To have a glass of wine while pregnant?

I personally wouldn’t. I’m currently pregnant and also have gestational diabetes so there are tons of things I fancy but can’t have because they could be harmful to the baby. It’s a pain and I get annoyed by it but I know it’s not forever and I’ll enjoy those things again.

I think it’s unlikely one glass of wine would be devastating to your baby but I also expect the anxiety over it will ruin any enjoyment. Have you tried any non alcoholic wines or spirits to see if those hit the spot instead?

I also keep a list of everything I want to have but can’t at the moment as a plan for the ultimate month of indulgence I’m having once the baby is born!

Just to warn you,when I was pregnant it was still considered safe to have the occasional drink, and I was so looking forward to having a glass of champers at a family wedding when I was 20 weeks.
However, I had one sip and it tasted like gone off cider! Also,just from that one sip I spent the rest of the wedding puking. After that, throughout the whole pregnancy even the smell of alcohol or perfume provoked violent sickness.

@Blisterly you can't get fetal alcohol syndrome from alcohol consumed before conception- by mothers and fathers

Thanks, I do understand how sex and babies work. My point was, as a man would you be ‘always worrying’ if you conceived whilst drinking alcohol/smoking/taking drugs/drinking coffee/etc. There are no safe levels of alcohol for trying to conceive either. This is a separate issue to anything the mother is doing. I’ve just not heard any men who give up drinking alcohol when trying to conceive.

@MultiplaLight I can only be grateful I'm not in the uk and went through pregnancy and birth under the care and guidance of my board certified OBGYN who, when asked about a glass of wine, said it was grand with a big meal and to enjoy it!

@Strokethefurrywall Isn't it.

Almost like how it's amazing French women manage to give birth to healthy babies after eating all that food which UK women aren't supposed to.

Well done you can advance search 👏.

I'm incredibly proud of my job and how much I've achieved. I'm also glad I had a glass of wine while pregnant. I'll await your referral to social services about me.

I told my midwife I'd had a glass. She admitted she had too (wasn't 'banned' in her day) and she recommended Emily Oster. No need to lie.

And again SIGNIFICANT AMOUNTS OF alcohol lead to a lifelong struggle with FAS all the other food you mentioned could lead to miscarriage or still birth so they cannot be compared.

Fixed that for you @OceanStorm

It's amazing that the majority of the population born up until 1990 don't have FAS given the quantities that were consumed and even recommended for pregnant women throughout history...

Ate you seriously telling us that if a woman tells her midwife that she has a very occasional small drink that widewife will organise a pre birth conference with social services?

In order to bypass having a pre birth child conference with the social services a mother would have to lie to their midwife when asked if they drink alcohol. It seems there is a problem if a mother is lying to their midwife do they can continue to drink alcohol whilst pregnant.

And again alcohol leads to a lifelong struggle with FAS all the other food you mentioned could lead to miscarriage or still birth so they cannot be compared

No, I would not. I preferred to err on the side of caution and would not have enjoyed it.
I actually didn’t enjoy it post-DC either which came as a surprise.

TTC is no guarantee you will conceive. However once a pregnancy is formed as a mother you choose whether your child ingests alcohol or not

@MultiplaLight I definitely can. That why I accomplished more in my life than becoming a teacher. There are no studies demonstrating how much alcohol leads to FAS. Hence why weighing up the risks vs benefits is needed. Risks = FAS benefits = tasting alcohol. Self control is needed for some to give up the latter

do it!

Indeed. Surely this pseudoscience would mean that the sperm created through consumption of Moet, cigarettes, coke, Jamon iberico, turkey twizzlers, single malt whiskey, ibuprofen, wotsits, Brie , etc., would be in the child’s DNA?

Yes I did. 1 a week max - dotted throughout both pregnancies. Perhaps 8 in total each pregnancy.

Yes I wondered this.

And do men who drink whilst ttc get reported to ss?

Out of interest, when trying to conceive did the male partner give up all alcohol, cigarettes, coffee, etc?

"lack of self control"

I have self control, hence being able to have one small glass of red wine.

I also have the ability to read and think critically, hence knowing that one small glass of wine does absolutely no damage to a baby whatsoever.

You on the other hand, have shown you cannot read or comprehend peer reviewed research. I know who I would rather be.

Co sleeping is different from giving alcohol to a baby

No shit Sherlock. And yet, like alcohol, it is still not recommended, and yet many new mothers do so despite those risks. Should they be reported to social services?

And is it only the alcohol stick you want to shake at mothers or do you also have a caffeine/unpasteurized cheese/unwashed fruit and veg/packaged ham stick as well?

Women can and do eat absolute shite during their pregnancies, can feed their children fast food and junk whenever those kids grow up, and yet some posters on here tie themselves in knots over other women enjoying a glass of wine once during pregnancy.

What you and all the other puritans seem to be missing is that the OP is not lacking in self control. If she was she would have gone ahead anyway and had more than just the one small glass in her pregnancy. Your life must be very difficult if you are unable to assess risk effectively. Which is not what either pregnant women or social services need.

I had the odd small glass after about week 15 onwards. By the time it got to the last 2 weeks I had a small whisky. TBF it was 20 years ago though before things got so puritan.

@SharonEllis no you can have an abortion for any reason up until 24 weeks. You can then have an abortion until 9 months for foetal abnormalities

Only under certain conditions. You cannot technically just kill a foetus without meeting those conditions.

@MultiplaLight ok. If you can happily look yourself and your child in the eye and say your desire for alcohol and lack of self control trumps your concern for their safety go for it. I believe loving your child is reflected in the choices you make surrounding the