If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

I agree. My single friends are all mid/late 50’s and without exception never want to live with a man again.
Think most of us would be open to dating if someone worthwhile crossed our paths but they can go back to their own place often 🤣🤣

I think I'd want the occasional arm at the opera and a meal with red wine at home and a bit of sex. But not marriage. I'd go travelling hard and would tuck myself away in my dream location (cottage in the Outer Hebrides with good wifi and a pub).

I really couldn't be bothered. I love my husband, but relationships and marriage are hard work. Can't imagine wanting to do it again.
I am an introvert though, and like my own company. I know relatives on their third marriage, they don't want to be alone. I get that too. We are all different.

I might get an extra dog though ...

Difficult to say. I think I would if it was (or I believed it was) absolutely the right person for me.

One of my aunts was the 4th wife of a really unpleasant man. She thankfully saw the light and left after about 5-6 years.

A few years back she rang my parents and said that her ex was marrying for the 7th time...... but to his first ex wife. My mother rather unwisely commented; 'Oh well, wait long enough he will get around to you again too'.

This did NOT go down well, sadly. Because it was literally the funniest thing my mother has ever said I think.

There's so many questions that could be asked there 😂😂

I used to work with lady who had been married 5 times. 2 of her ex husbands killed themselves.

No. DH and I have been together for 35 years. If anything happened to him I wouldn't contemplate it. It would be far too messy financially in any event.

Only if we didn’t live together, maybe.

Tbh, I can count on one hand how many men I have seen that if I were single I would want to get to know them more. Plus, I’m not sure I could if something happened to DH considering we have a sen child who may never live independently, leave home. I probably wouldn’t bring anyone into the home until our 9 mo moved out

No as dh is my 4th... Would def get another ddog though...

There’s not a man in the world that would live up to my husband. I would never remarry. The kids are grown up now but there’s still no way I would.

Probably not.

Just too messy financially.

However, I might seek a LTR but wouldn't move in with him.

Yes I think I got that. I feel like I can actually confidently say never. I was very happily single until I was 37. I love my DC very much but I’ll be extremely content living alone again.

I think the answer is, you can’t know until you’re in this situation.

I am divorced and have made a decision not to bring another man into my children’s lives. I’m open to dating etc, but not to any kind of relationship that means children have to have that adult in their lives.

The decision is the right one for me. But obviously it has its downsides.

When friends who are married / in a long term relationship say “oh yes if my husband/ partner died I don’t think I’d live with anyone else” or “I think I’d be very happy alone, I find it a bit smug to be honest. They don’t know how they’ll feel. They can’t possibly understand the reality of living your life alone, esp with children.

I haven't. Found my self alone with an 11 month old and 2yr old when I was early thirties. Am still alone now late 40s. Have honestly loved raising my kids single handedly. We've had so much fun. Don't get me wrong, tough times too. But no way would I risk introducing another man into their lives, they don't need to be let down again.

GradGirl that was my point that it's such an individual and sometimes circumstantial thing. In the years before I said never again but things changed in my situation in that moment I wanted to again.
So I couldn't say if I lost my second husband that I wouldn't marry or live with someone again because for me over the years my feelings changed

I think age is probably a factor for many people. If I’d lost my DH or got divorced n my 30’s, I might have wanted another relationship. At nearly 50, I cba. 🤣

It’s easy to say when you’re not in the situation but I don’t believe so. I have a toddler already, and one baby on the way, with my husband and I wouldn’t be interested in financially and legally entangling myself with another man, no matter how good I believed they were to me and my son.
I wouldn’t say no to being in a serious relationship again. I’m only thirty and there would be a lot of life to live single should I lose my wonderful husband now… whoever I chose next would have to be absolutely fantastic to even come close to competing though! And it would take a very long time before I would be willing to introduce my children to anyone else.

Sorry to hear this (Farm accidents are shocking) but glad to hear all ended well and you had a daughter too

Also, I think I would really enjoy living on my own and having control over my own space. I have only met one bloke I wanted to share living space with and I am married to him.

I would never tie myself up in the legal noose of marriage again.

A relationship yes, but separate homes. Welcome to stay at mine, and vice versa but there would be rules around that !

I wouldn't marry again because I wouldn't want any doubt at all about who my next of kin would be (my DD). I would be very reluctant to move in with someone because I don't want any doubt at all after I die about who inherits from me (again, my DD, even if we were to fall out). So it's hard to imagine wanting to. But lots of people say that and then change their minds later.

But some of us are in that moment, as in happily divorced for a number of years with no desire to or making an effort to change it.

I don't think anyone can say until they've been there in that moment.
I divorced and then met my now dh. Were were adamant we'd never marry but we did eventually and were very happy

I don’t think I would but it wouldn’t surprise me if my husband did if I were to die- men often seem to do that.

Even if I did eventually date, I wouldn’t combine households until the children left home. I wouldn’t bring someone else into the home with girls- it feels like a high risk to their health and happiness.