IVF in Spain and taking DS out of school

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ADreamIsAWishYourArseMakes · 23/07/2024 07:49

In early October I'm planning to abroad for an egg retrieval and freeze all cycle (they'll freeze my embryos for genetic testing before transfer). I'll need to be in Spain for 4 days before the procedure and DH will be joining me for a night or two to provide his sample. It is 5k cheaper to do IVF in Spain even with travel costs, I can't afford the cheapest clinic in the UK. For the (fingers crossed) transfer I'll go on my own for 2 nights.

DS is 5 and I'm weighing up if he should fly out with DH for a weeks holiday after the procedure. He can stay with grandparents for a few nights but I'm not sure how we'll feel at such a fraught time to be in a different country to him. We could fly back with him after 1/2 nights but that feels a bit mean. What would you do?

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WonderingWanda · 23/07/2024 08:09

I wouldn't take him, it will add all sorts of additional stress. Kids have a nasty habit of getting ill at the worst possible moments too. Good luck!

dbeuowlxb173939 · 23/07/2024 08:09

Do it, he's not going to miss much in a week when he's only 5. It'll probably do you all good to have some time to relax

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 23/07/2024 08:07

It is important to remember that the fines in England are increasing and if you have more than two sessions of unauthorised absence in three years it might go to court https://educationhub.blog.gov.uk/2024/02/29/fines-for-parents-for-taking-children-out-of-school-what-you-need-to-know/

Could you perhaps go for less than a week so not triggering a fine?

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Gatecrashermum · 23/07/2024 07:54

How will you manage trips to the IVF clinic with him? Can you and DH go separately - going with a small child may upset other people attending the clinic.

I'd also say is it fair to have him with you at such an emotionally fraught time? It might upset him? It might be easier and kinder on him to leave with grandparents so you and DH can focus on the IVF.

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ADreamIsAWishYourArseMakes · 23/07/2024 07:53

My cycle (probably) doesn't line up with half term, which is a shame

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PuttingDownRoots · 23/07/2024 07:51

I'm guessing it can't wait until half term?

Educationally... its not going to effect him. He's 5.
Legally in England... a weeks holiday will likely attract a fine.

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