If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

I would remarry but I wouldn't get involved with someone who already has kids, and I wouldn't have a child with my new partner. It would be too complicated for me.

I'd also love back to be near friends and family so I'd have more people around me.

Haven’t RTFT. My children are mid-late teens so they’re rapidly gaining independence and I think they’d understand if I had another LTR or remarried as my step-Mum was a lovely Grandma to them (my Dad was a widower).

But, I honestly couldn’t be bothered with another serious relationship. I wouldn’t mind going out to things with someone, but living with them-no thanks! I’d be happy to be thoroughly selfish and not have to share my space with a man again.

Dating, yes. Living together or marriage, firm no.

Never. They broke the mould as they say, I’d never get as good again.

Never say never but I'm not sure I would remarry or live with someone else.

Date/be in a relationship though yes, it's nice to have that someone in your corner. It's hard work though so I don't know if I could be bothered with online dating but meeting people organically would be good.

No I wouldn't. I would definitely want sex and maybe a lovely relationship but, in my mid 60s and 40yrs married, I wouldn't marry or share my home on a permanent basis again.

I'm late 40s, slightly rocky marriage with 2 preteen kids. I cannot imagine being bothered enough to date if I was on my own again. I have enough on my plate with work, kids, house, elderly parents. But I think it's impossible to commit to saying a blanket never, as it could change when it happened, or a year after that, or 10 years.

Honestly I wasn't even a great catch in my 20s and found it hard enough to meet someone then. I can't imagine men falling at my feet in my 50s. I doubt it would be an option anyway.

I married and divorced, never thinking that would happen. I have remarried never thinking it wills happen.

So, yes…I probably would remarry at some point. Or at least have a long term relationship.

Na might have a friend with benefits thing going on as I like sex but not the whole relationship thing.

I'm so pleased to hear this. It must have been devastating losing your husband and if you found someone you love, you deserve to act upon it.

Same. I have no interest in men other than my bloke.

That’s the reason I stayed single @Newmumatlast , apart from not being interested lol. ExH inflicted seven ‘girlfriends’ on DC in one year - what an absolute wxxkertron.

DC (and being able to give them a leg up when I’m no longer here) are my absolute priority, I don’t need a man to make me happy, fulfilled or financially solvent. I certainly don’t want to carve up my modest assets.

I agree. I actually don't think blended families are that positive for children unless the new partner is an improvement on a negative situation. I also think there is statistically a risk of abuse from step parents. I say this as one. I think unless my children expressed a wish for me to meet someone - some children do prefer it - I would wait until they were at least 18. I think acting in a child's best interests does sometimes mean putting your own needs on hold or being discreet about relations and not involving them. I wouldn't have had children if I wasn't prepared to put them first. I'd be concerned too that relationships could fail. I understand even relationships with bio parents can - but I wouldn't want to risk them having multiple different people to get to know and lose.

I don’t think I would. I certainly wouldn’t be actively looking for a relationship. I suppose there’s a chance I might meet someone in the normal course of life, but I’m not sure I could be arsed.

No. I'd not risk the assets.

I'd rather wait until DD was moved out and just have some fun boyfriends that might or might not become long term.

I have the best DH but should we no longer be together for any reason, I would like to be single. I have a lot of friends and hobbies and don't really have any appetite to compromise on anything, even as simple as having to have a conversation about what to make for tea when I don't feel like thinking about it yet.

Sorry men!

God no. But I would have a lot more animals

Never. I doubt I would ever live with a man either.

I agree OP, I really can’t see me dating until they’re grown up. I don’t want my kids to have step parents and I really don’t want step children.

My DH died nearly 21 years ago. He killed himself.
I am not a rich widow and we did not have any children.
I have not remarried, although a few years ago I might have considered it.

I’ve thought about this before myself and I’m really not sure. I have no interest in being with anyone else but him. But I’m only in my twenties so if something were to happen to him right now that’s a very long time to be alone. I think it would depend on how I felt at the time. It would definitely take me a very long time to be ready to marry again if I ever was at all.

@PrincessMee you do not need to marry or even have a boyfriend to have sex. And lots of womens sex drive declines past menopause.

@randomchap and @mondaytosunday please meet up with each other! ❣️

I'm surprised there are so many women here with no sex life or a desire for one.

My mum was widowed in her mid 30s, left with 4 kids - I was 7. She never looked remotely interested in getting together with anyone again.

I kind of wish she had as I didn't have much of a role model for relationships....