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How can you tell if Americans are "poor"?

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flavourable · 20/07/2024 14:15

Like most of us I watch quite a bit of US drama and box sets but remain baffled about the characters based on things like the house they live in etc...

Can American audiences tell that someone is poor or rich (or in between) based on things such as house size, style of house and other things that are part of TV series?

I know (well think I do so not assuming - please correct if wrong!) that middle and working class may mean different things to UK - but can US viewers pick up more based on cultural norms and things that may need explaining to non-American audiences?

An example is I watched some episodes of True Detective and thought the house was lovely and spacious but everything else in the plot pointed to the fact that this was a "poor rundown neighbourhood with substance issues etc..."

Are there any rules of thumb? Do American audiences get confused my things like this when watching UK or European dramas?

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Gwenhwyfar · 24/07/2024 07:46

"The football coaching is symbolic of anti intellectualism and old-fashioned American machismo"

Sheldon's father was not anti-intellectual at all. He's not intellectual himself, or at least doesn't show it, but is very supportive of Sheldon. He throws Georgie out for leaving school before 18.

Gwenhwyfar · 24/07/2024 07:39

"Class touches on it, but there is a far wider cultural and psychological context. The chair was an insult to Fraser's sense of self."

He also didn't want the chair there because he didn't want other people to see it.
It's not just the chair. It's all of the brothers' hobbies, opera, concerts, etc. while Martin does completely different things. I know they're pretentious snobs as part of their personalities, much more so than Frasier was in Cheers, but I just can't see how class doesn't come into it, unless you're just arguing that in the US class is only about money and not at all about lifestyle, etc.

mathanxiety · 24/07/2024 04:21

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 22/07/2024 22:11

It’s not the $30 for the card so much as knowing they will never afford to go even to Canada, Mexico or on a Caribbean/Bermuda cruise ever in their life….holidays that are cheaper than it costs for a U.K. family to go to Benidorm.
So they don’t bother paying for one.

The US doesn’t use passports as a common form of ID like we do here. It’s usually drivers licence.

Americans visit Mexico in droves. You don't need to spend a lot to go to Cancun on Spring Break or for a hen do or just for a few days.

mathanxiety · 24/07/2024 04:13

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 22/07/2024 22:37

Yeah, the poor ones don’t go far. They might take a road trip. They won’t be able to afford to fly to any tropical islands.

You can get really cheap rates during the occasional sale. Lots of people go to Jamaica, Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Barbados... There are multiple resort or accommodation choices to suit many budgets. People who couldn't afford five days to a week in Jamaica couldn't afford a road trip either - petrol and accommodation along the highway are not cheap.

mathanxiety · 24/07/2024 03:52

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 11:35

A football coach is a secondary school teacher surely so middle class even if not so much money. The mother was a housewife and then church secretary.

A football coach would earn a certain amount on top of his salary for coaching.

Teachers in my local public high school get $10k on top of their salaries to lead an extra curricular club or coach a sport. Local teachers' base salaries are excellent; it's a well-off district.

Young Sheldon is set a few decades ago, and things have changed over the intervening years. Even with a generous 'main' salary, the expectation is strong that each partner will have the best paying job they can get.

The football coaching is symbolic of anti intellectualism and old-fashioned American machismo, on the same lines as Martin's cultural reference points in Fraser. It's a kind of trope (you see it in Al Bundy too) in American comedies.

mathanxiety · 24/07/2024 03:33

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 11:43

The two Fraisier sons definitely considered themselves a different class to their father even if all three would be within the middle class. Would they not be lower and upper middle class? I mentioned before the argument over the chair, that was obviously about class.

Basically all of them were middle class. Niles and Fraser vs. Martin was a comedy about taste as a marker of a sense of self, with Niles and Fraser taking it on the chin. They came out second in the argument about the chair, an episode that was about neurosis and pretentiousness, which are not the same as class. Class touches on it, but there is a far wider cultural and psychological context. The chair was an insult to Fraser's sense of self.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 23/07/2024 21:42

InternationalVelveteen · 20/07/2024 22:17

My American grandparents were poor. Neither of them finished high school. My grandmother was 16 when she got married. They were the finest people you could imagine. Despite his lack of formal education, my grandfather read widely and was always writing letters to the editor of the local newspaper about issues he was passionate about. My grandmother was one of the most intelligent people you could imagine. She was a brilliant photographer and gardener. They were not religious or politically conservative. Their appearance wasn't unusual in any way. They certainly didn't wear the clothing described in some posts, they just wore ordinary clothes. I could go on. But the point is that I simply do not recognize either of them in many of the posts on this thread.

