My sister lives abroad and was over for a last minute work trip. She only comes over every couple of years. My sister, family, family friends organise a get-together. Lunch, drinks etc.
DH has been in a weird mood for the last couple of weeks. When I tell him about my sister & the family get together, he looks grumy about it, - I say "You don't have to come though, I can make some excuse"
He says "Great. I won't come"
The day before I'm at work and I'm thinking "why did i say that. it's really weird that he's not coming when everyone else is my whole family & our kids are going"
So I text him from work and say "My sister is going to be there. Do you want come with me and the kids? What do you think?"
He replies "No, I don't fancy it"
And sure enough, he doesn't go.
When I came home he said "what excuse did you make" and I said "well i tried to make an excuse but it was pretty weird you not being there"
He got mad and said I was making him feel guilty. And i told him he didn't have to come. I said yes, that's true but i text you the day before asking you to come. He said he didn't want to go as he hates family stuff like that, but he would have come if I'd told him he needed to be there. He says I'm testing him.
I really wasn't trying to. I guess he is often grumpy at these things. I don't know. I can see his point of view
What do people think?