If you live in a middle class area do you ever hear your neighbours argue?

Maybe everyone's doing that special sort of whisper shout that you do with your kids when you're out in public and you're absolutely livid with them. 🤣

"Tomaaaaaaa-o!!"

I'd forgotten about that & did a coffee snort when I read & remembered. Thanks for the morning chuckle ☺️

Also in defence of OP I can confirm that is a similar finding to my own.

What makes you middle class in your opinion? Because in my opinion if you are actually middle class it would be a faux pas to say that’s what you are, Just because you have the money to mortgage a property it doesn’t make you middle class..The photo of the style of property you like in looks pretty average..You get nice people in all walks of life and equally you get horrible people, it’s luck of the draw who you live next to and nothing to do with class. Did you mean to ask am I more likely to hear arguments living next to social housing, or in terraced properties or in scruffy properties or in a flat block, I don’t understand? Or if the people rent or own. In any case you don’t sound very nice.

I used to have this same fear when I was with my ex, he used to scream at me and I was mortified thinking people could hear.

Generally with the windows shut they won't hear.

I bet they thought you were a really decent person and a very good neighbour. ( Has made me laugh though )

I think you just made my day.

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The neighbours of my friend called the police after hearing her abusive husband shouting at her.

Very middle class, privately educated couple.
so it does happen.

Possibly you don’t hear because you aren’t constantly at home, or there’s more space between homes.

I live in a semi detached house in a very middle class area. I’ve never heard the neighbours argue. I occasionally hear the mum telling off the kids, but only faintly.

At our last house, same area, we did hear the neighbours arguing fairly regularly. Was good entertainment, as they made a holy
show of themselves. It was an older house with thinner walls.

Prior to all this, I lived in a working class area (the horror!!!!!) and didn’t hear any neighbours arguing. It was all quite sedate.

I guess where we live is middle class (it's just houses in a road that are worth a few hundred grand). I've heard a few neighbours having a shouting match over the years.

One neighbours teen daughter is a shouter.

I'm sure they've heard us too.

The snobbery is sickening. Working class here and never once have I had an argument the neighbours would be able to hear, how absolutely antisocial and uncouth. Money can’t buy class apparently.

When we moved to our current place 20 years ago, it was pretty quiet. Still is in fact. Yhe house over the back was a family home - husband, wife & 2 kids.

Wife & female teenager had a tempestuous & very reactive relationship, putting it mildly, and you could hear the daily arguing even when the windows were shut.
This went on for years. We did complain a couple of times as it was ridiculous - they were always at each other's throats. You never heard a male voice!

Eventually when they were arguing with the windows open & we were in the garden my mother said something along the lines of 'please shut up you're very tedious' which did shut them up - I guess they were surprised.
The husband came round and apologised to us for the noise.

Things eased when puberty passed. It was bloody annoying & I was shocked at the way the daughter talked to her mother.
I wouldn't have dared talk to my parents that way as a teenager.
However they were as bad as each other & you could hear how they were winding each other up.

The family is still there although the children have flown the nest. It has made me very mindful of conversations, noise level, etc when I have the windows open!

In defence of the OP I'm a former noise officer. I can confirm that complaints about people arguing only ever came from the less salubrious parts of town.

I've never heard my neighbours arguing but I can guarantee they have heard us. We are fiery! But otherwise very loving and very happy

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All of my neighbours scream shout when they're in the front or back garden like general conversation. It's like they're in the same room as you. Kids, adults, doesn't matter. We're in the middle of terraced houses and I've realised it's making me grind my teeth. It's no better inside, one side has a deaf elderly woman blasting her tv at full volume until the wee early hours. We share a wall. The other side have never been known to shut their front door quietly, they run up the stairs like a herd of elephants and seem to spend an inordinate amount of time talking as a group just behind the wall when I'm in the loo. I can hear every word, just as much as I can hear the blokes weeing even from my bedroom. Hell is other people!

Upper middle class don't shout and scream. We seethe 😂

Money doesn’t equate class.

Never seem to hear any shouting from neighbours here. Regular area of mixed urban housing. There's a lot of traffic noise during the day which would mask it but at night, still completely silent. Even when I'm out walking the dog late, I never hear anything! Seems odd to me!

Yes. Affluent area, detached houses but I've heard neighbours on both sides and directly across the cul-de-sac.

All domestic abuse. The common factor isn't class, its men.

Hi! I'm from what is known as the underclass originally 😂
I'm not offended, if you didn't shout when I grew up you didn't get heard 😂

I thought you'd like this -
When I moved into a nice area for the first time, no sofas in front gardens and burnt out cars blocking entries or people trying to sell you your clothes theyd pinched off your line bacm to you, i was quite surprised to hear my new neighbour being absolutely awful to what I assumed was his DW.
I heard him yelling and swearing and the next day when he went to work i knocked and asked her if she needed any help and told her (I've had abusive relationships myself) if she needed anything to knock if she was in danger and she was always welcome to my home. Blurted this out without taking a breath.
She looked at me like I had 5 heads.
I explained I heard him screaming at her and swearing. She looked really shocked and then realised what I was on about.
Turns out their fucking cat had kindly walked in through the flap late at night and gifted them a mostly, but not fully dead, mouse.
The "dirty little twat" he yelled was at their dcat and not the wife he dearly loved.

I became friendly with them both but still always cringe thinking about it.

I think that's very true. Hence there were a million and one Gordon's beating the shit out of their Sandra's in the 80's and bringing domestic violence into the fore.

I can’t sleep and this thread has entertained me. Not offended at all!
I’m mainly astonished by the claim of a pp that she has never shouted at her husband! .
I think middle class people argue by hissing vicious passive aggressive things at each other rather than yelling, right?

Our middle class neighbours had an argument so bad we called the police. He was threatening to “drop” her, and they had a child under 2 in the house. I don’t think class has much to do with wether people argue.