If you live in a middle class area do you ever hear your neighbours argue?

More expensive houses are usually detached and further away from their neighbours than cheaper houses. That might be one reason for the perception that middle class folk don't argue.

We'll soon be hearing from people claiming they have never heard a raised voice on their council estate, but they are kept awake every night by the screaming middle-class folk living in the posh houses two miles away... 🤣

Haha...channelling Margot Ledbetter there. But OP has explained that she hasn't meant to offend anyone.

I live in a mixed area of serving military, ex military, teachers, accountants, construction workers, nursery nurses, care home staff and retail workers. We live in a cottage flat sometimes called a four in a block and the estate is predominately a mixture of flats and semidetached houses. The flats all have their own front and back gardens which are not shared with any other flat in the block. I have heard my downstairs neighbour losing it with their adult children (30s) twice through their ceiling our floor as we both have fireplaces and the chimney runs the length of the building and my neighbour on one side in a semi lose it once with her child (16) in the seven years I have lived here. I have never heard any couples argue.

I have one neighbour who regularly screams at her husband in the early hours. He is a total dick though, so I can’t say I blame her. I have another neighbour who has shouting matches with his teenage son.
Dare say they hear me yelling to my deaf dog.
All houses are detached, but it’s a fairly quiet area.

We are so middle class that we don’t have neighbours in shouting distance. If we did, they would definitely hear us yelling at dc and dc yelling in general. 😬 Dh and I don’t ever have shouting arguments, but yes, I do shout at the kids to put their bloody shoes on for the 20th time and they do occasionally run outside in a strop shouting about how we ruin their lives by not doing some trivial thing they think is very important.

That said, yes, absolutely know loads of very dysfunctional middle class families where a lot of shouting and abuse goes on. But except for one who tried to kill his wife, it happens behind closed doors.

I think some people who think of themselves as middle class are also more conscious of how other people view them, and therefore might try harder to conceal arguments than other people who aren't so bothered about perceptions.

I am middle class and do occasionally shout at the kids, then worry about the neighbours hearing! 😆

Think this has hit the nail on the class issue. A lot of middle classes want to keep up with the Jones and give an impression they are clam respectable people but really want to scream at their children. They know they can't because they will be socially ostracised. Working classes are more accepting and less judgmental as a class - that's if we're going to divide the classes in this thread.

The lack or privacy and personal space on social housing estates is something I’ve never forgotten

Goodness me. I’m never sure what people mean on MN when they say “social housing”? Do they mean council built estates? Or like supported accommodation of some kind? Because I live on a council estate and my house is quite roomy with a big garden! Have lived in places with much less privacy.
I like the sound of your street Dogstar78. That sounds comfy and normal
to me. I’d hate to be hissed at and called “Darling” instead of having a normal
row!

We live in a nice area but we're a stones throw away from a really shit one. Our road is used as a shortcut to the train station so I don't hear neighbours arguing but I do hear people in the middle of the night on their way to the trains from the pub

We live in a very middle class area and have done for 5 years. We heard someone argue the other day and we all froze. We had never heard as much as a raised voice before.

I did however, grow up in a middle class area and they would have heard my dad being a shouty, argumentative man all the time.

Of course only poor people shout & swear 🙄 not civilised middle class people. Grow up

I used to hear our neighbours bawling at eachother when we lived in a terrace. I still remember agonising over whether I should go over after hearing him scream at her for twenty minutes then storm out and I could just hear her crying 😢

We live in a more MC area now and I've never heard anyone arguing, but to be fair we live much further apart from our neighbours now and I don't make a habit of loitering at windows, so I probably just have fewer opportunities to hear them!

My vair, vair posh auntie never raises her voice because it's uncouth. Her and my uncle argue in vicious little hisses instead. So maybe the MC have mastered the art of the quiet row.

See, that makes you sound even more ridiculously snobbish, addressing those posters who are working class, as if they are a separate species.

You’re probably known locally as the shouty sweary chavs who are lowering the tone, incidentally.

Never until we got new (very wealthy) neighbours. We’ve heard him shouting at his wife more than once. Swearing at her too. Have never heard a peep from her. It’s completely made me dislike him even though he’s a nice as pie to chat to.

Oh well if you live in the Home Counties...

Sounds about right for the public school educated. Especially the language. I fear people have the wrong idea sometimes and get an awful shock when they discover otherwise!

I bet you never see them carrying their shopping in either but they definitely do it!

After discovering yesterday I'm surrounded by social housing, I don't feel I can talk but we haven't really heard shouting, not really. Only really when a child is being unbelievably naughty and you can hear the parent finally snap, otherwise, no.

Really?

What an obnoxious thread.

I love this, @Lwrenn. I don’t think you’ve anything to cringe about: you sound kind, brave and willing to put yourself out for a woman you don’t know - you sound like the best sort of feminist.

I suppose our area might be called middle class (we don't really talk in terms of class in NI, but we live in a quiet, suburban road) DP and I do argue. The problem is, when we have a disagreement, his voice gets louder almost immediately. He says it isn't loud, but it bloody well is. Our usually very quiet and pleasant neighbours have a stonking row about once every 3 or 4 months. Proper yelling, doors slamming etc. Our houses are semi detached, so perhaps if we lived in one of the detached properties further along the road, we wouldn't hear a thing😆

I remember going on euro camp holidays to France as a teen, all very middle class with wall to wall (canvas of course) teachers and social workers. You could hear everything. No shouting, but my God, I’ve never heard the word “darling” snarled more contemptuously than on those holidays.

People of all 'classes' argue.
Some folk just have bigger houses/more space between houses/thicker walls.

You need to just stop digging you’re making it worse 🙈