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For blocking him ?

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CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 12:43

Guy I am talking for 2 months and went on 2 dates left me on read last nite.
He talked to me first and after I replied he would just send dry responses and he does that frequently so I give cold responses as well but I ask him things to get convo going, he doesn't.
Last nite I asked him if he is busy and he said no just relaxing so then I told him I am sitting around being confused and that he should call me if he can as I want to speak to him.
He saw that text last night and hasnt replied yet .
He is at work now but many times he texts early in morning so I got so upset I blocked him on whatapp.
Am I being unreasonable for blocking him ?it's not been 24 hrs yet.
I don't like that I did it but I feel I am getting played, he talks first and then he responds not in a very productive way.
Only 3 days ago we were being overly flirty and now cold again.

Small clarification:first month we were travelling ,we couldn't meet.
Last date was 3 weeks ago and he texts everyday but I am still confused.

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CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 16:18

@Ponoka7
This weekend he was busy, but not last night he said so himself, weekend before this was with his daughters.
I think he is testing me as well as we had a convo once where he said he doesn't like possessiveness.

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Luminousalumnus · 22/07/2024 16:17

CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 12:52

@BigPussyEnergy
I wonder if he is doing it on purpose to see if I will go crazy on him,that would be worse than not being interested,he is in his 40s

No. He isn't. He's doing it because he is done you. Leave him be he is just not that into you. And never think of him again. Job done.

Starlight1979 · 22/07/2024 16:15

OP - there is another thread on here currently asking people in long term relationships how they knew they had found "the one" / the person they wanted to be with forever. You should read it. Not one post says there was a ridiculous amount of game playing / blocking each other etc. If a relationship is meant to be it is easy from the start.

Move on with your life.

Ponoka7 · 22/07/2024 16:11

Don't get into text conversation, wait until you can speak to him. Are you a similar age? Is he honestly busy? I think that he could be testing your boundaries, as in seeing how little you will accept. Decide on what you want and don't settle.

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CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 15:58

@veganmayo
It was not a demand ,I asked to call if he can ,I want to speak to him not need to speak to him

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CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 15:56

No ,I don't want to seem like I am pestering him.
Done that in past relationships they lose respect for you.
If he wanted to talk he would call or say respectfully I will call you tomorrow.
Many things were said on that second date.
He said he wants a relationship, I am special and he swore on his daughters he is not talking to other women.
Few days ago we were flirting and he hinted we Will meet soon but no plans made yet.

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DaughterNo2 · 22/07/2024 15:54

CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 13:04

@ToofHurty
I am really into him I asked him out 2 weeks ago but he had other plans,he didn't ask for another day so out of fear of sounding like I am chasing I haven't asked again.
It's up to him to ask now

Well he’s not going to do that when blocked🤔 If at all tbh….
Leave him blocked and move on. He clearly isn’t interested

veganmayo · 22/07/2024 15:53

It actually sounds more like you're the one playing games, expecting him to read your mind, asking him to call you because you're 'confused'. There's no way I'd be immediately responding to the demands of someone I had been on two dates with and not slept with, either. But regardless of that, you obviously aren't compatible and he's not the right kind of person you're looking for.

RandomUserName96 · 22/07/2024 15:52

CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 15:09

@TwattyMcFuckFace
I didn't tell him cause I wanted him to call so I could explain ,I am confused by his level of Interest and I think he knows what I mean.
He texts me but then gives dry responses that I cant reply to ,why is he talking to me if he is not Interested to keep convo going .

Anyone remotely interested would have at least asked why I am confused and why I wanna speak

Did you try call him?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 22/07/2024 15:49

Anyone remotely interested would have at least asked why I am confused and why I wanna speak

You've answered your own question

gamerchick · 22/07/2024 15:42

2 dates in 2 months is a none starter imo. It's fizzled out.

Babbahabba · 22/07/2024 15:41

He hasn't bothered to arrange a date weeks later, despite you asking him to. That tells you all you need to know.

TeaGinandFags · 22/07/2024 15:37

Forget him and go forward with your life.

He's probs simply playing when bored.

Gmary22 · 22/07/2024 15:29

He's just not that into you, find someone else and don't let him mess you around. If he wanted to be with you, it would be easy, your wouldn't be second guessing yourself and you would have seen him more than 2 times in 2 months!

TwattyMcFuckFace · 22/07/2024 15:19

CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 15:09

@TwattyMcFuckFace
I didn't tell him cause I wanted him to call so I could explain ,I am confused by his level of Interest and I think he knows what I mean.
He texts me but then gives dry responses that I cant reply to ,why is he talking to me if he is not Interested to keep convo going .

Anyone remotely interested would have at least asked why I am confused and why I wanna speak

Yeah, he's definitely not interested.

Not sure why you think you might be unreasonable to block him?

It's not like you even have a relationship to speak of, so just cut him loose.

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CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 15:09

@TwattyMcFuckFace
I didn't tell him cause I wanted him to call so I could explain ,I am confused by his level of Interest and I think he knows what I mean.
He texts me but then gives dry responses that I cant reply to ,why is he talking to me if he is not Interested to keep convo going .

Anyone remotely interested would have at least asked why I am confused and why I wanna speak

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Browniesandcustard · 22/07/2024 15:03

Kindly, this isn’t going anywhere. Just keep him blocked or delete everything including his number.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 22/07/2024 14:56

so then I told him I am sitting around being confused and that he should call me if he can as I want to speak to him.

What did you mean by 'sitting around being confused'?

Did you tell him why you want to speak to him?

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CleverOpalPanda · 22/07/2024 14:53

@JLou08
I don't see what is intense about my message ,I simply told him to call me if he can cause I want to speak to him.
I didn't order him to do so and I said I want not need.
I wanted to express my self via a phone call not messages and I wasnt even going to be nasty about it or anything just be polite.
Would it be hard to text me ,I had a long day I will speak to you tomorrow?

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EG94 · 22/07/2024 14:53

I read something that said.. if a man likes you you’ll know, if you’re confused he doesn’t. Trust your gut

JLou08 · 22/07/2024 14:44

You sound really intense. There's only been 2 dates and you blocking him because he didn't respond straight away is way over the top. Your message was pretty intense and if I'd had a long day at work I wouldn't be calling someone after that message either, I'd want to relax and also have a chance to think about what I want to do going forward. Once I'd seen they had blocked me I don't think I would want to see them again.
I don't think anyone should be confused after 2 dates, it's clearly a very casual relationship and you should be at the stage of getting to know each other, not having serious chats about your relationship.

Alice2024 · 22/07/2024 14:25

You know you won't enjoy his answer, you still need to hear it or to decide it's irrelevant and walk away. It is what is. Good luck.

Noseybookworm · 22/07/2024 14:22

He's just not that into you 🤷‍♀️ men aren't complicated, if he was really interested in you he would be making MUCH more effort. Drop him and move on.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 22/07/2024 14:12

You asked him out 2 weeks ago, he had other plans and didn't suggest an alternative. He's not interested

RachTheAlpaca · 22/07/2024 14:03

Sorry but you both sound like a pair of kids
I thought you were about 14 when I first read this.
If he's giving you funny responses and you're being cold back, it isn't going to work out is it. Tell him you're not interested in continuing this silliness and block him, move on.

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