goes to high school or she’ll be even more socially excluded

No, the other mum mentioned it. Off the back of what her dd said. I’ve three girls and girls can be fucking mean to each other. I take all the shit I get told after school with a pinch of salt because friendship groups change daily.

No way would I repeat this back to a mum.

I wasn't there, no...
But from the op - it was said to help me understand why other kids don’t want DD around it invite her to birthday parties

ffs!

The people that are suggesting SN are weird!

This kid is still finding herself. Give her a break! We don’t all mature and follow the in crowd at the same rate.

OP if you’re still reading this - just tell her to quit it with the poop talk. She most likely hasn’t got additional needs. I worked with kids for over 10 years and honestly most of them were bat shit. I see them out and about and they are all grown up and fine.

Your DD just hasn’t found her people yet, secondary school will open up a new life for her

She will be enjoying the attention she is getting from it, whether it's good attention or bad

People need to stop reacting

Op wouldn’t be concerned and speaking to another mum about why her daughter isn’t invited or included if it was just one child finding her silly.
Op sounds very on the ball and caring. Much kinder to look into things now not just dismiss it as other mum was being mean/all the other kids are being awful to her.

That Mum was very blunt and a bit unkind but I had to do similar once when a Mum in DS year asked me if I knew why nobody would play with her son.
He was really really annoying and very imature for Y6. While he wasn't being actively bullied the other kids tended to vanish in the playground when they saw him coming. I hope I did it as kindly as possible, she didn't fall out with me or anything.
If your DD is still behaving like that in Y7 OP she might have a really tough time.
Its all very well the kids being themselves but sometimes we all need to dial it back a bit at least while we are getting to know people.

I'm not normally one for pushing diagnosis labels first thing...but OP, I must admit your daughter does sound socially awkward and immature.
Does she show other signs of autism?

How do you know? Were you there?

Or was it one girl who said EVERYBODY thinks she’s weird and her mum JUST had to mention it. They sound like two peas in a pod.

Why on earth would you say anything it’s just mean.

Kids are no one borg. And I’m glad of that. Who wants their kid to act like every single other one?

Kids should be silly and weird as growing up takes all the fun out of life.

I’d pick weird over a card board cut out any day

I think the other parent was kind to let you know what was happening, as you had concerns about your DD being socially excluded. Not being in the classroom with them, it's almost impossible to work out how things are playing out when you've only your DD's impressions to go on.

My eldest was very late receiving ASD diagnosis and in rettospect it made sense of so much, so don't assume a school SEN worker will be that up to snuff on things.

I hope looking for SaLT support is successful. You sound a lovely, caring mum who wants the best for your daughter.

Beyond this in fact, as in OP’s case, other kids actively avoid her child because of this behaviour

Hello OP, my son does very similar and he's 14, with diagnosed ADHD and ASD. He is very mature in other ways as he could also spend a long time talking to you about complex things like the political situation in the middle east. He has had a fascination for 💩 for as long as I can remember and would do the types of things that you described in your post, make repetitive comments about 💩 and continue to do so no matter how many times I tried to explain that it wasn't appropriate, going to make him friends or get him a good reputation. The repetitive and immature nature, as well as the not being able to get through to your daughter struck a chord with me.
I would definitely say don't let a SENCO stop you thinking about neurodiversity. To be honest they are not experts and often have both minimal experience and training. If your daughter has any other traits, behaviours or challenges - do your own research and see if they fit - go back to the SENCO with your reasons and case for the referral. Girls definitely present differently and often go under the radar for a long time.
Autistic girls network and ADHD foundation are good places to start. If things start making sense in terms of traits, build a case to ask the SENCO for a referral for an assessment.
Do also request a referral to SaLT from the SENCO.

So the children don't laugh or react when she says it?

I understand you want to talk to her and reading on (it's a long thread) can see she has been excluded from some parties. I'm sorry to hear that.

Is it possible to e mail her teacher with concerns and ask for some support/advice. I appreciate you may have broken up from school now.

Argh…this is such a difficult situation, OP. Does your daughter have a friendship group at all?

Maybe in Year 1, but not going into Year 6.

But nobody's laughing. There's no encouragement.