AIBU to keep the compensation money

@Pink39tree I think, that had you kept it quiet and not told your sibling, it would have been fine. But, for some reason, you told her. To be fair, take out what was spent on food and drink and anything else during the delay, and then give the remainder of the ticket cost to your Mom. You keep your cost and any comp. What your Mom does with her money is on her. If she gives it to your sibling, oh well.

If your Mom treats your sib like a "golden child", you have the right to not be her "do it all for mom" child. Have some boundaries and don't feel guilty about them.

I would give mum’s ticket refund and half the compensation to mum, and she can decide what to do with it.

I would tell sibling you’ve given it to mum as it was her journey that was a nightmare , and he can take it up with your mum if he’s that desperate for the money back.

If he gets the ticket refund directly from you, then he’s had the benefit of a visit from his mother accompanied by you acting as a 24 hour carer, at zero cost to himself , and zero impact from the horrendous journey.

I agree with you. Airlines - and other similar organisations - have to set a scale of compensation when something goes wrong and travellers are inconvenienced to an extend that they need to be compensated. It is still compensation and as such belongs to those who suffered. The visit took place, so the sibling saw his mother on the visit abroad, and suffered nothing. He is not entitled to compensation. The fact that the airline bases it's amount of compensation on ticket costs does not mean a refund for the sibling who paid.

It sounds like the fairest thing to do in this situation is refund what your sibling paid for your mums ticket, minus half the expenses you incurred from taking her out there, and you keep the compensation and split with your mum because it was you that had all the stress and hassle, not your sibling.

Give your sibling back what they paid for the ticket and then split the compensation between you and your mum (you are the ones who had the inconvenience).

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Of course you’re being unreasonable. You were refunded the tickets AND compensation. Keep the compensation and give him the money for plane ticket.
when you were out there did your bro do ferrying around? House you? Feed you? etc.

You are right to keep the compensation. DB sounds a right miserable tight arse

What does he think he endured that requires compensation. Cheeky fecker. Tell him he’s a parasite on other peoples pain. Use your mums half to take her out somewhere nice locally or pay one of her bills perhaps. Be aware sibling will very probably demand it off her if she has it directly. God some people are the limit aren’t they!

it doesn’t matter how much someone earns, just because they earn more than you it doesn’t give you the right to keep the money for the ticket.
compensation should be split between the travellers.

This is what I'd do too.

Sibling can come over and collect DM next time.

This is a good idea to suggest actually. The golden sibling. He’d have to return her too though.

Did you use up your annual leave for going there?

I think like has been said you should give half to your mum. She could prefer the money rather than being treated by you. If she chooses to give it to your sister then so what, that shouldn't be a reason not to give her share.

As your mum's carer on the delayed flight, do a list of everything spent for you both and offset it against your mum's ticket. Advise your sibling, you will be giving the remaining portion lto your mum for all the hassle and that she should deal with mum.

Your mum's ticket was her birthday present. Had it been a book she did not want to read, would your sibling expect your DM to return the book to the shop and refund the money back to them?

Your mum should get the compensation. She had to endure it too.
i personally would refund my sisters flight money but keep the compensation.
youre being greedy

Oh Lord, I’ve got my stupid head on haven’t I? Completely missed that this was on the return journey. Nothing for greedy sibling, they got their visit as paid for. You keep the refund because it was you who had the inconvenience.

Sibling can come over and collect DM next time.

YANBU. The only reason you received a payment from the airline was because of the disruption you and your mum suffered, the fact that part of that sum equates to the cost of the tickets does not alter that. Your sibling did not suffer any disruption so is not entitled to any part of the payment you received.

Yes you stated that in your opening message. However in the end their was no cost for tickets as it got refund hence you should keep the cost of your ticket and refund your sister who paid for your Mum's ticket. You could deduct anything extra you had to pay for your Mum's food out of compensation and keep the rest of compensation. In future insist your sister visits your Mum.

This is my view too. In the end their was no cost of tickets so siblings should get half of ticket prices back and so should you. Compensation should be shared between you and you Mum who had all the discomfort and frustration of the delays. You shouldn't be expecting to keep the lot to yourself. That would be really selfish.

Does your sibling have golden balls?

I would return the cost of the ticket minus any additional costs, taxi, food, drinks, any extras you had to pay for to make the journey comfortable for you and your mother. Your contribution is your physical presence as chaperone. Sibling wanted the trip so should pay for what it cost. I think that would be generous of you.

The sibling already got what they paid for and should have split all travel costs without acting like they'd paid for the mum's gift. The carer flight should have been included in the value of the gift one way or the other.

The compensation happens to include the price of the flight, but is for those who endured the inconvenience getting home.

Physically, and in terms of travel time, that's OP and her mother. Financially, and with the additional challenge of responsibility for an elderly parent and dealing with the airline's processes afterwards, that's OP.

Ticket refund to whoever paid for the tickets and compensation split between you and your mother.