They sound like they were an incredible couple.
I would like to have met them.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 23/07/2024 21:23

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 20/07/2024 14:52

Washing hanging outside is code for poor.

My mother in law has an Aunt who lives in Canada, and while my m-i-l was visiting, she wanted to help out with the housework.

My mil wanted to hang the washing up outside, and her cousin was horrified, and hastily put it all in the dryer.
My mil was incredibly embarrassed by the whole thing - her face and neck flushed while she was telling me the story.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 23/07/2024 21:11

flavourable · 20/07/2024 14:15

Like most of us I watch quite a bit of US drama and box sets but remain baffled about the characters based on things like the house they live in etc...

Can American audiences tell that someone is poor or rich (or in between) based on things such as house size, style of house and other things that are part of TV series?

I know (well think I do so not assuming - please correct if wrong!) that middle and working class may mean different things to UK - but can US viewers pick up more based on cultural norms and things that may need explaining to non-American audiences?

An example is I watched some episodes of True Detective and thought the house was lovely and spacious but everything else in the plot pointed to the fact that this was a "poor rundown neighbourhood with substance issues etc..."

Are there any rules of thumb? Do American audiences get confused my things like this when watching UK or European dramas?

Hanging up washing outside is seen as very déclassé in America.

Nanaof1 · 23/07/2024 21:08

saltinesandcoffeecups · 23/07/2024 14:24

A lot of them also have second jobs as well (usually security related). Same with Firerfighters, but I guess more firefighters own a side business. It depends on the shift they run, but it’s very common.

Yes, it is very common and that income is on top of the above salaries.

Nanaof1 · 23/07/2024 21:05

kiddietaxi · 23/07/2024 08:08

Indeed! The good hair is more likely down to things like:

  • regular salon visits for professional cut and color (vs botched box dye and an annual haircut at a beauty school)
  • better diet which means hair looks healthier, shinier, etc
  • better quality washing and styling products at home to keep hair looking its best
  • more free time to spend on grooming
  • lower average life stress levels, so less likely to experience stress-related hair loss

Or genetics. I kept the thin baby fine hair that I had as a small child. It never got thicker or fuller. Ditto my Mom and my sister.

Aroastdinnerisnotahumanright · 23/07/2024 18:52

Most Americans don't live in gate communities. My parents always hung out laundry, albeit fairly discreetly.

However where I grew up winter went from end September to May, then pollen season which could turn surfaces yellow, then humid summers with cold nights! Not ideal for drying outside. I remember wanting to wear a favorite cardigan once but it had literally frozen on the line Confused

ReacherSaidNothing · 23/07/2024 16:50

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 13:17

Interesting. Is that a city thing maybe as they take up more land? I suppose some of the old people's bungalows I'm thinking of are/were council houses.

We're in an affluent area in the west of Scotland and many bungalows here which maybe started life as a 2 bed home have now been extended both out and up the way to make them into 4/5 bed 2 baths, they sell for 550-600k. Majority of them are bought by younger families due to the sought-after schooling here

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/07/2024 16:38

goneaway2 · 23/07/2024 16:05

It's not allowed in some gated communities.

Even years ago my FiL was told he wasn’t allowed to hang washing out - on a small estate with its own tennis court and indoor pool - U.K. near Chichester. The houses were nothing special, his was a fairly small 3 bed, IIRC semi or terraced. He was also told by some particularly officious neighbour that he was required to hang net curtains in his front windows!

Pleased to say he ignored both edicts.

Ponderingwindow · 23/07/2024 16:25

2AND2GC · 22/07/2024 22:52

Teeth, I get. Anyone can pay gazillions (provided they have it) and get amazing teeth.

But what do wealthier/ middle class American ladies do if they've got thinning, rubbish hair?

Every wealthy looking person seems to have thick, glossy rich-person hair. HOW? Hmm

Extensions and weaves

goneaway2 · 23/07/2024 16:05

InternationalVelveteen · 20/07/2024 15:01

I wouldn't say so. Hanging clothes out is quite popular, especially among environmentally conscious Americans. Though it is true that nearly all Americans have a tumble dryer at home, even people who have a very low income.

It's not allowed in some gated communities.

