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To think you shouldn't expect to buy a home on a single salary?

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Fivebedexecutivehome · 22/07/2024 10:29

Genuinely interested in people's thoughts.

There's no doubt there's a shortage of appropriate housing in the UK, and that prices make home ownership for many people on average salaries.

But I find a lot of reporting about the topic weird- lots of interviews with people who seem to want to buy a property by themselves.

most recent one on BBC but not unique:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7209lk8x2wo

My husband and I managed to get on the housing ladder a few years ago, early/mid thirties, both full time with a combined income of about 75k at the time, had been saving for about a decade towards deposit, plus a couple of grand from each of our parents to get it over the line. Got in towards the bottom end of the market of the (south eastern) town we live in.

I recognise both of us are quite privileged in lots of ways - having a bit of family support and salaries in the 30ks and 40ks. But there's no way either of us would have been able to ever buy a property by ourselves. But there's 68 million people in this country, surely the expectation can't be that everyone wants to buy a property themselves? And surely that's never been the expectation previously?

Emma Harris wearing glasses and a green floral top against a white wall

Renters face affordability block to buying a home

Renters are four times less likely than current owners to be able to afford a home, research suggests.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7209lk8x2wo

OP posts:
kittylion2 · 22/07/2024 11:59

Yes both my sons are single and own their own homes - one a flat and the other a small terraced house. I bought my ex out of our house 20 years ago. Should we all be in rented accommodation then? Why should single people be penalised?

willWillSmithsmith · 22/07/2024 11:59

I bought my first home as a singleton on a secretary’s salary back in 1990. Try doing that today!

And to add it was about a twenty minute train ride into London.

HesterRoon · 22/07/2024 11:58

So what’s the alternative if you’re not in a couple?

KatiesMumWoof · 22/07/2024 11:58

@Fivebedexecutivehome

what are your plans when your husband walks out on you?

I didn't need a man to buy my house. Ok so it's not 5bed detached, but it's mine, all mine.

your smugness is not attractive.

mrsdineen2 · 22/07/2024 11:58

If your husband shags the neighbour will you graciously except your return to renter status?

Tallulahe · 22/07/2024 11:58

So because I haven’t got someone to shag I shouldn’t be able to buy a home? God get off your own planet and back onto earth OP!

Rewis · 22/07/2024 11:57

Why do single people need any housing? I'm sure there are enough sticks in the forest to make shelter.

Galoop · 22/07/2024 11:57

Of course you should. Many of my friends older than me and they all had their own homes under the age of 30 (they are now in their 50s). It depends on the type of house and the area, but of course you should. House prices are obscene now.

x2boys · 22/07/2024 11:56

Fivebedexecutivehome · 22/07/2024 10:29

Genuinely interested in people's thoughts.

There's no doubt there's a shortage of appropriate housing in the UK, and that prices make home ownership for many people on average salaries.

But I find a lot of reporting about the topic weird- lots of interviews with people who seem to want to buy a property by themselves.

most recent one on BBC but not unique:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7209lk8x2wo

My husband and I managed to get on the housing ladder a few years ago, early/mid thirties, both full time with a combined income of about 75k at the time, had been saving for about a decade towards deposit, plus a couple of grand from each of our parents to get it over the line. Got in towards the bottom end of the market of the (south eastern) town we live in.

I recognise both of us are quite privileged in lots of ways - having a bit of family support and salaries in the 30ks and 40ks. But there's no way either of us would have been able to ever buy a property by ourselves. But there's 68 million people in this country, surely the expectation can't be that everyone wants to buy a property themselves? And surely that's never been the expectation previously?

Yes but we don't all live in the south East and whilst I know prices are going up everywhere it's,Been known for a long time that London and the south East is ridiculously expensive
Plus wages will vary massively.

thesurrealist · 22/07/2024 11:54

CelesteCunningham · 22/07/2024 11:18

Imagine single people thinking they're, like, independent grown-ups. Madness.

Hmm

I know! Whatever next? The entitlement of expecting to own a home all by yourself.

