Been told my child is very weird and childish

Not very nice of another Mum to speak about a child in this way!

The thing is neurodivergence in girls can often go unnoticed by schools especially if they do fine academically.

I think some other children might have called me immature or silly at age 10, but no one would have said ND because I was academically bright.

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD (he is 10 in fact) - I strongly suspect that I also have it and am on the waiting list for an assessment. They say that kids with ADHD are emotionally 2-4 years less mature than their peers.

The OP questioned her dds immaturity- tbe school said she is fine
Op has seen enough of her own daughter's behaviour to be concerned. I imagine she knows her better than anyone at school, or you.

None of that would happen, she'd just think op was a total weirdo 🙄

All the best people were weird and childish at 10. The problem is the other Mum.

Nowt wrong with your daughter but everything wr9ng with the school mum. Just say to her 'Oh really, I heard them say the same about you!' Do a tinkly laugh and a little head tilt towards the playground & watch the colour drain from her face.

One half of her brain will think you're lying but the other half will panic in case you're right. But she can't ask anyone so you'll have properly fucked with her head over the summer.

It’s not ironic I just don’t have my specs on and I’m 3 hours ahead of U.K. so it’s late here 😆

The OP questioned her dds immaturity- tbe school said she is fine.

But as we know MN is a haven for arm chair diagnostics so of course posters will say the school is wrong!

And I see what you did there regarding me having an issue with children with autism.. Nope again… I worked with kids for over a decade ( see above message) Most NT kids were bat shit, I also worked with kids with SN. It just makes my teeth itch when posters label kids when they have zero diagnostic skills or real information …. Oh wait we have a 10 year olds word 🙈

^^

She's fine.
Tell that Mum to keep her opinions to herself.

PS FWIW my daughter did Rainbows, Brownies and Guides. It was just somewhere else she stood out a bit, not so much in Rainbows but the other two...even the Brown Owl commented about her being different.

I feel for you, I have a late August daughter and she has struggled with school because of the maturity difference. Academically she's always been fine. I think she would have been young for her age anyway but the gap was so noticable...wish she'd been born a few days later!

Good grief. At least read the OPs posts and updates. You couldn't be more wrong

Ironic you’re suggesting I’m illiterate whilst using the wrong ‘your’ 🙄 you seem to still not have read the thread. OP seemed to think her daughter may have special needs, the school said she didn’t and others have just reassured her that the school could be wrong. There’s nothing wrong with that, unless you have something against autism give how hellbent you are on OP’s daughter not having it.

It’s not just the poo though that’s one example. Sencos don’t observe children for no reason and mums don’t ask other mums why dc hasn’t been included unless they are concerned.
I have over 30 girls weekly as a volunteer leader and they are definitely not the too grown up/tik tok variety.
Ops daughter immediately brought X who used to come to mind. On a walk one week she went on and on about diarrhoea to point no one wanted to walk with her missing all social clues to change the subject. I walked with her and she sadly told me no one in her class would play with her - not even the boys and her cousins wouldn’t play with her. Surely it’s better for mum to know than school mum say I’ve no idea why Katie hasn’t been invited to a party all year.

I think you may have a misunderstanding of what feral means - unless your saying I’m
an animal 😆 Apologies if your illiterate!

But if you’d bothered to read the thread you’d see I did suggest OP tell her dd to quit it on the poop talk 🫠

What I do have an issue with is posters telling a mum her child is autistic of the back of what a 10 year old child said.

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Are you normally so feral in your defence of a 10 year old talking about poo? Give it a rest, kids are fine having their own quirks and personalities but part of growing up is learning when certain topics are neither appropriate nor wanted. The other kids don’t want to talk about poo anymore.

But wait …. We’ve had 10 pages of autistic diagnosis..

@SnappyCroc calm down, don't get emotional.

Gosh! And we wouldn’t want our girls stepping out of societal norms would we .. I mean who would ever marry them ( clutches pearls)

Nah. Poo is more important 🙄

This is so OTT, it’s fine to tell your child to ‘modify their behaviour’ if it’s not talking about poo all the time. So dramatic

Don’t we all ? But at some point we need to teach our kids that not every group will
like them, they won’t always be the most popular and that our self worth is more important than ‘fitting in'

Girls can be savage to each other - school can be savage - but girls need to be told to march to the beat of their own drum.

Not modifying their behaviour to ‘blend in'

I’ve three girls. The pressure off social media to ‘be the same’ or ‘fit in’ has never been worse. This trickles down in to schools so even if they don’t have social media the pressure is still on from the kids that do.

My eldest is 28 - my youngest is 8 and it’s staggering the expectations the kids have on them now.

Going up to kids saying you like poo IS inappropriate. The others have grown out of it and don’t find it funny, so it’s socially inappropriate.

@SnappyCroc I think that's because they are taught by SM and the adults around them that fitting in is the goal.