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To think you shouldn't expect to buy a home on a single salary?

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Fivebedexecutivehome · 22/07/2024 10:29

Genuinely interested in people's thoughts.

There's no doubt there's a shortage of appropriate housing in the UK, and that prices make home ownership for many people on average salaries.

But I find a lot of reporting about the topic weird- lots of interviews with people who seem to want to buy a property by themselves.

most recent one on BBC but not unique:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7209lk8x2wo

My husband and I managed to get on the housing ladder a few years ago, early/mid thirties, both full time with a combined income of about 75k at the time, had been saving for about a decade towards deposit, plus a couple of grand from each of our parents to get it over the line. Got in towards the bottom end of the market of the (south eastern) town we live in.

I recognise both of us are quite privileged in lots of ways - having a bit of family support and salaries in the 30ks and 40ks. But there's no way either of us would have been able to ever buy a property by ourselves. But there's 68 million people in this country, surely the expectation can't be that everyone wants to buy a property themselves? And surely that's never been the expectation previously?

Emma Harris wearing glasses and a green floral top against a white wall

Renters face affordability block to buying a home

Renters are four times less likely than current owners to be able to afford a home, research suggests.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7209lk8x2wo

OP posts:
AllProperTeaIsTheft · 23/07/2024 20:26

Confused It depends on how big your single salary is!

YellowAsteroid · 23/07/2024 20:25

CreamLampshade · 23/07/2024 19:09

This is a horribly couple-centric view point. Single people aren’t second class citizens who don’t deserve their own homes. Stop being smug.

This! a million times.

TheHateIsNotGood · 23/07/2024 20:24

There are so many desriptions here of how many bought small when youngish. But how many stayed in small properties? Many people go on to meet DPs and need larger homes to house their dc, and often their lies the crux - not everything turns out well - then how does this upsized HH divide into 2?

Again, my maths might be wrong, but a basic perusal of the circumstances indicates to me that if you're single and manage to buy then the best way to stay in your home is don't procreate and keep your relationships off your Deeds.

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 23/07/2024 20:19

I think if you read the article she’s seeking to buy in London! The bottom line here really is that you have to cut your cloth to suit your means which may mean buying somewhere further out and commuting. It is perfectly to possible for many to buy, it’s just that they want to buy in expensive areas, they want to buy bigger than they can afford or they don’t want to go without the bells and whistles like a take away coffee every single morning on the way to work, the latest phone, Sky TV, etc. that would all have contributed toward a deposits when I bought my ex out of my old house I remember literally living on beans and toast at times… you do what you have to.

That being said, I accept that some people will be on lower paid employment. But I am a firm believer in if you push hard, take advantage of funding, etc. and educate yourself you can work your way into better pay over time.

sabs22 · 23/07/2024 20:14

I bought my first flat at 22 by myself, with a deposit saved myself. I was an nhs new grad so not a hugely paid position.

TheHateIsNotGood · 23/07/2024 20:13

@Newsenmum I think that is already the reality for many.

Newsenmum · 23/07/2024 20:11

Soon it’ll be “why do two people think they can afford a house? There always needs to be four of you living together.”

DoAWheelie · 23/07/2024 20:09

My OH died. Am I supposed to just go homeless?

TheHateIsNotGood · 23/07/2024 20:05

I might be terribly wrong on my maths but if the national average salary is, say £30k, then many more people will earn less than that than the people that earn more. So, despite regional variations in the average salary, it seems to me that very few people earn enough above their local average wage to even consider buying a home, moreso if there's only one of them.

Exceptions and variations to the above 'rule' do exist, but in the main I think the above does apply.

Correct me please if my maths is wrong as it's not one of my strong points.

angela1952 · 23/07/2024 19:53

YABU. I'm in my 70's but even when I was young it was quite normal for a single woman to buy her own property. If there is just one of you its unlikely you'd want such a big property as a family.

cakeorwine · 23/07/2024 19:35

in order to have a mid price there must be approximately 50% of properties below that price
Which presumably those people can afford

How do you know that?

autumn1610 · 23/07/2024 19:35

I brought a 3 bed semi detached on my at the time £38k salary with a £17k deposit (10%) in 2020. Not it’s not impossible at all. Not in a shit hole either (probably couldn’t afford the same house now as I’ve renovated and now are going for about £50-70k more than I paid)

Diva66 · 23/07/2024 19:33

I bought my first tiny home on my salary. Not everyone can afford a‘five bed executive home’,

JoBrandsCleaner · 23/07/2024 19:30

My daughter is 20 she’s in the process of buying a little terraced house by herself.

Also what are you on about?

TheHateIsNotGood · 23/07/2024 19:25

OMG wouldn't my life be easier if I had a DP, but I'm too picky and quite frankly at nearly 62, I'm hardly a great catch myself; just as well.

I'd say that generally you're right OP, for the majority of people who can even consider buying, that hill becomes much steeper if there's only one of you.

I only got up the hill due to an inheritance in my 50s, 1/3rd of a house in the SE. I live in the SW so ended up with enough to have a meaty deposit that overlooked my low earnings (additional responsibilities for a disabled ds and an SP).

It's still a bit tough, scraping by to make the mortgage payments, repairs etc but it's way, way better than being beholden to a LL so I consider myself lucky.