Which I do, btw. I bought my current house as a single person 3 years ago. Yes, it's a house, not a flat because I live in the countryside and the flats are scarce and depressing and, at the age of 50, I wanted a garden like I had in my previous (owned) house. My house is in the exact area I wanted and has 4 bedrooms and is detached. I'll probably stay here for the rest of my life and even if I ended up in another relationship (not likely as men don't find me attractive) my home is mine and will not be shared :-)

Dartwarbler · 22/07/2024 11:52

I think there’s always been a massive disparity between south and other areas.

i bought my first home in Home Counties at age of 28. With my then fiancé . No way could we have afforded to buy if we had been on our own or not benefitted from an inheritence I had (relatively modest) to boast the deposit. Plus back then interest rates were in double figures, so not just deposit that was difficult. Actual repayments were. And that was even based on old interest only with endowment. We’d not have been able to afford mortgage at those interest rates on a standard repayment mortgage. But again interest only and endowments were the norm and had been for my parents too.

I was not isolated in this. I knew a lot of of people in London who bought as friends as tenant in common deeds , including a close relative and his mates and my best friend with her mates. You just don’t hear that happening much these days as a way to get on the property ladder. In all cases it worked really well for them to not wait till married etc. and they made a good yield when they sold later (mainly when getting married) but even then they were all late twenties.

im talking about graduates in all cases as well. In days when only 10% when to uni and polys still existed. So, we were all decently waged

I think for south it is a myth thst your average earner could afford to buy on their own. I don’t know anyone who managed that in 1980/early 90s. My own ds is on a very good salary, a stupidly good salary. He’s 30 . He can’t save the full amount for a deposit as his rent is massive as recently lives on his own in London 1-bed place after splittin*with his long term partner. He could standcthought of going back to HMO at this stage. Ironically he could afford a mortgage where he wants to live on his salary- it’s saving for deposit that’s a massive issue now it’s just him.

however, I live in north now. And I grew up in north. My average wages niece and nephews up here bought easily with their partners in mid twenties. And by now, in their late twenties/30s could buy easily as sole tenants on their own. It is massively different. A one bed flat is massively different in price in south vs north to tune of multiple hundreds of £.

I think younger generations do have unreal expectations, set by the property programs dominating tv and media these days. Only in some parts of country have you been able to buy on your own since around 1970s. Prior to thst property was a lot cheaper mainly because a wife’s wage was not taken into account by mortgage companies . Didn’t matter what her job was, one salary calculated only. Progress was a good thing, but had a downside in terms of what it did to house prices !

also the sale of council houses did not help. Lack of secure homes in rental market meant more people trying to buy. Also agian setting expectation that everyone “has right to buy”. It isn’t a right. But sadly only way now for most to secure a home of their own for the future without a landlord or private company holding the cards in terms of security.

MiddleAgedDread · 22/07/2024 11:52

You're being ridiculous, where do you expect single people to live??
The problem is that house prices have risen disproportionately to wages so buying as a single person is more difficult than it used to be. Many of my friends bought property as single people in their late 20's / early 30's but it's noticeable how few of the grads at work in that age group now do. There's a distinct increase in people living in flat shares and even with parents until they are older. And while they're renting that's several hundred £ a month that they can't save for a deposit. Also, well paid jobs are often in places that are more expensive to live.....a tiny (and I mean, can't swing a cat!) 1 bed flat round here will set you back around £150k so at a 3.5xtimes salary, that's only really affordable if you're earning more than about £40k a year.

caringcarer · 22/07/2024 11:51

mateysmum · 22/07/2024 10:37

This.

My son is in the same position. No partner and none on the horizon, so should he just rent for evermore?
Many years ago, I bought as a single woman.

Both my DS's bought a 3 bedroom house on their own. 1 has a gf he got after buying but she has her own home.

Startingagainandagain · 22/07/2024 11:50

What a lot of nonsense...

DoublePeonies · 22/07/2024 11:49

A house on the road I first bought for has just gone sstc. It was up for 117,000. 2 bed terrace. Decent condition.

A starting salary on my degree comes up as 25-30k.

4x salary gives a mortgage around 100k. So, yes, I could probably still buy my first house, so long as I could rent somewhere cheap enough to enable saving nearly 20k first.

JimNast · 22/07/2024 11:48

If only you'd told me 20+ years ago,@Fivebedexecutivehome . I managed to buy a house alone and without a handout from Mummy and Daddy.
Hope you are happy in your smug rung on the housing ladder.

AtomicPumpkin · 22/07/2024 11:46

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 22/07/2024 11:44

I mean exactly what I said but QED.