TorroFerney · 23/07/2024 15:56

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 13:17

Interesting. Is that a city thing maybe as they take up more land? I suppose some of the old people's bungalows I'm thinking of are/were council houses.

Don’t think so, we are in Lancashire, ribble valley. I know what you mean about the council ones though I had an auntie in one, it was minute.

just googled rightmove and there’s a 3 bed bungalow near me £625k sold very quickly.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 23/07/2024 14:24

Nanaof1 · 23/07/2024 04:04

The median salary of a police detective or policeman in the US is $74,910/yr.
The pension they get is top-notch, and they only need 20 years (usually) to retire. If the detective in that series is living in a run-down area, then she is spending money other places because she would be well over the average.

I have never met a policeman or detective who was living in a run-down area or close to a bread-line existence, unless it was by choice or city charter (where city employees have to live in the city/town they serve). Even then, they live in the better areas.

A lot of them also have second jobs as well (usually security related). Same with Firerfighters, but I guess more firefighters own a side business. It depends on the shift they run, but it’s very common.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/07/2024 13:55

SummerTimeIsTheBest · 21/07/2024 13:14

House prices can be cheaper in certain states because land is so much cheaper. Eg, I watched a YouTuber house hunting and she said she was going to look at a ‘small house’ (in Texas) It was about 2500 square foot, detached, double garage with several acres of land! All for around $300k. My jaw was on the floor.

Edited

By contrast, a Dsis lived for many years in Cambridge (home of Harvard) Massachussetts, where until fairly recently house prices weren’t wildly different from the more expensive areas of the U.K. Only a very few years ago she sold her house - very far from the typical TV-American huge - very small garden, for IIRC $1.3m - and it sold in one weekend, with more than one over-asking price offer.

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 13:17

TorroFerney · 23/07/2024 12:15

They are often more expensive as they have a bigger footprint and also go for a premium with more affluent retirees. There are some 2 bed ones being built near me - £500k when you can get a 4 bed detached for less.

Interesting. Is that a city thing maybe as they take up more land? I suppose some of the old people's bungalows I'm thinking of are/were council houses.

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 13:09

InternationalVelveteen · 20/07/2024 22:01

If anyone is looking for a fictional depiction of rural poverty in the US, I would recommend Winter's Bone. The details are quite accurate. It's based on an excellent novel too.

Yes, but that's a really extreme example, having to kill wild animals for food, etc.

TorroFerney · 23/07/2024 12:15

Gwenhwyfar · 22/07/2024 16:14

" (a bungalow is a sign of affluence in these parts!)"

Where do you live? Bungalows are for old people where I come from. Not posh at all.

They are often more expensive as they have a bigger footprint and also go for a premium with more affluent retirees. There are some 2 bed ones being built near me - £500k when you can get a 4 bed detached for less.

TorroFerney · 23/07/2024 12:13

Gillypie23 · 20/07/2024 21:03

You have to much time on your hands.

Is that how you tell someone is poor in America or a comment on this thread?!

Too

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 11:43

CarolinaInTheMorning · 20/07/2024 23:26

Almost everyone in the US identifies as "middle class," which doesn't mean what it does in the UK. The self-identified middle class in the US includes people barely making ends meet as well as professionals living an extremely comfortable lifestyle.

This is a very accurate statement. I think one of the main misunderstandings by British people about the class structure in the US is that working class and middle class in the US are not mutually exclusive. I remember a thread on MN where a poster was talking about the sitcom Frasier and saying that Frasier and Niles were middle class because they were doctors and that their father Martin was working class because he was a policeman. Wrong. All three men were middle class.

However, discussions of middle class in the US do often separate groups into lower middle class, middle middle class, and upper middle class. Income is a major determinant of which group a person falls into.

The two Fraisier sons definitely considered themselves a different class to their father even if all three would be within the middle class. Would they not be lower and upper middle class? I mentioned before the argument over the chair, that was obviously about class.

Gwenhwyfar · 23/07/2024 11:39

PangolinPan · 20/07/2024 21:10

The Channel 4 programme "Around the world in 80 weighs" went to America, not sure which state. There was a lovely mum and daughter who were overweight but lived in a good desert so there was literally nowhere to get fresh food and very limited options for home cooking. All the food providers were takeaways so it was a choice of driving and hour to a supermarket or getting McDonald's for everyone for $10 or similar. It was really sad.
At least in this country most people can generally access a decent supermarket.

We have food deserts too, but not as bad I agree.