To be concerned about DD?

Going out 2-3 times a week sounds fine to me. We are all different.

Leave her alone.

i was similar as a child. Content living an introvert life, didn’t enjoy parties and found people hard.

i also had a mother who tried to force me into being sociable. Clearly thought there was something “wrong” with me as no one would choose to stay in rather than go out. So it was people didn’t like me, or didn’t want to include me.

unspent many years believing this and trying to force myself to go out and build a social life. It took me a long time to realise this was making me very unhappy, and I was constantly worrying about how to find friends and people to go out with.

as an adult I ditched all that and am so much happier.

If she’s happy leave her be. She sounds like she has a calm and peaceful life. Let her be herself, rather than what you think she should be.

Mumsnet generally speaking has a very odd group of posters who think interacting voluntarily with other humans is somehow suspect of morally defective.

Of course an 18 year old should be out having the time of her live, having a ball, making lots of friends, some close, some just acquaintances but not stagnating baking at home.
we can recognize a boy gaming is wasting his precious youth. Your daughter’s life is better- but not much.

Absolutely this ^^

My mum made very clear that my forms of entertainment (mostly books) were inadequate.

I was perfectly happy but she made me feel like a total reject because I wasn’t spending my evenings on the lash like ‘normal’ teenagers.

I’m still really happy with my small but tight circle of friends. I’m not emotionally close to my mum.

As long as she is happy with her life, that is what matters, @spiderplant7. People are different - some love being sociable, others don’t - it doesn’t make the sociable people right and the unsociable people wrong, or vice versa.

Celebrate your child’s unique personality and confidence to be exactly who they are, rather than worrying that they don’t fit into what you think a stereotypical teenager should be.

I am a quiet person, who doesn’t socialise much, and didn’t socialise much as a teenager/young person - that is just who I am, and there is nothing wrong with being this way. If someone had tried to encourage me to be someone I wasn’t, that would not have made me happy.

Edited to add - @Rainbowsponge, I can promise you that, despite being a quiet, unsociable introvert, I was perfectly capable to functioning in the world, holding down a job, finding a lovely man to marry, raising a family, and making friends.

I understand your concern. It’s all very well being this introverted while living with parents who look after & keep an eye on you, but what about when they’re no longer here?

*conform not confirm - damn predictive text!

she isn’t wasting her youth, she would be wasting it if she was doing what everyone expected she should be doing to confirm, instead of doing what she wanted to do.
Be proud that she’s secure in her own skin and knows herself enough to know what she wants to do for herself.

I think there's a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Your DD seems very happy with her life, she has social outlets like church and she's maintaining healthy habits like going for a walk. She's not unsociable at all, just not your typical idea of what a young person does. I admire her for being confident enough in herself to know what she enjoys.

I think you probably need to be very careful not to make your dd feel that she isn’t good enough as she is or that there’s something wrong with her. Some people are just more solitary and it’s not less valuable or acceptable to spend time alone. She will likely realise that you consider her preferred ways of being a waste.

If she’s happy then be greatful for that and celebrate her for who she is, stop comparing her. Also she’s not a child.