Been told my child is very weird and childish

Have you sat down with her and explained that it's rude and simply not funny. Explain that it will make people think less of her if she keeps doing it and they will start to avoid her.. I think it won't make her less of an individual if she is not going up to unknown children talking about her love for excrement. Sometimes children need guidance on manners and I remember some real clangers I made as a child - I still wince at them - and wish I'd been warned.

Not sure about DD but Random Mum needs some social skills training!

I think it does matter, because if you get known as the silly weird kid then you get lonely quite quickly, as no-one will want to be seen being friendly with you for fear of being tarred with the same brush. I speak from experience because I was the silly weird kid myself. Eventually I noticed that all the other kids (esp girls) were turning away from me with looks of disdain and/or disgust, and modified my behaviour accordingly. It would have been doing me a favour for someone to spell it out to me before then tbh.

Hmmm. Just wondering if she's confused about sorming friendships or appropriate social interactions. I wonder if there is some immaturity in speech and language/social skills. If you can scrape together the money and can fine one, then I would recommend an assessment by a SALT followed by a short course of sessions giving her strategies on social communication. It does sound like she is quite immature in her underand this will knock on on her comprehension and inferential skills.

She probably finds people's reactions funny. Even teens do things for shock value cos it's the reaction they want.

I can't get over a grown adult saying something so spectacularly unhelpful, she's made it all the way to being an adult without learning manners!
Or was she trying to be constructive and supportive!?

And that’s wonderful… but she won’t have any friends.
Sometimes it is important to learn to regulate some of our impulses in order to actually have our school years without misery.

i have a late summer born - well end of July and she was youngest in her year. Reception teacher told me she was “childish” - she was Four! i made the point if she was 5 weeks younger she’d still be in nursery. She stayed young for her peer group until 6th form really but had a similar friend at secondary so it didn’t really affect her - she was happy being herself. how is your DD? is it bothering her or is it just you that is worried?

What I noticed is that in Y6 there are big ranges in the maturity of the girls.

My DD is autistic and she was still playing with her dolls in Y6. Now she is Y7 she has put her baby dolls aside but has got into Monster High dolls now. I read on here that people thought a 10 year old was too old for the playground. My DD is 12 and still plays in the playground. I'm happy for her to grow up at her own pace. Her best friend is on the same maturity level as her. They can be quite grown up at times - starting to like fashion and shopping and listening to music. But they still play together too.

I understand why you were upset, though. And being less mature doesn't make her weird! Keep an eye in case there are signs of ND. But other than that let her grow up at her own pace. Lots of Y7 will be on the young side too.

There's nothing special about talking to people you don't even know about poo, @tennesseewhiskey1
"Embracing" this nonsense is really not the way to go.

Honestly - so what if shes a bit weird? Aren’t we all in our own way? Embrace her silliness, her quirkiness. It’s what’s special about that girl. you don’t have a robot.

Have you explained to her that other people might not find that funny, that it’s a private thing rather than something we tell everybody in the playground about? My nephew went through a phase of being obsessed with talking about poo/pumps when he was 6/7 years old and after a conversation about boundaries and what was appropriate to talk about in school etc he dropped it

And what do you say? Have you talked about expected behaviour in certain situations and how she needs to manage certain impulses when in school because of how people are going to treat her?

You’re not to blame. Your daughter isn’t either. I would still be considering neurodiversity. Although her primary setting have discounted it, secondary school could well pick it up.

A 10 year old talking about poop is quite immature and I can see how other children her age would find her behaviour “weird”

a 4 year old running around giggling about poop is to be expected but not 10. Just keep remind her it’s silly talk and what babies do.

if she’s starting senior school in sept try and get as involved with other parents with children starting at the same time. There’s usually Fb groups etc. Arrange some group park get together to try and get your child surrounded by her new peers to ease her in to secondary school life.

Sorry op, but that actually is silly and weird. Have you told her to stop doing it?!

Took me straight back. We had very similar comments from school about our son, also young in year and also (in his case) quite a late developer. I was very upset at the time and was aware it was impacting his ability to make friends. He was also struggling to keep up academically. Things improved around time he started secondary and continued to do so. Now in second year of his degree at RG university and it's all a difficult but distant memory. Hope you have similar experience but in meantime, I know how you are feeling. X

Well, that is peculiar. Um… any reason why she does that? She is old enough to articulate her reasons.

It’s just that parents can tell their children to be kind and inclusive until they’re blue in the face, but kids won’t listen. Not when their peer is behaving very oddly. They just won’t. I know we are meant to tell our kids to just be themselves but at some point, there needs to be a discussion about protecting themselves from bullying and comments by behaving appropriately for the situation; like not going around talking about how much she likes “poop.”

That's a nasty thing to say to you by the other mum, especially without context or examples. Sounds like she said that for effect rather than out of concern.

What kind of idiot woman would say that people think their 10 year old is weird. She’s the bludy strange one! I mean no adult I know would say such a ridiculous thing. It’s the irony, it takes a weird to say that, at least DD is only 10!

I can't imagine what kind of a twat would think it's ok to say that to you.

My summer born was definitely more baby ish than others at this stage.

Is your daughter happy? That's all that matters.

My child IS silly and weird, but they do have ADHD.
There's nothing you can do and it was unkind of the person who told you to have mentioned it.