I have been sleeping with a married man for a long time (longer than I’d like to admit). I have been so so stupid and naive. When we first met he told me they were getting divorced and he was moving out but recently they have been on a few holidays together. Last night I exploded at him and told him that I’m ending it because I can’t do it anymore, he’s lied to me and to his wife. And I told him that I’m going to tell her.
He has told me she already knows (convenient) and is begging me not to tell her as it will cause her further upset and he is already handling the situation and has asked me to leave her alone.
would I be unreasonable to still reach out to her? I feel as though it’s very convenient that he says she found out the day before this all blew up in his face and feel awful that she doesn’t know.
i know im going to get loads of comments on how unreasonable it was to engage with this man for so long but i genuinely believed that his divorce and house sale was just taking a long time. I know that what i did was wrong and im really trying to find ways to fix it. HELP!