If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

Tasteless OP

Please note my use of the word 'might'.

You said they "with 40 years of loneliness ahead they might think differently."

The "might" qualified whether they would think differently after several years of being single, not whether they would be lonely: your post assumed that single people who are younger have decades of loneliness ahead when many do not feel lonely. There is more to life than romantic relationships.

NO fucking way
Not falling for that old mallarky again.

That would be cases where people don't have things nailed down legally. There's a post in relationships currently where someone who has made a disastrous financial mistake with a partner. I know people will say " pre nups aren't legal." In practice they are.

@PrincessMee possibly but I hear of too much going wrong after the parent has died and the children end up missing out7

No, definitely, definitely not. Married over 30yrs. Marriage/long-term partnership a once-in-a-lifetime thing for me. No-one else would put up with me, anyhow, and I couldn’t tolerate anyone but dh’s idiosyncrasies now!

No, once I had recovered I would be open to dating again, but I wouldn’t move someone in until the children had permanently moved out due to the relationship ending traumatically. I wouldn’t however marry as I wouldn’t want to risk assets being diluted for our children.

A close friend is in a difficult situation at the moment, he and his wife divorced and he was able to re-mortgage and keep the childrens family home. Seven years later he re-married, she recently had an affair discovered and he is now unable to keep the family home due to how much she has been awarded in the divorce settlement and him being recently self employed due to becoming disabled, so he and his two children are having to live a very small rented home as moving further away would make contact with their mum challenging.

Not sure. I would miss the companionship, closeness and sex (even though that area is kind of lacking currently with DH) but I definitely don't think I could remarry whilst my kids are still dependent, as my experience as a child of divorced parents was quite difficult.

However, because marriage has largely been a very positive experience for me, I would hope I could find that happiness again with someone else. Especially if DH died before I was 50 or so. That seems potentially a long time to be alone.

No, I really don't think I would. I definitely wouldn't enter the seventh circle of hell that online dating seems to be. Delighted to have lived a dic pic free existence thanks

I've often wondered if I should since my wife passed. I've not looked for anyone else but I'm pleased to see that someone in a similar situation has found contentment. Knowing that it's possible does help

I was widowed at 47. My kids were 4 and 6. I guess I though I would but it hasn't happened and I'm in my 60s now. I'm content.

Pre nups and wills 😉

Hell No
Just Me Myself and I and a little dog

No.

I wouldn't promise not to because you never know but I really can't see it happening.

No.

if dh & I divorced (or died I hope I have many more years left with him) I have always said I’d never re marry (I am quite content to be on my own with my children)

I would also if I ever felt like dating again never want to blend a family. I’ve seen the destruction this can cause (yes I am aware some are brilliant as well) I do not want to be a step parent - so in the unlikely event of divorce even if I did think about it my pool of candidates would be very small 🤣

Not until my kids moved out and even then I'm not sure I would bother. Also I'm bi and if I was to date again I wouldn't date men.

I’m really surprised that nearly everyone on this thread has said “no”. DH and I have been very happily married for 40 years and have had the chat. We are in our 60’s now. I would hope he would be dating again within3 months if I died. I love being married as well as the person I married and would want that to be my life going forward. A prenup and new will would be required of course but for me nothing else is as good a way to live. I have a strong libido and would want to live with any new partner for that reason too.

My paternal grandmother was married three times. She was never divorced. She lost her first husband to a works accident just after they were married. Her second husband - my grandfather - died suddenly in his 40s of a heart attack, when their kids were early 20s. She married again and then died of cancer in her 50s.

Which is to say, none of us know what life is going to throw at us and the choices we might make. I don't think I'd marry again after DH, but I think I'd want romantic companionship in some form. But I can't say I'd never marry again.

i definitely wouldn't. I'm early 60s with no interest in sex and couldn't be bothered with all the dating stuff again.

Thank you @BirthdayRainbow. I have been very lucky – DP couldn’t be more different to DH but he is so incredibly good to me and to DD, so understanding about the place DH has and will always have in our lives. and we love him very much. What you said on your later post spoke to me too. FIL – DH’s dad – was widowed young (he was about 50) and he didn’t meet anyone else. But he was the most understanding and supportive out of anyone when I met DP – he said that while he didn’t think he wanted or needed to meet anyone else when his children were at home, now that he’s older he regrets not having done so. He was very glad that I did, and I know DH would be too.

Nope

Nope. Although I would like a partner (maybe I mean FWB, I'm not sure), I couldn't be bothered with a relationship again. It's bloody hard work, I love myself and my own company and couldn't imagine giving someone new that kind of commitment again.

Definitely nope 😬

No, i wouldnt remarry, i dont think. Although I can't get my head around dating anyone else either (not judging those who do!). It's hard to think of that scenario when you're in love and don't want to think about it! Once you're in it I'm sure it's different. I would want to love again I'm sure.

No I wouldn't. We married young and have a pretty happy and solid marriage of thirty eight years.
No regrets but I would not give up my independence for anybody.
Told my husband this too...but would maybe get somebody in to check the lightbulbs on a Friday night 😉

My husband did die, and not in a million years.

I do believe marriage and think that's the idea state to raise a family, but once that's done, can't see any benefit at all.