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To have a glass of wine while pregnant?

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onethousand · 20/07/2024 19:00

Third trimester, I know it's not recommended but ... really fancy a glass of wine. Would you?

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Supergirl1958 · 20/07/2024 20:04

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Wow! What an awful thing to say! Very judgmental and rude! Would you say the same about a bit of chocolate or other things! Wanting the occasional glass isn’t lacking in self control!

DancingLions · 20/07/2024 20:03

These message boards are full of women who did everything "right" and still had DC with SEN, health issues etc.

So the only question you have to ask yourself is this "would I feel guilty and blame myself if everything wasn't 100% ok" some people would, some would just accept it as not their fault (which in all likelihood it wasnt). Which camp you fall into gives you your answer.

Because as you can see, the answers are very divided. So it's up to you as to what you feel comfortable with.

Marblessolveeverything · 20/07/2024 20:03

MidnightPatrol · 20/07/2024 19:58

’Theres no safe amount’ is because it’s not deemed ethical to run trials on pregnant women and babies.

If alcohol was so toxic one small glass of wine could permanently damage your baby, we would know about it.

A small glass once a week is fine.

Really and what medical qualifications do you have to make that statement. Medical advice is to abstain.

Laura7899 · 20/07/2024 20:03

No I wouldn’t

MidnightPatrol · 20/07/2024 20:02

NowIam35 · 20/07/2024 19:40

I personally would not. Even if there is very minimal risk from one glass of wine. You wouldn't think it was acceptable for a baby to drink wine would you? What you drink, the baby drinks.

Can you elaborate on the science behind this?

mylittleitalianhome · 20/07/2024 20:01

Yep, absolutely. 7 months pregnant here and have a small glass of wine a couple of times a week. Here in Italy, a drink with a meal is seen as totally acceptable for pregnant women. Read Expecting Better for a brilliant breakdown of the studies surrounding alcohol in pregnancy.

Lavender14 · 20/07/2024 20:00

I wouldn't. I understand the risks are very low but I personally didn't feel comfortable doing that.

MidnightPatrol · 20/07/2024 19:59

Dahliaaaa · 20/07/2024 19:54

Genuinely shocked at the amount of people saying they would drink alcohol whilst pregnant. Are you really that desperate for an alcoholic drink?! It's just not worth the risk

What risk is there from drinking a small glass of wine?

Supergirl1958 · 20/07/2024 19:59

I did and was fine. Go for it OP if you fancy it! Why not! My son is nearly five and thriving! My mum drank stout throughout Her pregnancies. You’re fine for the occasional glass!

MidnightPatrol · 20/07/2024 19:58

’Theres no safe amount’ is because it’s not deemed ethical to run trials on pregnant women and babies.

If alcohol was so toxic one small glass of wine could permanently damage your baby, we would know about it.

A small glass once a week is fine.

GingerPirate · 20/07/2024 19:58

No, I wouldn't, because I don't drink.
I don't really know what sort of "repercussions" one glass might bring if you are pregnant.
But, what IS the obsession with wine?
😳

RoseMarigoldViolet · 20/07/2024 19:57

No, I wouldn’t.

BlackStrayCat · 20/07/2024 19:57

Yes I would and did in 3rd trimester. Probably once a week.

soundsys · 20/07/2024 19:55

Yep 3rd trimester is absolutely fine, assuming you're not getting smashed and dancing on tables and things.

Enjoy it!

Houseplanter · 20/07/2024 19:55

I wonder how many of those who don't follow advice re drinking when pregnant will become evangelical about sleeping, weaning, etc once their baby is born

PickingMo · 20/07/2024 19:55

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Wendyinwonderland · 20/07/2024 19:54

The is a warning on wine in France to not drink in pregnancy. Since 2007.
You are an adult and can what you want within the law.

Dahliaaaa · 20/07/2024 19:54

Genuinely shocked at the amount of people saying they would drink alcohol whilst pregnant. Are you really that desperate for an alcoholic drink?! It's just not worth the risk

XxEmily88xx · 20/07/2024 19:52

I had one glass of champagne at a wedding and felt incredibly guilty. All was fine with baby. So my answer is

I don't know 😂. If you do..... sip slowly and enjoy. Haha xx

Marblessolveeverything · 20/07/2024 19:49

MintTwirl · 20/07/2024 19:43

I had a small glass when pregnant with dc2, it was on my wedding day. Tbh once I had the glass in my hand I didn’t really fancy it and didn’t drink it all so no I wouldn’t judge someone for having a small glass of wine.

It makes me laugh that people try and insinuate that someone must have an issue with alcohol if they fancy a glass of wine while pregnant,

You are amused that concern is shown when a woman is growing a baby? Really, I have to say I find your Idea of humour rather sad.

There are women every day getting diagnostic news about their children and I can guarantee you the majority of them will go back and replay every decision they made during pregnancy.

To me this is an absolute no brainer, no smoking no alcohol no drugs, I don't see that as a sacrifice.

wandaer · 20/07/2024 19:49

No, I didn't. Got pg with dc1 7 years ago and been pg or breastfeeding since then, and I've not had any alcohol. I don't miss it tbh, it makes me sleepy.

Saltedbutter · 20/07/2024 19:49

Yes. The majority of women I know have the occasional glass when pregnant. Obviously, Mumsnet isn’t going to always be reflective of the overall population for these type of topics - especially not on AIBU.
Have one glass and do not feel guilty about it whatsoever. In many counties it’s entirely normal and there’s no evidence that a small amount causes any harm. Its clear you’re not proposing regular consumption or binge drinking!
Enjoy!

Matronic6 · 20/07/2024 19:48

I had the occasional glass of a white wine spritzer whilst expecting.

AngeloMysterioso · 20/07/2024 19:46

You’ll be fine.

Daisylookslost · 20/07/2024 19:45

No. Saying that I did take 1 solitary swig of cooking wine on 2-3 occasions when PG. Just could not do a glass even small… plenty of time for that when you are not pregnant

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