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2 AIBU in one, table etiquette and in-laws..

133 replies

PardontheFrench · 22/07/2024 12:23

This is a light humoured one (kind off)

In-laws down on holiday, it’s chaos round here as we are also moving this week, trying to pack and aware DH’s parents are also here to spend time with us and have a nice time, we are doing all the cooking entertaining etc.

Cooked a lovely meal around carnage last night, made sure everyone was sorted, DC, in-laws, dog was out of the way, drinks topped up sat down at the table to notice that in-laws had moved their cutlery round to their preferred position of knifes sitting with blades out, definitely not how I set the table!!

Firstly AIBU to think that everyone over the age of 12 knows the correct table setting etiquette is knifes with blades turned inwards

2nd AIBU that it’s fucking cheeky to be so self righteous that you make a show of your preferred way especially when you are bastarding wrong! in someone else house!

There have been many larger things over the years that have pissed me off but this tiny moment of exercising control has given me the rage like no other!

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 22/07/2024 12:32

Not lighthearte, it's just another tedious thread about manners and you don't sound lighthearted either. Just a bit martyrish.

They are your guests. Show some manners yourself. Their cutlery positioning makes zero difference to anybody else.

DinnaeFashYersel · 22/07/2024 12:30

You sound like you need a big bottle of wine.

YABU though

JimNast · 22/07/2024 12:29

Give them chicken drumsticks and no knives in future.

WhistPie · 22/07/2024 12:29

Why the fuck would anyone in their right mind come down to be entertained and cooked for by people who are in the middle of moving?! And why would anyone put up with this!

Jellycatspyjamas · 22/07/2024 12:28

I had no idea that was an etiquette thing tbh and would subconsciously move my cutlery to my usual way of using it. I very much doubt they were trying to make a point.

PicaK · 22/07/2024 12:27

I honestly think it's something I'd do without thought absent mindedly

mbosnz · 22/07/2024 12:25

I can understand that moment of highly flammable rage, given the situation you are currently in, but so long as they only move their cutlery, I would personally let them live. It's a matter of personal preference. . . (I'm with you, that would drive me nuts though!)

Fullyflavoured · 22/07/2024 12:25

I doubt I'd even notice or care tbh.