To ask how to get men interested in/attracted to me?

Men like women who will have sex with them. If they're saying there is no chemistry after 3 dates is because you haven't had sex with them.

Just be yourself. Be relaxed. And just have fun. I worry that you think you should do more than that and be more than that, but there's no need. You sound like a catch just as you are.

Hate all you like but current approach isnt working. Men like the thrill of the chase. Yes tease him, be aloof. If you compliment him all the time, now that's 1950s dating.

nope

God, I hope this isn’t true, it sounds like dating advice from the 50s.

The man should be doing the running. Maybe he's a bit intimidated by your confidence. Most fellas would think they were well in if you were dropping all those buying signals. I think you should be more cocky. Take the piss a little, get him to validate himself to you rather than you suck up to him. Men like a challenge not an easy ride.

Youve just not met the right man. At 33 you arent going to change and it doesnt sound like you're doing anything wrong so what else can you do to attract men other than be a lady of loose virtue.

Oh op. You just haven't met the right person. You will. Then it won't be complicated & you won't need to second guess.

Could you ask your good friends to set you up with people?

I think he just gives off friendly vibes rather than romantic vibes! I’ve been on double dates with him and others and he does flirt, he’s a genuinely lovely person, very calm and level headed, he’s not the type for drama and I think lots of women secretly love a bit of a bad boy, a bit of a chase, he often jokes he’d have more luck if he was a dickhead😂 and I honestly think that’s true! He is honestly one of the kindest and most genuine people I’ve ever met and I think he gives off a very calm, safe vibe which maybe a lot of women interpret as more of a friend, someone you can rely on, rather than a romantic “I want to rip your clothes off” partner. As a result he now has lots of female friends who were failed dates and now besties, but still no luck in the dating game!

Finding people attractive isn’t desperate or cringy. Flirting suggests that you might find them attractive, nothing more. Try it out and see how it goes.

I don’t think chemistry can be forced/engineered and I honestly think some people do just give off “friend” vibes rather than “sex/relationship” vibes! One of my husband’s best friends is the perfect example of this, he’s tall, has a really good job, owns his own place, he’s very generous, he’s gorgeous and we always joke could be a model, he’s also one of the most lovely and kind people I’ve ever met, on paper he should have been snapped up years ago but he’s still single. Not for lack of trying he gets a LOT of interest, lots of women asking him for his number and asking him out, a couple of my friends over the years have asked us to arrange double dates because they were interested in him, but they all end up saying the same thing, he’s an amazing friend but there’s just not that chemistry there! There’s someone out there for everyone though and he’ll find his perfect woman one day, so will you, just be true to yourself! X

So what sort of interests do you have? Looks may be the first thing that attract but something in common is a must. You cannot make or force chemistry it’s there or it’s not. In fact moulding yourself is a huge mistake. Say you met someone who likes football or opera or fishing or jive and they spend time, money and energy on that hobby and you hate it. But you go along with it from day one to appear interested, then what ? Lots of people couple up with literally bugger all in common. Now in my fifties I see three friends divorcing because of this. It’s why loads of people break up once children leave. No kids anymore is no distraction and they have nothing in common at all.

I agree with @5128gap . However being a naturally flirty person with both men and women, I have been accused of misleading people before.

Oddly enough when it comes to someone I fancy, I turn into someone cold, standoffish and serious - not a good combination for someone to approach.

I am at that stage of my life now whereby I just stopped trying to figure out how to attract.

If someone makes you feel butterflies of possibility, that’s the person you naturally flirt with - your eye contact becomes longer/eyes dilate/your body will be positioned towards them, attention simply becomes focused…if you aren’t feeling it with these people maybe they aren’t with you. It’s all chemistry at the end of the day.

Practical tips - nice smelling shampoo, understated but interesting jewellery, neat nails, good bag/shors, enthusiasm for what you are talking about/doing, quiet confidence in yourself.

False flirting doesn't cut it IMO. When you meet someone you are genuinely attracted to, you won't be able to help yourself. It'll be so natural, that they will pick up on the vibes.

How attractive are you finding them?

Honestly it's hard to fake or boost 'chemistry'. If it's there it's there and if it's not, it's not, y'know?

Maybe they are liking you but can feel there's no genuine spark back.

If there is genuinely no natural spark back (from you) then it's better left alone. Perhaps when you meet 'the one' (one of the one's - there's more than one obvs) then you will both click.

Where are you meeting these men??

The best relationships often come from randomly meeting someone through a hobby where you have something quite specific in common.

You tend to meet people when you're not actually looking!

I agree with people saying that flirting makes a big difference. It makes people want to be around you because they feel attractive and it is fun.