If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

I was having this conversation with my mum this week as they have been to 4 second weddings this summer. My parents know lots of people in their 60's and 70's who have been widowed and all bar one have remarried - the one who hasn't says his wife was the love of his wife and he could never be with anyone else. The ones who remarried this year all were married for between 40 and 50 yrs. I think nowadays it is OK for women to be on thir own bit I think for older people being single has more of a stigma to it than marrying again.

Actually, I think maybe I'd try and find myself a female companion

Absolutely not, wouldn't want to share my life with any other man.
I would get a lover though, although I wouldn't actively look for one.
I definitely wouldn't do any online dating and I wouldn't want to live with a man.
I would be extremely weary about any danger to my children's inheritance, nobody would be allowed to touch it. It's for the children only.

This. I can't conceive of bothering with one again.

Absolutely not. I already value time alone, and the Relationships board on MN has irrevocably put me off the idea of hetting involved with any other man if I found myself single.

I wouldn't, partly to safeguard my child's home and inheritance, partly because I think the likelihood of finding someone I gel with would only decrease as I get older. I've been lucky to find DH - I've been interested in very few men during my life and I seem to meet less people as I get older. I wouldn't definitively rule out dating but I wouldn't want to mix finances and households. I would feel differently if I didn't have children though.

No, I wouldn't live with another man ever again.

Such a tricky question! I don't think I would be looking for a relationship and v probably would actually be avoiding one - but it absolutely depends on the other person you meet, doesn't it? How can anyone truly know what they would feel until they are in this situation?

I do have a little fantasy which is that if I ever became single again I'd go for a relationship with another woman. Tragically, I'm not sure I'm actually gay enough. But if I could be gay enough, that would be ideal. Especially for my future hypothetical girlfriend/wife (who in my imagining is 100% lesbian but always wanted kids and she's a natural with them ofc) because she'd get my kids as a perk 😂

I kind of think my DH would like this scenario best to be honest. And the kids. Noone replacing him, just basically getting a bonus mum in the house. Probably haven't thought this through fully...

I was divorced at aged 32 with two young kids....stayed single for 13 years.....was ok about it....now 2yrs into a new relationship.....kids young adults so that's fine.....would marry again potentially.

I might do, mainly because I got together with DH after splitting up with DS1's dad, so I have a positive experience of bringing in a stepfather. DS1 was very young though and his father was awful

I def wouldn't be hunting around ASAP but I wouldn't say no if the right person came along.

I'm not married but I cannot imagine subjecting my kids to another man in their life nor getting undressed in front of someone else ever again.

😂

If anyone was watching The Railway Station Man on BBC 4 the other night (dramatisation of the Jennifer Johnston novel), that’s what I want — being Julie Christie painting and seaswimming and wearing rugged but wonderful clothes on a cliff in Donegal, with occasional visits from Donal Sutherland. We’ll skip the paramilitary involvement and petulant son bit.

I’d look for a companion who’s good at gardening, housework, DIY and paying bills and who would enjoy a platonic friendship.

What the hell! It’s just a bit of wishful thinking 🤔

No. Definitely not.

He's my best friend as well as my husband and frankly I could not be bothered to build up the 20ys plus understanding we have of each other with someone else.

Just the day to day of living with someone "other" who didn't understand my quirks is an awful prospect.

Same if we divorced.

I might date someone potentially (though they would have a very high bar to reach) but I'd never marry again or share a house/finances.

All that said I'm someone who is very comfortable in my own company.

No. If my DH died I wouldn't want to make his assets accessible to someone else. And if we divorced I doubt I'd be in a rush to go off and do it all again.

No.

No. never. I had a horrible first husband, have an amazing second husband, he drives me nuts sometimes, but he has worked hard for our family . Early retirement has been a test of our strength together. And ya sometimes I think we both want to LTB lol..but not really. I had the worst. I had the best. That is a 50/50 chance and being in my late 50's now, not willing to chance it again. I will ride this wave to the end, and if he ends first, I will forever be grateful for his love and I will never even date again. Happy in my own company and that of friends anyway.

I really can’t imagine it, the thought is too heartbreaking. But I guess maybe I would eventually.

my DF married twice after my mum died - once when I was a child and once when I was an adult. Neither lasted but I’m glad he tried to find happiness.

i think my kids would struggle but maybe I’d wait until they were much older.

@farmergirl15 you were still very young so it makes sense. If my DH died in his sixties as he is now, it is a very different scenario.

No.
I've had a long (35 yrs and counting) marriage and I love him but I am am not dependent on him for my happiness. I also like my own space!
Plus I have an adult autistic son who will always live with me so would be reluctant to let anyone into my home who didn't love him too.
I would probably have more cats and dogs though

This with bells on.

I honestly don’t know because I can’t predict the future.

Yes I would, if i fell in love again. Of course.

No I wouldn't. Dh isn't perfect but we fit. I really don't think I would be comfortable again (36 years together).

Can't remember where I heard it but -

Life is like a box of chocolates - leave it too long and only the weird nutty ones are left.

When I was younger, yes. Now I unlikely. Maybe someone I saw regularly where we dated, but lived apart.