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paulhollywoodshairgel · 22/07/2024 14:59

My dd is about to go into year 10. She is friends with a boy in year above. I think they might be headed towards more than friends. Husband has freaked out as he's a year older. Wants to put a stop to it. My opinion is that she will just go behind our backs if that happens. I'd much rather her be open and honest and that we have more chance of keeping an eye on things?? She's a sensible girl and very open and I'd like to keep it that way!! Am I wrong?

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 22/07/2024 15:19

I just don't want her to clam up! She's so open and honest anyway I really think she will tell me everything! I get where he's coming from but he doesn't need to be like a bull in a china shop!! God these teenage years are hard!!

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IncognitoUsername · 22/07/2024 15:05

You are quite right but it’s also understandable that DH is freaking out about it. First relationships are different for everyone. Obviously he shouldn’t’put a stop to it, but you are going to need to explain that to him, and show him why that’s a bad idea. DH had a similar reaction when eldest stepdaughter started dating. He said it was because he knew what he was like as a boy of that age!

ObsidianTree · 22/07/2024 15:04

A year ahead isn't much. If he was born in August and her in Sept, there would be a month between them.

Agreed, you can't stop her seeing him especially if they will see each other at school, which you can have no control of.

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