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To wonder if white furniture is feminine or girly.

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PippyLongstocking79 · 22/07/2024 15:17

Need to get some storage in ds1 bedroom and he is 12.5.
Am tempted to buy white furniture as I can swap it out into the other rooms if it doesn’t work.

DS1 is on the spectrum and probably won’t process this conversation. I don’t want to spend money building, buying and getting it delivered, and then realise.

aibu to buy white chest of drawers/tallboy etc for a boy’s room? Perhaps I can paint a dark wall or something and have a contrast.

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Precipice · 22/07/2024 15:30

I personally think white furniture is ugly and don't like the way it looks, but I don't think it's feminine/girly.

You say you're worried about him rejecting it and wanting it gone, but why is that only a concern in terms of it being "too girly" for him?

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PippyLongstocking79 · 22/07/2024 15:30

SonicTheHodgeheg · 22/07/2024 15:27

Their rooms are furnished with IKEA/Argos furniture. If your son is likely to say get the stuff out then can you show him photos on a website ? Many furniture ranges have a black variant.

No he is currently not interesting in looking or discussing. When it is all bought and built, he will definitely tell it like it is and expect me to wave a magic wand.

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ditalini · 22/07/2024 15:29

It's completely neutral. Ds1's furniture is all Ikea white - a mixture of Malm and Smastad. He's 17.

TheFairyCaravan · 22/07/2024 15:28

My boys had white furniture, the Ikea Malm stuff, in their rooms all through their teens right up until they moved out. It's not girly, or feminine , it's a good choice because it goes with everything

VickyEadieofThigh · 22/07/2024 15:28

Furniture is inanimate and possesses neither sex nor gender.

SonicTheHodgeheg · 22/07/2024 15:27

Their rooms are furnished with IKEA/Argos furniture. If your son is likely to say get the stuff out then can you show him photos on a website ? Many furniture ranges have a black variant.

LondonPapa · 22/07/2024 15:26

PippyLongstocking79 · 22/07/2024 15:17

Need to get some storage in ds1 bedroom and he is 12.5.
Am tempted to buy white furniture as I can swap it out into the other rooms if it doesn’t work.

DS1 is on the spectrum and probably won’t process this conversation. I don’t want to spend money building, buying and getting it delivered, and then realise.

aibu to buy white chest of drawers/tallboy etc for a boy’s room? Perhaps I can paint a dark wall or something and have a contrast.

White furniture isn't girly or famine. It is very much boring but not girly. I can't believe this is an actual thought.

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PippyLongstocking79 · 22/07/2024 15:26

It’s quite disconcerting with a child on the spectrum. They often just decide they don’t like something when you have shelled out. It’s impossible to have that conversation before the furniture has arrived and set up.

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SonicTheHodgeheg · 22/07/2024 15:25

They are teen and young adult

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PippyLongstocking79 · 22/07/2024 15:25

SonicTheHodgeheg · 22/07/2024 15:24

My sons have white drawers and white bedroom doors. They’ve never mentioned it as their rooms are accessorised with stuff that’s more to their taste like grey duvet covers.

Are they teenagers too?

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PippyLongstocking79 · 22/07/2024 15:24

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/07/2024 15:22

Does it matter? DD's stuff was all sharks and dinosaurs which is 'boy' Hmm and it just doesn't matter.

It will matter to me, if he says get that stuff out of here and it cost me £300/400. I would be gutted!!

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SonicTheHodgeheg · 22/07/2024 15:24

My sons have white drawers and white bedroom doors. They’ve never mentioned it as their rooms are accessorised with stuff that’s more to their taste like grey duvet covers.

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/07/2024 15:22

Does it matter? DD's stuff was all sharks and dinosaurs which is 'boy' Hmm and it just doesn't matter.

loropianalover · 22/07/2024 15:22

It will be fine!

White is neutral and will match whatever the rest of the ‘theme’ is - if it is in a pink room it will look girly.

OutdatedOutrage · 22/07/2024 15:20

I don’t think white is girly. It’s just neutral.