Do you believe the universe tries to tell us things

I often think it’s good to listen if things feel like a struggle it’s usually not right

@PassingStranger Oh do you? Great, you must have some insight. Why did my father's parents die when he was a teenager, both in the space of 8 months? Why did my best friend die from Leukaemia at 17? Why did someone very beloved to me die an agonising death in their 30s? Why do I have a load of fucking shitty health problems that will shorten my life, and cause me pain every day? What life lesson should I learn?

I agree with this lol I have had the worst 2 years of my life with my son dying in 2022 and my partner dying in feb this year and shit certainly does happen. It could be worse but it could be better.

Right, like a cancer patient or a victim of violence. Like somebody whose child has died.
They'd probably rip her a new asshole for saying that.

I believe things happen for a reason ut not sure what the reason is.
I think sometimes its to teach us life lessons.

I'd urge you to be very careful who you say this to IRL.

No, things are just random.
And I'm ok with that.

Sometimes you have to know when things are not working out, sometimes it's a blip but sometimes everything works against you and it's not worth the fight anymore.
The reality is sometimes going abroad doesn't work out, and that's OK. Lots of people don't want to admit that things didn't quite work out as they hoped (Australia is really common for this)
The UK has its big issues so do most countries

I was about 23 living in a country in europe and I had a brilliant first year, (I was young and single at this time so not the same as family life) I got offered another job in another EU country (EU days freedom of movement times) but declined it, anyway everything fell apart for me in the next few months, the job I declined originally was hiring again, this time I just went for it as I felt I had nothing to lose, and ended up meeting some amazing people and having a wonderful time. By the way when I type got offered another job, it was nothing glam, it's these jobs that offer you bare minimum but with the chance of living in another country for some time, aimed at young people who are seeking adventure. The job itself was rubbish but I'm grateful for the times I had.

Which god?

‘Things happen for a reason’ is the greatest load of bullshit.
Explain childhood cancer, kids being murdered in war. What’s the ‘reason’ for that?

Ha ha, 100%. People who talk about the universe needing them to do something need to come off whatever it is they are smoking and take responsibility. Its like the new "God's will" or "Jesus made me do it".

No, I don't believe that at all.
I do believe we can convince ourselves it is though.

I think so, I'd like it to be true anyway

I believe that god does 🙂

Yes, of course. The mountains on Mars and the gas clouds around the as yet undiscovered galaxy MHT345 totally care whether that bloke rings you back. Defo.

Not sure. I'm agnostic, so I don't believe in a higher intelligence at work in our lives. Nor do I disbelieve. I think it's unknowable.
I do know that shit happens, and it happens completely randomly. So I would not be leaping to the conclusion that these are signs from the universe.

No. In your case, you are unsure about the step you have taken, in part because some of the settling in stuff/being away from your home country hasn't gone well, so you are desperate for a 'meaningful' pattern that tells you whether you should just go home again because the universe wants you to.

It's much harder to listen to yourself and decide what you actually want. And to take responsibility for deciding to stay or go home. The universe is mute.

The only thing I think the universe tells me is that I deserve another biscuit.

Totally this.

I think 'the universe' is like a giant Rorschach test - a psychometric examination of pareidolia, the active pattern of perceiving objects, shapes, or scenery as meaningful things to the observer's experience. The universe is a bunch of matter. It can no more 'tell us things' than a rock can.

Yes and no.
No the universe doesn't try and give you signs or tell you things, that's a huge load of people it would need to give signs to. However I do believe certain things happen for a reason (burnt toast theory) and I've this year been telling myself over and over to stop trying to make things fit the narrative, for example i have to do this or that because that's what I originally planned or that's what people would expect.
If you feel something isn't quite right living abroad then come home, don't stay just because it would be the easier option and would fit a better narrative

That Stanley Kubrick quote is brilliant.

Lovely as it would be to think this, then it really doesn't make sense. Within a relationship the universe could be telling each of you something different!

I do believe in intuition, though, which seems to be what's going on for you now. There are tons of tiny things that are happening and realisations made that come together to make you know the right thing you should do. Listen to your inner voice and to your experiences, not the universe

No

No. The universe isn't thinking about me or anyone else.

No. The universe is no more aware of you than you are aware of an individual cell in your body and things absolutely do not ‘happen for a reason’.