To stop breastfeeding when DD loves it . Mum guilt

Of course you can stop if you want to! That doesn't mean your baby isn't going to tell you she's unhappy about it lol. You could stop cold turkey or look at habit stacking (check out Lyndsey hookway on IG) or reduce length of feed or only feed after it's been x number of hours since the last feed. Lots of options! Good luck x

I stopped co sleeping as I was being used as a human dummy and that really helped.

feeds have dropped to 11pm and then sometimes through til 6/7am or if not 4/5am only then down til morning.

are they teething? I think there is a regression too during this time. We also have had cold after cold from nursery which has made her more clingy so could be that?

to help I’ve started giving a formula feed during bedtime too make sure she’s hydrated, and take pressure off milk feed from me. I know you can use cows milk but for reflux reason we use formula still.

You can night wean without stopping co-sleeping if that's your preference. At least, thats what I did. I just told my dd no more feeding in the bed so she learned that to feed she needed to be in the sitting room absolutely no exceptions.

Continuing to bf but putting her in another room, like PP suggested, sounds the most exhausting option.

Interesting, thanks

DS1 fed till 2.5 and DS2 fed till 4yo. Neither have tooth decay. Plus 'milk teeth' are literally that: teeth suitable for breastfeeding.

OP, people will give you nonsense advice on this topic. You can feed DD until she loses her first couple of teeth if you wish, or you can stop earlier. Whatever works for you.

Breastfeeding doesn't work the same as with a bottle. The breast has to be further back in the mouth and baby has the actively stuck to remove milk it doesn't pool milk behind the teeth like a bottle does. Breastmilk can cause tooth decay buy only if fed in a bottle due the mechanism of feeding.

Sounds much more like she's using you for comfort than feeding at that age. I breastfed til 15 months and many people I know breastfed for 18 months+, so I don't think 13 months is old at all - but I don't recognise your situation where you are essentially being used as a dummy at night. By 12 months I was down to one feed a day.

Agree with PP that tooth decay would worry me if night feeding continued, and would you not prefer to have your room/bed back at night? It's your choice ultimately but I don't think stopping co-sleeping will stop your 'bond'.

Are you able to get her to eat a lot of food at dinner time? If so you can night wean.

If you're exhausted you have no choice really.

When I night weaned I read a book to her called Sally Weans From Night Nursing - I read that a few days in a row before actually attempting weaning. The first night or 2 will be tiring so start on a Friday night assuming you don't need to work at the weekend, and don't do it when she has a cold.

It's not as hard as you're expecting but you need to be committed to it because if you change your mind half way through that will be unfair on her and make it harder in the long run.

Don't feel guilty, the kid will be ok with it very quickly. It may only take 2 or 3 nights.

Clearly she's using it for go fort rather than nutrition. It's definitely time to train her to sleep without the breast.

Ignore the first poster.

This is reverse cycling and often seen in babies who don't see their mums all day. She's having separation anxiety and trying to reconnect with you at night.

You could first try, putting her in her own room, she's old enough and if your not close she may naturally sleep for longer stretch of time. This will give you both more sleep, and is probably the first thing I would try. She may still wake once or twice during the night though, but you can address that separately. Just go with getting her used to her own room first. I wouldn't drop feeding at the same time as to many changes at once will just upset things to much.

Good luck, I hope you get some more sleep.

Breastfeeding needs to work for both mum and baby, and this is not working for you, you must be sore and exhausted!

Are you able to get DD into her own bed, and then see if she will have short feeds before bed / at night / first thing as needed?

Don't feel bad about weaning partially or totally, you will still be bonded well despite working full time - you're her mum!

I can't comment on the chocolate

Breast feeding at this stage only works if it suits both of you and it’s clearly not working for you, OP.
Can you get advice from your health visitor or similar on how best to cut down?

Aren’t you concerned about tooth decay?

Do it OP.
You are a person too.
Mothers should not be guilted into being just vessels for their children. (And you've internalised that.)

Sounds like she's using you as a dummy really