If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

No. Never again.

I was married for years, my ex hubby cheated so we split. I never wanted another relationship, but a year later met the love of my life. Best thing ever

THIS! ⬆️ This exactly!

none of us - NONE OF US- can say what we would do in those circumstances.

PS: That above also includes I won't date either.

When I was younger I may have considered it, but now definitely not. I might like companionship or a FWB arrangement, but I really couldn’t be arsed with having someone else in my space.

Same as @SamW98 , I’m in my 50s and of the many couples I know who’ve split up, virtually all the men have gone on to cohabit or remarry, and all the women have stayed single or at least maintained their own home and independence. The only one who let her boyfriend move in with her quickly realised he was a hell of a lot more charming when he wasn’t lounging around on her sofa being a total cocklodger, so she boomeranged him straight back out again.

I am 6 years a married, widow. That's the term I use. I won't remarry. I have no interest. To me, even the thought feels like cheating.

My husband was,/is my 2nd husband, my soul mate, best friend, and the dad he didn't have to be to our 4 + grandpa to 5.

When I met him, I was in the middle of the divorce from hell. He saw through all the chaos of our lives to whom we were.

He had never married or had children because he dad was a very poorly nan and had gone blind when he was 20. As the eldest of 5, he stopped at home to help give his parents a life. We met as his dad passed 22 years ago.

I had fled domestic abuse, 2 years before, was involved in the whole system of this country, and he took us on and taught us what real love was and is. I also had a dysfunctional childhood, too.

My husband wedding ring is under mine on the third finger left hand.

I have a good life, enriched with family and fellowship. I continue our travelling with him in spirit.

My husband existed and still does. I honour him by appropriately keeping his memory alive and breathing for both of us, as 2 worlds entwined now.

My children see my late husband as dad. The biological one has the boys' call him is elsewhere in the world. They cut the ex off years ago.

The poem attached sums it up. Death ended my husband life. It didn't end our relationship/marriage. I take him with me wherever I go in spirit.

Loving that the general consensus is ‘nah couldn’t be arsed’ 😂😂

I wonder if the fact you’ve asked about remarrying rather than just dating means people are more likely to say no. I expected to see more people saying yes but then I was thinking of it as meeting someone else rather than actually getting married. I wouldn’t go through a wedding again so wouldn’t get married but think I’m too young (late 30s) to spend the rest of my life alone!

No, I don't think so.

I truly believe I've got one of the good ones. If that's right no one else would measure up. And if it turns out that I haven't then my judgement is shite and I'm better off single for my own good

Only if he was rich and childless and very very old.

No, not really. Couldn't be arsed with training another bloke to have expectations in line with my inclinations.

Well, DH did up and die. Very careless of him I thought.
And I’ve never contemplated even going out with another man, I just couldn’t.
But I think if I’d died he’d have met someone else. Not because he didn’t love me or respect me but because he was just no good on his own. He was a widower ( his wife died young) when we met and he hated being single.

No no no no no no no no nooooooo!!!

Ps remember Castaway? I was insanely irritated by the ending of that. Extremely irrationally angry😅😅😅

God no - would never love with another man again, too much grief!

No I wouldn’t ever it was stressful enough planning my wedding there is no way I’m doing it again.

No. I'd date if the opportunity came up, but not marry. Definitely not. Mainly because I want any money I have to be inherited by my children.

This.

You can't possibly know OP until you are in that position.

I don’t think I would, especially if divorced, I’d listen to Alannis Morrisette and become a man hater. Widowed I think I’d see Dh through rose tinted glasses and not get married either😅

Absolutely not, I’d probably have a relationship but I’d never marry or cohabit with anyone ever again.

My mum was widowed at 29 and remarried a few years later, she’s just been widowed a second time in her 60s and she’s said she’s never having another relationship.

Widowed in my 50s here. All the decent men I know married about age 30 and are still with their wives. The single men I know have significant baggage and I wouldn’t touch with a barge pole. Yes, some companionship would be nice, but I’m not willing to compromise.

In the unlikely event I did meet a nice bloke, I would never marry, as I’d prefer my kids to inherit the pensions/investments their dad and I accrued.

My husband died in 2012 aged 50 and me 48. Thought I'd never re marry then my children left home and I didn't like being alone....ventured into OLD nightmare but did meet someone after a few months in August 2018...love at first sight and we married in 2022.

I don't believe so. I don't believe in saying never but I think it's highly unlikely. My DH is enough relationship for a lifetime for me (in a good way!).

No one can say for certain.
My grandad was with my gran until their 60s. She died, and a few years later, he met someone else. It was brief, but omg, the shit he had from his kids about "betraying" the memory of my gran. People are allowed to move on.

My ex's brother's wife died (in her 40s) and he met someone else. Now happily married.

You read about couples pairing up in care homes.

I wouldn't. I'm in 40s and I've been in love with husband for most of my life. Finally got together just over a decade ago and we have a family. I wouldn't ever want the boys to have another father and I wouldn't gain anything from marrying someone who isn't ever going to compare to what we have. I would rather be independent and have a fling or two if I wanted but the thought of going through a wedding again and all that is completely out of the question. But I have lived a life - I've had enough men for a lifetime. I think I would enjoy the quiet and the memories of when we were so so lucky.

Nope