If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

If you get married with existing DCs you are disinheriting them.

So no.

I wouldn't want a life of celibacy either.

In the later years of my marriage to dh I was absolutely certain I would never live with someone or sleep with them again. I couldn't even imagine wanting sex. It wasn't even a bad marriage and he was a lovely man that i loved dearly but his illness made life extremely hard. I'm not brilliant at being a carer and I craved time on my own in my house like a drug. I think I got 20 minutes at home alone in total over that last three years.

After he died I was very OK being on my own for a long time. I was 48. I'll never forget the first night I slept deeply right through in my own bed. And ds was still a young teenager so there was every reason not to bring anyone new into our lives.

But it turned out I did want to be with people again. At first casually, but then further along I met dp, and life just became so much better. We moved in together once all our children had left home. I'm.vrry happy. And given all that, I'd never say never. I know a 91-year old newly-wed who seems to be thoroughly enjoying herself tbh.

No, I wouldn’t. Aside from the fact that my DH is wonderful, the impact on kids of step families isn’t always positive. I wouldn’t want to risk that (as a step child myself).

Maybe, definitely not when kids were young. My issue is I’m quite socially needed, the idea of living by myself sounds awful. So much so I made my current DH promise that I get to die first 😂😂

Given that I'm well past more children remarriage would make no sense at all for me. It would bring me no advantage but would give another person rights over my and DH's assets which should go to my kids. Not in a million years. I'm surprised when people with adult kids remarry for this reason. Why complicate things?

Having another relationship without the legal and financial implications of marriage is different. My DF had a relationship with a lovely lady after my DM died. Her companionship was very good for him in his later years. Both were totally clear about no financial connections and kept separate homes.

100%, it's from people who are adamant about something they've never personally experienced. Like you, @farmergirl15 I have found my DH2 after losing my lovely DH1 in very sudden unexpected circumstances, that I wasn't expecting in a month of Sunday. I've made DH2s life happy and vice versa, neither of us turned down the chance for happiness,

plus, having lost a life partner you're also confronted with crass judgement when you do find love a second time round about how you mustn't get together with someone within x amount of time after losing their DH/DP.

It's because it's never happened to the judgers so up they climb into their very high horse telling others how to live their life and what they can and can't do and in what timescales, even though it isn't their life that has been torn apart.

No. I like my space, good night sleep and no clutter.

my mum died at 59 and dad remarried. I like her, shed kind and my dad is happy and she really looks after him. I have 3 stepsisters but we dont really do anything. Just a chat in the street etc.

but that’s bot my cup of tea

No.

I really can’t imagine marrying anyone else. I hit the relationship jackpot with dh while I was quite young and we understand each other in a way that no other could come close to. Also, I’d want my dds to know that I am 100% focussed on them.

If I were to meet someone special that I got on with and could share some fun and happy times with, I wouldn’t be averse to it. But marriage, no. And I wouldn’t go looking for it either, it could only be something that happened organically and naturally without force. I’d be quite self-sufficient living on my own with my animals and dds stopping by for however long they wish to.

No idea.

It's easy to say no when you're not in that position but who knows what the reality would be?

I'm 61, been looking after DH after a cataclysmic event effectively disabled him. I absolutely wouldn't want to run the risk of having to do it again for someone else, and the chance at my age would be quite high. I don't want him to die but I can see a future for me beyond the terrible now and the inevitable. So, no to another 'relationship' , but having a male friend to hang out with would be fine.

100% NO. I would never live with a man again ever. I would live with a female friend though.

No!

No. They're more trouble than they're worth and I wouldn't have the time to put into dating anyway.

No. I’d get loads of cats.

I am a step parent and would categorically not blend families or have a partner live with me until DC’s were adults.

I might remarry if the right person came along when the kids were older and independent.

I'm widowed, and when my husband was dying, I went to a carers group. I was listening to a bunch of women for whom caring was going on for far longer than me, and thought "I can't go through this again" and knew there'd be no-one else.

I do miss having a default person to share activities with though. Initially I enjoyed my own company and learned to relish that independence. But that's worn off now and I frequently feel lonely. But that kind of friend that I need, not a husband or partner.

I'm not denying that.

At the moment my sister is going through an awful health crisis due to a brain tumour. Her husband has supported her fantastically. Without him her life would have fallen apart.

I know of many cases where a husband has helped his wife through difficult times.

No, I couldn't be bothered.
But if I did happen to stumble upon a new love, I would never force a boyfriend on our DS, I would never bring another partner into my DSs home.

Agree! I’m late 40s now. Online dating wasn’t a thing when I was single. Not a chance in hell I’d do it if I became unexpectedly single again.

I think I’d be too lazy to do OLD. It sounds awful.

I have been lucky enough to be married to one of the very best men for 15 years now. If we weren't together any more I'm sure I would want to find love again eventually because my DH has enriched my life so much. I'm an intelligent, pretty woman - and only 35 - so I am sure I could find someone pretty amazing second time around. However, I don't think I'd want to blend families while children were still young, which would obviously make it harder. It would take a long time to move on for me, though, as DH is in soul mate territory (even though I don't believe in soul mates as such).

No, they broke the mold whe. They made Dh. He’s one of a kind and I’d never find anyone as great as hi again. Also I frankly don’t like people much! I like him. But I can’t imagine getting close enough to anyone to actually determine if I enjoyed them, because I really would prefer to not be around people if I can help it. 😂

I don't think so, but never say never.

Brilliant!🤣

This is exactly like me!