Why is he nice to others but not me.

Right now you might that think you are the problem or that you can change him.
But it is him who is the problem and absolutely nothing you can do will change him.
It will only get worse if you stay.
Dig deep, use whatever strength you have left and get out. The future you will be thankful you did.

My self worth is in the toilet. He’s managed to convince me I’m everything that’s wrong in the world and more.

If you parted company your life would be so much better.
He is the reason you have no self worth.

He is a nasty, manipulative, abusive bully. Surely, it is far better to be on your own than to live this kind of life?

Keep posting on here. You will get loads of support.

He's isolated you from everyone, right? You might think you have no one now, but I bet the people you knew before him will be very happy to hear from you.

Sounds like you have a narcissist, in tow
do some research,
I put up with one for 26 years
so wish I’d seen the light earlier
it’s not you … it’s him
get rid and rebuild your self esteem
takes time but you will be so pleased to be free
read covert narcissist by Debbie Mizana
good luck
get free

FWIW I don’t think it’s ‘because you let him’ .The reasons women stay with abusive men are abusive and complex. It’s very common for a woman to feel she has nobody when she wants to leave, precisely because life with an abuser is a diminishing existence.
You can go into the relationship with everything in the world, high self esteem , a huge family , a great career, glorious friends and the abuse eats it all over the years until you have no access to money, no friends , etc etc. It’s nearly impossible to retain these things when you’re being abused , because you’re in permanent firefighting/ crisis mode.
The good news is it can all be rebuilt , and built back better.

It is much better to be on your own than with this abusive cruel man.
Just be careful as he will either get worse when he realised you will leave or start being alright to win you back for a little bit.
I hope you find the strength soon.

Because he doesn't like you. And being nasty to you doesn't have any negative consequences.

Leave him. Start planning it now.

YABU to stay with him, he’s an abusive arsehole.

Sorry op that came across as dismissive and harsh and I didn't mean it to. He's a cunt and an abuser and you don't have to put up with it. Make plans to leave - PLEASE

What would you say to a friend or relative who was going through this?

This

You feel like you do because he is an abuser and the purpose of his actions is to drive your confidence and self-worth down.
If you have any friends and family to confide in please do, and you can make a way out of this.
Please note that not telling people about his behaviour is really a pathway to self-destruction. If you want a better life for yourself, you need to face the horrible notion of outing him for what he is. I have been there OP so I know. I would have saved myself two years had I been honest but I knew if I said it out loud there was no way back. I did eventually, and I'm now happily married to someone who respects and values me and would never speak to me like that. There is life after this!

Then you have to unconvince yourself. You know he's full of shit, right?
Start getting your ducks in a row to be able to leave. He will not change for the better, he will only get worse.

This is what domestic abusers do, OP. They know they can't go around abusing everyone, because then they will lose jobs, friends etcetera.
So they just abuse their spouses and children.
Please get rid of this abusive POS.

Nasty little piece of 💩
"Partner" 😡

Leave him. Your self worth will improve massively.

Street angel home devil isn’t he. These men are always the same. It’ll make you feel insane and the reason he does it it because if you decide to leave , it’ll be extra difficult because everyone will tell you how nice he is. But if he decides to leave he will tell everyone it’s all your fault, and you’ll be isolated.
But don’t worry because none of it is true.
Fortunately (or unfortunately) there are enough wonderful women in the world who’ve encountered this exact situation that they’ll scoop you up to support you when you find the strength to say you’ve had enough. and trust me, you’ll be believed.
oh and it’ll be quite the revelation to live a peaceful life free from abuse , and you’ll discover you’re actually amazing. AND you might be surprised when you learn others find you amazing too! After so much abuse it’ll be hard to believe at first but trust me, people will fall at your feet because you’ve had the strength to respect your own boundaries and see the truth when everyone around him has the wool pulled over their eyes.

@PineappleSand please leave him, he sounds like an absolute arsehole and clearly gets his kicks by being mean to you

You are not the issue, he is xx

You make every day of his life a misery yet he’s still with you? Tell him to get some self respect and leave. Or you can get some self respect and leave.

When he tells you you make every day of his life a misery, you realise that he’s a pathetic coward who hasn’t got the guts to leave you and his supposedly hideous life, don’t you? And the reason for that is no fucker else will put up with his vile personality. So, he blames you for his own shit behaviour as that’s easier than looking at himself in the mirror and thinking, “I’m a cowardly little cunt who calls my partner of seven years a rat and makes her feel utterly worthless all day every day.”

It really isn't you who is the problem, its him. Please listen to everyone above and contact a women's refuge. The fact that you are asking means that you know you need to get out. X

He does these things because he is an abuser. Could be he was neglected or abused as a child himself.

You continue to tolerate him and his disgusting behaviour because he has worn you down and ruined your self esteem and hid any hope from you. It is what abusers do.

What is absolutely true always and forever is that it is not your fault. And nor do you have to stay. The hope and light he has taken from you is on the other side of this. You are worth so much more than him and the misery he lives in, and keeps you in.

Contact women's aid. Get advice, make plans and leave. Please 🙏 x

You recognise that he is a vile shit or why would you be posting here ? you know he is wrong and this is a toxic relationship ,
although you say you have no one else surely you know that to be alone and living in peace away from this awful abuse would be better than what you have now.
You have one life only ,find your inner strength and make a plan to get out of this terrible relationship , you do know that he will never ever change don't you ? so you have your destiny in your hands and you have to make the change.
Good luck, there will be so much more to come in your life ,there is happiness in so many ways out there once you are free from this pathetic specimen of a man.