To say DH can’t see female friends alone?

All bollocks, usual MN answers on the whole.

the reality is you need to give more info.

does he have other female friends you’re ok with? DH has plenty but over the years I’ve learnt to rely on my spidey senses. There have been 2 (out of many friends) who I just knew were trouble. DH thought I was being jealous/ just didn’t get them.

And then came back after a while saying you were right. So now if my spidey sense goes again he will listen straight up. I’m not the jealous type, have male and female friends.

or are you naturally jealous? I’ve had a friends (now ex) have real issues with me. Worked together as a group for ages, texted every 3 months ish, once we left that job met up usually as a group once or twice a year. Honestly she had an issue with pretty much any female. She didn’t last.

Same. It's controlling.

How friendly is "too friendly"? If you don't trust him you won't believe he is meeting in a group rather than 1 to 1. Your problem is lack of confidence in his fidelity, either based on his previous conduct or your self-esteem. Address the root cause.

threads, I mean

Several posts this weekend have that 'school holidays have started' energy.

If course it's unreasonable p. If he's going to cheat he will do it regardless so you either trust him or you don't.

Not unreasonable. The world has gone mad imo.

Jesus' biggest miracle was being a 30 year old man with 12 close friends.

Love this!

YABU! Has he had affairs with them?

My DH goes for a curry with his 2 female best mates every couple months. It's fine with me, I don't want to go and stay home with a nice take away!

My point is that perhaps the OPs boyfriend is behaving in an unreasonable way with his female friends and we should wait to hear what's happening.

If that's the case, then banning him from seeing them is just a sticking plaster over the actual issue of him being inappropriate. No one who is likely to cheat suddenly turns into a great partner simply because they've been forbidden from seeing someone.

I don't know.
Lunch with a work colleague, old school friend? Maybe. Alone with others around? OK.
Evening dinner at her's staying overnight? No.

You're not being insanely controlling, though.
For a marriage to survive, there are definitely things you only do with your spouse.
You don't dilute it with others and while nobody sets out to have an affair but we are influenced by surroundings.

And I bet most people are wary of any new opposite sex friends that appear-this cool wife thing gets on my wick.

It's ridiculous to suggest you are being abusive!

Yeah do it, and let us know how that works out for you...

If he’s gonna cheat, he’s gonna cheat. He’s hardly likely to think “oh I was gonna meet up and have sex with my female friend but I won’t know because my wife banned me”, he just will and won’t tell you.

Sorry OP but this is a you problem and you need to address why you don’t trust your DH to be around women one on one without having sex with them or being tempted to.

If you give him this ultimatum, one way or another your marriage is over. Either because he will say no and you’ll assume he’s cheating and will leave/push him away with arguments. Or because he will say yes and slowly his resentment for you will build because you’re cutting him off from his friends and support network and he will leave you eventually.

How would he like it if you go on a date with one of your men friends. I agree. Not on.

You can't say he can't, no.

You can tell him how it makes you feel and if he cares about you more than them, he wouldn't, or he'd do it much less frequently.

I get the thing about men and women can be friends, they can, I have lots of male friends, but IME, that's not what's going on when they only ever meet 121, even if they themselves are currently in denial, there's always something underlying. I've been on both sides of that, unfortunately.

My best friend is male. I’d tell my husband to fuck off if he tried to tell me who I can or can’t be friends with.

My dh has a few close female friends and I love that he stays in contact with them. There's an ex girlfriend of his though who's newly single and wants to meet for a coffee. They were together for years. Do I really need to sit there wondering if there's still a spark? Nope. Don't want her in our lives. And before I get called insecure and controlling, even though dh has never cheated on anyone in his life,it would be naive to think such a thing has never happened.

I wasn't ok with overly flirtatious behaviour at all but whenever I complained about it I was told that I was jealous, paranoid and didn't want him to have friends. He would also disappear off with them for hours and leave me by myself. Again if I said anything I was told that it was me with the problem and he was allowed friends.

My point is that perhaps the OPs boyfriend is behaving in an unreasonable way with his female friends and we should wait to hear what's happening.

What do you mean by 'too friendly'?

And what are the circumstances where he wants to meet them one on one?

Not sure what point you are making here. If you're ok to put up with overly flirtatious behaviour in front of you, then it's not really a problem if it's not in front of you?

OP - if you don't trust your DH, then I suspect your relationship is doomed. If you do trust him, then there is no problem with him meeting other women.

The majority of men don't have any friends, let alone friends of the opposite sex.

Jesus' biggest miracle was being a 30 year old man with 12 close friends.

You're an abusive control freak. Best thing you can do is walk away from this relationship and get some therapy to find out why you like to coercively control partners.

YABU.
if you don’t trust your husband around other women, that’s on you and maybe he shouldn’t be your husband.

What? That's one of the most ridiculous things I've read on here and that's saying a lot.

How does one go through life without talking to members of the opposite sex?

No, you don't get to do that OP.