Confusing story in bullet points
- separated from DC’s father, not married. He was wealthy. He was also abusive
- he promised me a house in my name, various support - which I’ve been waiting for for about 3 years
- DC makes an allegation about father of a sexual nature
- I am advise to totally block or restrict access while allegations re investigated. Choose to restrict. He goes ballistic
- DC doesn’t repeat allegations, investigation is closed
- Ex then withdraws all support, has his family (who I was close to) cut me off completely, including from their will, takes me off his will, takes me off his life insurance. Says I have lost everything because I didn’t immediately poo poo the allegations and say he’d never do that. The promised house is now out of the question.
- Ive done all the childcare, drop offs, and everything, so he could continue his career. Now I have none and nothing. Yes I was an idiot not to get this sorted earlier, but was also suffering from the aftermath of his abuse
AIBU to think he’s been an absolute prick, “punishing” me when it was his behaviour under question? Sending my DC to stay with him after she told me what he’s said (it was serious) was the most awful moment of my life, now I’m getting “punished” for it?