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If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

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Eastereggmadness · 20/07/2024 23:23

My DD 10 asked me this out of the blue? And asked me to promise I never would! (She'd watched some programme with new stepmum in it).
And it got me thinking. I don't think I ever would at least till they were grown up) as I don't think my kids would like it. But maybe that is a bit martyrish of me. I wonder what others think.

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Ridiculousme · 20/07/2024 23:32

Gawd no, 24 years in, not got the energy to train another one.

PortiasBiscuit · 20/07/2024 23:31

Nope, adore my grumpy old man, no interest at all in taking on another one though.

Babyboomtastic · 20/07/2024 23:30

I don't know.
It would take me a very very long time to get over him and even be able to contemplate it.

I'd like to think that I'd eventually be open to love again, but after an amazing relationship with my husband, he'd have done very difficult boots to fill. I feel like I found the 1 in a million the first time round, what are the chances of finding that again? And having experienced it, I wouldn't settle for less.

LadyFeatheringt0n · 20/07/2024 23:30

Nope! Couldn't be arsed. Have a big supportive family and am quite content in my own company.

cadburyegg · 20/07/2024 23:30

farmergirl15 · 20/07/2024 23:28

I said I wouldn't, however when I was in my late twenties my husband died. I met my new husband 5 years later and we are coming up to our 9th wedding anniversary. We have a daughter together.
It's very easy to say something until you've gone through it then you can't make the decision.

This. As a divorced mum it's very tiring having happily married people tell me "ooooh I don't think I'd bother dating again if I were you"

caringcarer · 20/07/2024 23:30

No. If my DH died or we divorced I'd not remarry. I'm too old to start a relationship with a new person. I'm too set in my ways.

materialgworl · 20/07/2024 23:30

I'd definitely date and have relationships but I'd never marry again nor move in with a man

Bigstuffypillow · 20/07/2024 23:29

Nope definitely not
A friend who is a few years younger than me (53) is divorced and is forever meeting men Online, then dumping them as they aren't perfect.
I honestly couldn't be bothered with all that dating malarkey anymore.

chattyness · 20/07/2024 23:29

No

farmergirl15 · 20/07/2024 23:28

I said I wouldn't, however when I was in my late twenties my husband died. I met my new husband 5 years later and we are coming up to our 9th wedding anniversary. We have a daughter together.
It's very easy to say something until you've gone through it then you can't make the decision.

ItMustBeBedtimeSurely · 20/07/2024 23:28

No. It’s crap for the kids and my standards are far too high anyway 😄

jesnih · 20/07/2024 23:28

No, I've thought about this a few times. When I met DH I wasn't interested in being in a couple or getting married or even having dc, I've never wanted any of those things in an abstract sense. I'm happier on my own. But I fell for DH so I made an exception. If he was no longer in my life, I would just continue as it was before I met him (but with dc).

ShaunaSadeki · 20/07/2024 23:26

Absolutely not, I love DH very much, but I would be perfectly happy and content living with DC and then alone

Sunhatweather · 20/07/2024 23:26

No, but I might take in a lodger or companion who is in a similar position. I’d miss the company and caring/being cared for. Not bothered about an actual relationship.

RisingSunn · 20/07/2024 23:25

Firm no.

AzureBlue99 · 20/07/2024 23:25

No. Not interested in men anymore.

ThePoshUns · 20/07/2024 23:25

My kids asked me the same question once. It was a firm no from me.
I really couldn't be bothered. I'd rather live on my own.

CornishTeaTime · 20/07/2024 23:24

Never

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