Not relevant to the discussion but shoehorned in anyway. And you say the opposite side have an agenda.

Look,doubtless I'll get another little warning note from HQ about how I should shush and stop pointing out when people are phobic. Being phobic is OK though, right MN? Free speech for them but not for me.
But tough. I'll keep on for now. And yes, I was born female and still am female before everyone jumps

Phobic? I don't think anyone is the least bit afraid of you.

Pickingmyselfup · 22/07/2024 11:46

They shouldn't need to own but they should have security if it's not owned.

I'm a parent to 2 children earning minimum wage. If I were to get divorced I would up my hours but even with the equity I got I would struggle to even get a shared ownership so it would have to be rented.

My issue with renting is that I would be at the mercy of the landlord, they could kick me out at any point or raise the rent to whatever they fancied. I wouldn't be allowed to make it nice, unlikely to be able to have a pet and I would just be treating it like a hotel room that wasn't mine. Not to mention the fact that even working full time I would need to claim UC which isn't popular with landlords and neither are kids so I would already be on the back foot.

It makes total sense why women feel trapped in abusive marriages because going it alone on a low salary is really really difficult. We shouldn't be making things harder for single people, times have changed and single people are an integral part of society and we should be treating them as such.

LoobyDoop2 · 22/07/2024 11:46

loropianalover · 22/07/2024 11:25

I agree with @AndForAFortnightThereWeWereForever “There can't be any blanket rule or blanket statement about this.”

OP says they and their partner had a joint income of 75k and could buy. A single person could make the same/more on their own, why should they have to rent? By the time you’re making 75k in your career it’s dehumanising to live in a moldy flat or house where you’re not allowed paint the walls or make any changes.

I think a lot of the issue now is how precarious renting is - a lot of landlords are looking to get out of the game, or the rental price they’re stuck at is not worth it. If the economy was in a better place and people didn’t having a looming fear of eviction in the back of their minds, renting would be much easier. The constant threat/fear of eviction is the number 1 reason I want to buy. We pay more in rent now than a mortgage will be.

You think it’s perfectly fine for the 90-odd % of the population who don’t earn £75k though? Not dehumanising?

HappierTimesAhead · 22/07/2024 11:46

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 22/07/2024 11:37

Can certain posters bog off with the performative misgendering? It's irrelevant to the issue and is just plain bad mannered and arrogant.
And yes, I've reported. More in hope than expectation.

What's arrogant is donning a dress and expecting us all to pretend a man is a woman.

And 'expectations' feature heavily in this article.

Moonshiners · 22/07/2024 11:45

OP are you seriously suggesting that only people in couples should be allowed should be able to buy a house
I bought my own house when I was single in my twenties. I feel so sorry for people nowadays because it was so ridiculously expensive. The house cost £69,000 20 years ago (I was on 22k gave a 5k deposit) it is now £300k yet that job I used to do only pays £28k so no way on god's earth could I have bought it now.

Lack of investment in social housing, allowing property to be sold to Chinese and other foreign investors and right to buy has totally mess this up.
We need to move away from growth and inflation being linked to house prices.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 22/07/2024 11:44

Geiyotue · 22/07/2024 11:38

Do you mean correct sexing?

I mean exactly what I said but QED.

Not relevant to the discussion but shoehorned in anyway. And you say the opposite side have an agenda.

Look,doubtless I'll get another little warning note from HQ about how I should shush and stop pointing out when people are phobic. Being phobic is OK though, right MN? Free speech for them but not for me.
But tough. I'll keep on for now. And yes, I was born female and still am female before everyone jumps

Hurlingnovice · 22/07/2024 11:44

Of course single people should be able to buy a home. A home is not always a house. The individual in the report wants a house, which is why they're struggling. They can afford a flat on that salary in nearly every part of the UK, a flat is a perfectly acceptable home for anyone.

rainbowbee · 22/07/2024 11:42

You absolutely should. Perhaps not a 'family home' type of larger house but an apartment at the very least. I live in an expensive city where single ownership (without massive handout) is inaccessible on even an above average salary. It's discriminatory imo. You shouldn't be forced to be assetless/ continue paying out rent money forever because of a romantic status/choice.

wastingtimeonhere · 22/07/2024 11:40

I'm going out on a limb here, but not only should one wage be able to buy but a 'living wage' should be sufficient level of income to do so. 'Affordable' housing should be just that.