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Been told my child is very weird and childish

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Gee54 · 23/07/2024 15:10

I don’t know where to go from here. I got told by a mum in my daughters class that people say she’s very silly and weird. My daughter is 10 years old. How can I fix this? Where to start from? She’s the eldest of 3 kids. I don’t want this to continue into secondary school. Not first time I’ve realised this but hearing someone else say it has upset me. I e spoken to her school and her lovely teacher but they all say it’s slightly immaturity but as a summer born (August birthday) it has been seen in others too. School don’t think it’s anything to worry about and the SEN lead observed her a few months back and said she’s fine and doesn’t think it’s anything ND related. It’s just hearing the mum say this today has upset me.

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Gee54 · 23/07/2024 15:22

She said her DD told her my DD goes up to people and says “I like Poop”, I know how silly this is and we have spoken about it. It’s a recent thing I would say around 5 months now she’s been talking a lot about poop etc. I’ve told her not to say these words and if she has to just to her close friends but she goes up to kids she doesn’t even know and tells them how much she likes poo etc.

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Mrsttcno1 · 23/07/2024 15:21

Octavia64 · 23/07/2024 15:18

What do they feel is the actual problem?

If they think she is silly and weird because they're all into make up and TikTok and she's into toys then that is one thing,

If they think she is silly and weird because she follows them around and imitates them etc that's a different story.

Why do they think she is silly and weird?

100% this. I do also think though that when you’re the oldest sibling (especially if close ish age gaps) you can seem to be a bit immature with your peers because you spend a lot of your time at home playing/interacting with your younger siblings.

ClockworkDisaster · 23/07/2024 15:21

Let her be weird and childish. Kids grow up too quickly. As long as she isn’t harming anyone with it then what does it matter?

I was a weird and childish child but at the same time could be trusted to be grown up and responsible when I needed to be.

I liked childish things for probably too long but my mum knew she could rely on me to be kind, polite and sensible. Which are the things that really matter. I never got myself into danger and could be very level headed in times of emergency.

cupcaske123 · 23/07/2024 15:19

That's a really unhelpful and vague comment.

Stressfordays · 23/07/2024 15:18

At 10 I wouldn't worry too much if it's just immaturity. She'll soon change. That last year at primary/first year of secondary marks a huge shift in maturity and they change fast.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/07/2024 15:18

I think the problem here is the other mum.Hmm

Octavia64 · 23/07/2024 15:18

What do they feel is the actual problem?

If they think she is silly and weird because they're all into make up and TikTok and she's into toys then that is one thing,

If they think she is silly and weird because she follows them around and imitates them etc that's a different story.

Why do they think she is silly and weird?

justdoingmyduty · 23/07/2024 15:16

She's just being a kid! Everyone is different. She is not the problem, it's the people around her that are the problem!

Octonaut4Life · 23/07/2024 15:14

It doesn't sound like you need to do anything. There's nothing wrong with your daughter, she's just apparently got some unkind kids (and parents) in her class. Just make sure she knows how great she really is.