1offnamechange · 23/07/2024 19:21

Opalfleur2026 · 22/07/2024 14:48

also anecdotes isnt data.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/ng-interactive/2023/nov/21/find-out-where-you-can-afford-to-buy-or-rent-in-great-britain

The typical household cannot afford to buy a mid-price home in almost half of postal districts, while renting is unsustainable in others.

Sure the typical FTB doesn't buy a mid priced home (i certainly didn't buy a mid priced home in London at 26, I bought a 400k 2 bed flat that was 25% below the median price at that time), but at the same time aspiring FTB would probably have lower than average salaries due to their age (I was certainly earning below an average londoner at that time though DH was earning slightly above and that combination took us over the threshold plus benefit of rent free living with parents).

Either way, I think at least 35% are priced out of owning their homes (even at age of 50, higher for singles, lower for couples. worrying thing is that in the past a big chunk of the 38% lived in social housing but that is less of an option these days

those statistics are far from definitive, and, tbh, don't make much sense. They are based on the premise that:
"Millions of Britons are living in areas where they are unable to either buy or rent a mid-priced property."
key there is MID PRICED
in order to have a mid price there must be approximately 50% of properties below that price
Which presumably those people can afford.
Otherwise if all housing was out of budget for millions of people then we would have millions of homeless people. Which we don't. Overcrowded in some areas, yes. But also underoccupied in many others.

Many single people will be those living in places below the average price - because by the very nature of living alone you don't need as much space, and smaller homes are generally cheaper (comparing like for like, not a 3 bed detached in Hull to a 2 bed flat in Knightsbridge).

That chart works out affordability by cost of housing x income and says you can only afford to buy if 90% of your house = between 2.5 and 4.5 of your income.

Well, I couldn't have afforded my house on my income by that criteria - but I did manage to, by saving up for more than a 10% deposit.

It also says that if the cost of your house is more than 4.5x your salary you can't afford to buy but can afford to rent. However the house next door to me (identical to mine) just got rented out to a new occupier for more than 3 times my mortgage. So even with just a 10% deposit buying would be much more affordable.

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 23/07/2024 19:20

GettingAroundTown · 22/07/2024 20:03

And this is the attitude I alluded to earlier.
The world has changed. Not only w.r.t to women working but the UK population has exploded. From 58 million in 1999 to 68 million today, about 2 decades later.
We're a tiny island.
Where are all these 3 bed houses with gardens going to be built, hmm?

You don't NEED a spare room, home office, garden. You want them, which is fair enough. But you don't need them.

Of course, flats don't have to be small and pokey, other countries have plenty of nice large ones, even more spacious than many UK houses. But the lack of a garden is an issue.

Which leads me to my other point, even if houses were built so that everyone could afford one, even proper big flats people would still refuse to buy it because it's not a house with garden 'because well in 1999 Ms. X bought on a single salary and it's not fair'.

I do need a room for a home office, it's not very professional having meetings with the CEO, CMO etc sat on the sofa, I also work from home 90% of the time so have to have it set up properly, I can't sit at the kitchen table 4/5 days a week 48 weeks a year. I also need a garden for the cats to go out in, they're not house cats.

So don't tell me what I need and don't need. You don't know my life.

Thankfully, I was able to buy somewhere with a spare room and garden but I will move to that big house in the country and live in it on my own just to piss people who think I shouldn't right off!

As for where they're being built, if Labour has their way on the bloody greenbelt! My town has had 5 new estates in the past 12 years.

Tabbycat90 · 23/07/2024 19:12

This guy is probably also paying child support out of his wage.

CreamLampshade · 23/07/2024 19:10

It’s this kind of attitude that sees people shack up in toxic relationships for the wrong reasons.

CreamLampshade · 23/07/2024 19:09

This is a horribly couple-centric view point. Single people aren’t second class citizens who don’t deserve their own homes. Stop being smug.

CormorantStrikesBack · 23/07/2024 19:08

But you used to be able to easily. Yes obviously prices have gone up drastically but that doesn’t mean it’s right.

my first office junior job paid 10k and I bought a house for 32k. Decades ago. Feel sorry for younger people.

Deebee90 · 23/07/2024 19:08

I’m buying a house on my own, I don’t have a partner so what am I meant to do, stay renting? Just because you were lucky enough to find a husband and buy a house doesn’t mean everyone is.

Lizzie67384 · 23/07/2024 19:06

VickyPollard25 · 23/07/2024 18:48

Exactly right. I couldn’t afford to rent my home now. I feel very sorry for people renting and trying to get on the property ladder.

Me too!! It’s really not fair

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 23/07/2024 19:01

Bodeganights · 22/07/2024 11:38

Thinking about this, my mum was married when a woman couldn't have her own bank account. I think it was 1975 when women had the right to her own. No idea how they actually went about getting one. So all mortgages had to be on the one wage.

However single men were discriminated against by mortgage companies: DH couldn't get a mortgage despite being a good earner until the early 80s as he wasn't married.

1974devon · 23/07/2024 18:58

Of course single people should be able.to buy their own home. I'm a single parent early 50s and stuck in rented as I can't save for a deposit while renting and bringing up a child etc :(
House prices where I am are quite high so even on a decent salary it's v difficult go buy as a single person.. and it shouldn't be.
There are lots of new builds near me and would love.to be able to buy but have no deposit. And see lots of young couples buying. It's hard.