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Invited to celebrate my twin sisters birthday

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Megssy · 21/07/2024 02:02

Just that really...

Having a weekend away for our 40 th next year. Same group of friends and obviously same family. But my friends keep referring to it as my twin sisters birthday and not mine 🤔. Tonight a joint friend said we would have to have a drink at a later date since we were going away for my twin sister's birthday. Im super irritated by this. Aibu? It's weird right?

For back ground we have a strained relationship but despite this have a very close (or so I thought) set of friends and always kept are issues separate

The only reason I can think for the distinction is that she is inviting her in-laws. But I said not to invite mine as they live 200 miles away

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CostcoHotDog · 21/07/2024 04:06

I don't think your relationship issues are as separate as you think.

But yeah, your friends are weird and should be calling your sister out on her nonsense.

AnnaL94 · 21/07/2024 04:04

PoopedAndScooped · 21/07/2024 03:40

Why is your sister having a party and not you?

Have you not read the first line of the OP?

Having a weekend away for our 40 th next year.

daisychain01 · 21/07/2024 03:51

Are you identical twins?

that makes it even more weird and thick

I thought twins tended to look out for each other - doesn't your twin make it really clear that you share a birthday probably within minutes of each other just for the hard of understanding. Doesn't that matter to her? I'd be really hurt, YANBU.

PoopedAndScooped · 21/07/2024 03:40

Why is your sister having a party and not you?

Monty27 · 21/07/2024 03:37

@Megssy Have invitations been sent and have you been invited to share the arrangements?
If it was my twin sister I'd have ensured clarity who's throwing the party. Like, both twins.

Putdownthatglassgotoyoga · 21/07/2024 03:12

It's so weird, you're not being unreasonable at all.

maudelovesharold · 21/07/2024 02:52

If anyone else refers to it as your sister’s Birthday, just say ‘yes, and what a coincidence - mine’s on the same day!’

TwinklyNight · 21/07/2024 02:44

Could you jokingly say "Hey, I'm one of the Jones sisters too you know"

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 21/07/2024 02:16

Who organised it and invited the friends? What did the invitation say?

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 02:14

That is super weird! Ask her went she thinks it's only her birthday not a joint one.

scoobiedew · 21/07/2024 02:14

If people think it's your sister's birthday party only and not a joint birthday, obviously the invites/communications weren't clear enough. Your friends and family aren't trying to wind you up or exclude you on purpose I'm sure

JustJoinedRightNow · 21/07/2024 02:12

That sounds so frustrating. I think I would have to be petty and just keep correcting them "our birthday" etc

Aquamarine1029 · 21/07/2024 02:09

I don't get it. Are your friends rather thick?

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