If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

When I was asked this many years ago I said no, never and that’s exactly how I feel now at 70.
I would be perfectly happy on my own with the dog, and no longer having to put someone else first while never being the first thing in his life.

Absolutely not. I don't want to have any more children and inheritance issues become too problematic with remarriage.

Yes , I would. And have.

I was widowed a few years ago. I am still very much in the depths of grief and get incredibly lonely but I don't think I will ever actively look for a new partner. I have two young children that won't stay with anybody else so I wouldn't have the opportunity anyway!! I'd also be worried about picking the wrong person and ending up in a dysfunctional relationship.
Once my kids are older I fully intend to start living my life, seeing the world, doing hobbies I'm not able to do at the moment. If I happen to meet someone then that would be lovely but I don't think I will seek out a relationship and I will never live with a man again!

It does seem a little mercenary but I like to think this poster as Charlotte Lucas who will be amused by her new husbands ridiculous foibles she puts up with to ensure she has a secure retirement.

Definitely not.

I might’ve when I was younger, but I’m almost 60, and I have lots to keep me busy, so unless someone happened along who completely blew me away, no.

I have some divorced friends. Each time they meet someone the person is an utter twat. Not sure there’s many decent single men out there so I think it’s a no, plus not sure many men would want to live with me anyway. But who knows what the future could hold for any of us?

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm
A woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient, according to a study that examined the role gender played in so-called "partner abandonment." The study also found that the longer the marriage the more likely it would remain intact.

No, I have quite a dim view on men and would not want go through the horrors of online dating again.

💯 agree to this. From someone who had to live with a strange adult male from age 13.

This.

Nobody said nobody should ever remarry. People are saying what they think they would or would not do. As I said in my post, my experience of having a step parent was very negative and it was clouded my relationship with the other parent forever. I wouldn’t do it to my children.

Absolutely never. And not for the sake of the kids either. I would never live with another adult male. If I had another relationship separate houses and definitely no marriage

I’d never remarry. I’d maybe have another relationship but definitely not marriage as I’d want all my assets to go to my child on my death and not to complicate things.

Does not mean everything is easier with a husband!!

Did you ever read about the statistic that when a woman had cancer that’s the time her husband is most likely to leave her?

What about difficult times?
It's all well and good to focus on being independent and enjoying that aspect of the single life but what about going through serious illness or elderly parents? Going through that on your own can be 10 times harder.

This is a very judgmental thread! Until you’ve been single and gone through all the difficulty of feeling like you don’t belong in every social situation or set-up that is designed for couples, you really don’t know. Showing children a functional, loving relationship even if it isn’t that of their parents is also very important.

Being a single parent is incredibly hard and if you can meet someone who everyone loves, why on Earth shouldn’t you have that opportunity, for both you and your children.

No. Can’t be bothered to date etc would rather enjoy my own life and do my own things.
i also hated having a stepparent and would never do that to my kids. Plus I want our home and savings go to our kids not to new husband.

I don't think you can truley know until it has happened to you. I was a very young divorcee at 26 and a widow at 36
And having had both experiences they are nothing alike and can't be compared.
I've now been with my fiancé 10 years

I remember my ex asked me this and I said never say never. He then had a massive strop about it (twat).

I don't want to end up a sad lonely old lady. I may not remarry (once bitten and all that) but I'm open to finding love, just need to find the right man.

I wouldn't be celibate, would definitely date and have sex (on my terms!) but wouldn't marry again. There'd be no benefit - my kids will inherit so don't need to avoid IHT and I'm a high earner so don't need the stability of marriage to protect myself financially.

Hmm not sure... I definitely don't want any more kids, and I'm not keen on the idea of step kids (unless they're already adults). Unlikely to actually remarry I think, but I don't think I'd want to be single forever either.

With that attitude, I hope you don't.

I got divorced 5 years ago, now have a new DP but while we spend half our time together, we don't live together. I have my kids the other half of the time. I enjoy his company and the sex...but I don't think I want to live with someone again or get married. I like my own house and independence.

My ex husband tho, his new partner is desperate to get married to him. No idea why.