To think that Resident Parents should have more rights than Non Resident Parents.

The OP still hasn't managed to articulate what extra rights the RP should have, just that the NRP should somehow have less/none. I think the current system is pretty fair and reasonable, and possibly a bit biased in the RPs favour in some ways.

In real terms, my ex has pretty much zero rights over our children's lives. There's very little she can control (thankfully), and not without going to court to try and enforce it.

The evidence of watching them at work. My ex’s ex also was far more interested in hurting him than she was the welfare of her child. The evidence being disappearing with him to live with someone she met online and had never met in person before, who would lock my stepson in his room and not let him out for days. When we tracked them down he was 9 and weighed less than my then 3 year old, he had scabies and headlice and worms. He came to live with us at that point, but she cried domestic abuse, took him and disappeared again. Rinse and repeat with another man. Stepson came to us for good at that point. Her reason? She just didn’t want me to have him. Her own words. Without my ex’s parental rights we might never have found him.
your insistence that only female RP care about their kids is so short sighted and stupid.

And lol most rps bend over backwards to keep in touch? Do they?

I don’t disagree with you at all, I think that the main parent, which is usually a woman takes on the vast majority of responsibilities and therefore is probably best informed to make decisions in the best interest of the child,

But this has to be a case by case basis, it can’t be a blanket “mum has kids 60/40 so they get the final say on everything” because unfortunately there are mums who don’t act in the best interest of the child and there are dads who are mostly powerless to stop it being the the NRP so giving away any influence they may currently have would make it a whole lot worse for those children. I personally have witnessed years and years of attempted parental alienation for no other reason that power and control (and spite).

Youre not wrong OP generally, but it wouldn’t make sense for it to be a blanket approach.

No, i haven't misunderstood. They do have a responsibility to provide for their children. That's what the cms is for. And I know they're shit but they do exist. You cannot force someone to physically see or care for their children.

You don't want him to have any rights. But you want him to bring them up and provide for them. Which is it? You can't have both.

How would this work when "NRP" is such a broad phrase? Could be 99:1, could be 50:50?

Are there any statistics out there to indicate the average split across two actively involved parents?

What rights are you talking about specifically?

Luckily no, but they're the child's rights not his. I think you have misunderstood. The children have a right to a relationship with the parents, not the other way around.

Can you elaborate on that? Were you forced to have a child with this man?

And actually, what the legal system upholds is the child's rights. Which you'd know if you had any real understanding of this. Parents don't have rights.

You don't get to write him out of your children's life because you now don't think he's enough?

Presumably that was a choice you made?

I joined mumsnet when I became full-time RP for my DCs. "By parents, for parents" and all that. Sadly my ex couldn't be relied upon to put our children's best interests first.

Trust me - your feelings about your ex in particular and male NRPs in general ooze out of every sentence.

Safeguard the majority from....what?

The majority of NRPs are reasonable human beings, able to gave a conversation and gave input on decisions regarding their own children. Being a mother doesn't mean you need to be safeguarded from someone you chose to have children with.

Sure, for some people this will be the case. This is a minority and it's what courts are for. Your view is bizarre. Perhaps you should have chosen to have a child alone.

Why is it then that children need adopting when their mothers aren't able to look after them considering pregnancy gives you this wonderful superpower of doing no wrong?

Some dads are shit. I am fully aware. My own dad was shit. Very very shit. Some mums are shit also. Why is that so hard for you to believe? Not all women are wonderful mothers. I'm sorry, but they're not.

No, I don't think I need to add anything. You've already made it crystal clear that you despise your ex so much that you think male NRPs should have no say in their children's lives.

Have you considered getting help for your issues?

What evidence? Plenty. She assaulted dh in front of them several times. Taught them to tell me they hoped my unborn baby would die. She left them on my doorstep several times without any kind of prior warning. All 3 of her children (one not dhs) have been kicked out of her house more than once in their lives. It all happened. She's a vile human being and she doesn't give a shiny little shit about how much she's fucked them all up.