Boyfriend asked me to always have hair up at his flat

It sounds pretty practical imo! I also have (had) long thick hair, as does my son, and it does get everywhere, including clogging up the hoover brushes. I wouldn’t call it a red flag atm, but wait and see if there are additional demands. Finding my own hair is pretty gross, finding other peoples hair is 🤮. At least tying it up will reduce the area in which it travels.

It seems to me you know very well he's being unreasonable. The fact that it annoyed you, thar you noticed his hypocrisy and that it bugged you enough to ask here should tell you something. More red flags incoming, hope you notice those, too and bail before the final reveal.
I had a bf who reproached me he kept finding my hair everywhere. Suffice to say this was hardly the only red flag, he revealed himself as a full shythead later on.

I would be inclined to ask him to wear his pubes in a ponytail too.

You don’t want to find them near the toilet on the floor 🤣

Agreed. Relationships will always have adjustments to be made by each party, as you’re two individuals coming together. It’s not always something to be viewed as malicious!

Does your hair get everywhere mine asked the same thing because my hair would literally be everywhere. I understood and now always keep an elastic on my wrist we've been together 16yrs

It's odd & a bit controlling. It shouldn't have entered his mind especially in a newish relationship....I suppose the only caveat maybe if he's OCD or similar but in that case it's a problem that may be resolved (thinking desensitizing slowly not ponytails.... hopefully his next suggestion isn't crewcut 👀😳,,).

May not be a red flag but Def a yellow.

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Dunno man, i get rrally triggered when someone with lose hair is my kitchen....its a pet hate of mine to be honest. Cant get hair in my food.

Maybe it’s not controlling on his part, but what will he expect should you decide to live together? Will he always want you to tie back your hair? I’m afraid it’s natural to shed hair, and is obviously more noticeable the longer the hair is. My hair is just above shoulder length and sheds all over the place, nothing I can do to stop it. He’s either going to have to get used to it or else you go your separate ways.

I think it's quite an even split.
Some people are very quick to shout CONTROL if man so much as expresses a preference and god forbid that preference differs from a woman's.

Maybe I have an unpopular opinion on this, but I don’t think this is a red flag. If he rudely and nastily demanded it, I wouldn’t be saying that, but it seems he is just trying to adjust. Speak to him and just say it’s not always comfortable, and it’s just what happens with long, thick hair! Try to make light of it with him if he brings it up again, “only about 6 million stray hairs to go and I won’t have any left to shed anyway!” 🤣 if he gets mean about it though, definitely kick him to the kerb.

If you’re not used to it- it’s a lot! I’ve had friends, sitters and cleaners with long dark hair and find it everywhere. All the girls at school must have hair tied back. I’m on the fence on this one.

I'd also be annoyed but I'm not seeing how it's controlling or a red flag tbh.

I don't see this as a red flag. My sister sheds her long dark hair. I'm not a fan of it in my house. He's simply asking you when walking around/doing tasks to tie it back.

“Saves all your dead hair for making up underwear”

If he asked you nicely and was not pushy about it, I would not think it is a big deal. I know of many men who encourage their partners to grow their hair or wear it a certain way. When my hair was longer, my DH hated when it got in his face so I usually wore it up when we were close so it would not annoy him. On the other hand, if this is the start of him trying to control you, it may be a bigger concern.

Everything is disgusting when it's human waste; nails, hair, skin etc. My DS has a friend who sheds hair eveywhere in his room when it's not attached so I would say a ponytail helps. I always put my hair in a ponytail at home before preparing dinner etc so it makes sense to me that your boyfriend is fed up with hair everywhere. I wouldnt mind wearing a hairnet if I had your hair but if you mind he is clearly not the one for you because if he's nice about it now just wait until you're married:)

Why look for trouble if he's nice and asked politely? I like long hair and a beard on a man. If my DP had long hair and it was getting everywhere I could honestly both appreciate his hair and see this as a practical solution in my house. If he's only asking her to do it in his house it's not controlling her appearance.

He's worried because he has to do all the cleaning of it?

I think PP means it getting in places where it shouldn't be and creating visible mess.there's also a bigger chance it comes into contact with other objects nd it has a bigger surface area to pick up dust/pathogens etc.

But really, none of these other things are relevant. Only the first. And length isn't always related to shedding.

How?

There is absoloutly nothing unhygienic about hair and length certainly doesn't effect that. If anything hair is usually dirtier closer to the roots.

People clearly have batshit attitudes of hair on this thread lol its mental some responses

I wondered that too, @Benjilassi Dirty hair is unhygienic, but long hair is... long. Surely?

In what way is very long hair unhygienic?