If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

This. I might also ‘take a lover’. But I never want to live with anyone ever again.

Not a chance.

I love my husband and I am glad I married him and that we had DC.

But I’d kill to live on my own again. (Just not willing to kill DH or DC, obviously). Menopause may be a factor.

No, I wouldn’t want the bother of getting used to someone else’s annoying habits or really trust anyone else with my son.

No, not ever ever ever. I've been married twice & to all extents at the age I am now it has had its benefits. My kids have grown up with 2 parents & we've been fortunate enough to have a joint income to do the things we have wanted. But now we are semi-retired/retired & I face years more of our current situation I would not recommend it.
Its a companionable relationship - so OK-ish, but no sex, very little emotion or "feelings' communications & while I get that he is bored, thats not my problem to solve. DH sees very few people, has become so withdrawn & more introverted than he has been before, maybe even depressed - but nothing I expected our older years to be like.
Wouldnt it be an ideal situation to live next door or down the way a bit in my own place, with my little dog - all my crafty bits & books around me. And if I want just an omelet for dinner I could. Dreams :)

I think being widowed in your 20s or 30s is difficult but wildly different when it happens much older.
I just wouldn't have the headspace for living with someone.

Id definitely have relationships but I'd never live with someone age.
And I know this.

I was out with a group of women recently and this question came up and all but one said absolutely not! We are in our 50s and all been married 20-30 years. I love my husband he’s one in a million and I just don’t think I’d find someone like him again. Plus all the hassle of another set of in-laws, step children, new partner having opinions about my kids, merging finances ugh no.

The one woman who said yes I think isn’t particularly happy in her marriage and is the type that wants to be looked after.

What every woman who vows never to get 'entangled' again needs is a nice gay (male) best friend.

All the benefits of socializing with a man, none of the hassle.

@peachgreen I am glad you found someone else, I would have at your age. I do think it is different when you are older. Most older widows do not remarry. They may have a boyfriend or companion though.

I’d be happy to have a nice friend to go to the movies with etc but would never merge two families. It’s unfair on the children.

I always said I wouldn’t. Said nobody could ever measure up to DH so if he wasn’t here I would rather be alone etc etc. Then my DH actually died and I was a widow at 36. The reality turned out to be very different to the hypothetical and I am angry at past me for being so smug and sure about things. My DP has hugely enhanced my life – and DD’s – and I am so grateful to have had two such kind, generous, lovely, gentle, patient men as my great loves.

No I don't think anyone else would be able to live up to them but isn't it funny how women don't or take a lot longer to move on but men move on very quickly from my experience anyway... such different creatures.

Hell no. Not only for the fact I love the bones of him but also because they're (the male species) are to hard to feckin train. Couldn't imagine having to start afresh 🤣

The probability of finding anyone suitable who’d be into me seems vanishingly small so I think it’s a no.

I don't think so. I'm in my late 50s and have been with DH since we were in our mid 20s. I don't think I could be bothered starting all over again. I suppose if someone amazing somehow came into my life then maybe, but I can't really imagine how that would happen and I certainly wouldn't go out searching for someone. I think I would probably sell up and move to a little cottage fairly close to but not right on top of my adult DD if DH died.

Definitely not.

Absolutely not , been with my husband for 39 yrs and I’d never find another one as good as him .

I couldn’t be arsed with all the hassle.

Nah. I think I'd just like an old fashioned companion for theatre, days out and travel.

I'm in my early 30s and although ttc no kids yet. I've been with my DH since a young age and he is amazing.

Thinking about our current situation:

Would I date/have a relationship? Yes
Would I marry? Unlikely

I think I'd chose a woman next time. I love my DP very much and desire him, but all my sexual and romantic fantasies are about women

It would very much depend on if someone nice enough turned up. My standards would be very high, and I'd be unwilling to change my lifestyle or day to day routine, so it would be unlikely there'd be someone suitable. I can't imagine online dating. I really don't know how I'd meet a new partner if I was single. And I do think the decent ones are mostly taken at 45 plus.

Not a snowball's chance in hell. DH is lovely and we've been married forever (both retired now), and if I lost him I'd never marry nor cohabit again. In fact, I don't think I'd even be interested in having a 'companion'. I have enough friends, hobbies, and social activities of my own to keep me quite busy and happy. And my adult sons are lovely and we enjoy spending time together. My life would still be rich and full, although I'd miss DH dearly.

My mum felt like I do and never remarried after dad died. She always said she had the best husband in the world, no one could equal Dad, and she couldn't see settling for less. She was a widow for 23 years and kept herself busy and happy with church, canasta, travel, and her DGC. Her sister was a widow for only 18 months before she remarried. Her late husband was just as lovely as my own dear dad, but she was a woman who 'needed a man'. So it's horses for courses, naturally.

But I'd say that in general more 'mature' women are less likely to want someone in their lives. Younger women, I can see why they may want to start over with someone new.

DPS brothers marriage broke up.

Jesus no.
Couldn't think of anything worse.
33 year relationship,still have teenagers here.
But that's not the reason.
I just couldn't be arsed.
Id enjoy my freedom.

But DPS marriage broke up a few years ago.
And he said why did he start again with a new relationship.
I feel the same,I'd enjoy my peace.

I'm so sorry.