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Hairdresser cancelled appointment at my appointment time

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TheAfterthought · 20/07/2024 14:03

I'll try and keep this as concise as possible!

I had an appointment with my hairdresser today. I arrived at the salon and messaged her upon my arrival (Salon is on the first floor building and door is number coded for access). I waited a couple of minutes expecting the door to be open and greeted by my hairdresser. Instead, I receive a text message from her informing me she's unwell and been unwell all week and not in work today and that she's really sorry and will offer me a discount next time if I want to rebook.

Being unwell is one thing and I hope she feels much better soon. That said, texting me AFTER I confirm my arrival for my appointment is what's pissed me off. I arranged my day around this appointment. She says she's been ill all week so I would have thought she knows herself enough to know she had no plans on going into work while still feeling poorly and would have had the courtesy to message me much sooner (without prompting).

She works in a salon with other hairdressers. If she was so ill surely she could have asked one of them to call me and let me know, apologise for the inconvenience and rebook me in at a later date? Or offer to book me in with someone else the same day or later date as no idea how long she will be off sick for? Even as options that would have been appreciated to have been asked. Peter of thise options were offered.

I haven't replied to her message yet because I'm pissed off and I don't want to say anything mean to her because she's unwell. I don't think I can hide a sarcastic tone at the moment.

If this illness was an emergency then I would have understood, emergencies just happen. But she's been ill for a week and not had the thought or if she did, she didn't action the thought to contact me.

I'm unsure whether to give the hairdresser the benefit of the doubt. She's done a good job with my hair cuts previously. I'm a fairly new customer so only been to her twice before but I have been happy with her work. Or, should I find another hairdresser and take my business elsewhere?

I'm geared towards not replying and going elsewhere. Customers shouldn't be treated as an afterthought. It's not a way to run a business. Having worked in customer service for too many years lol 😆 I know how I don't like to be treated and I wouldn't treat a customer that way no matter how long they were a customer for.

I'm interested in outside opinions about this because I'm fed up and long term don't want to act in haste without considering further input.

YABU: Give the hairdresser the benefit of the doubt and rebook the appointment and make use of the discount.
YANBU: Find another hairdresser and take your business elsewhere.

Thanks for reading 😊

OP posts:
LibertyDuck · 20/07/2024 14:59

A similar thing happened to me once. I've never been back to that hairdresser.

mumedu · 20/07/2024 14:58

She is discourteous and there is no excuse for this. Let her go and find someone else.

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 20/07/2024 14:56

DingleDongBellEnd · 20/07/2024 14:49

What a massive princess you are. She is ILL. you have no idea how ill or how incapacitated. Its likely she was unable to let people know ahead of time and can only do this version of informing you, on getting a text herself.

I actually can't believe this even warrants a ranty thread.

Then someone from the salon should have contacted customers in advance or a generic email: text message to clients to let them know would suffice.
Leaving it till the last minute is flaky and rude- I’d be ropable if this was me as I need to organise child care to go to my hairdresser

Blondiebeachbabe · 20/07/2024 14:56

DingleDongBellEnd · 20/07/2024 14:49

What a massive princess you are. She is ILL. you have no idea how ill or how incapacitated. Its likely she was unable to let people know ahead of time and can only do this version of informing you, on getting a text herself.

I actually can't believe this even warrants a ranty thread.

Don't be ridiculous! I am self employed. I have all my customers in my phone. It take less than a minute to send a text. Whereas Op has probably wasted a lot of time getting to the appointment. Travel time, maybe dropping kids in to relatives to be babysat, parking the car, paying for parking, walking to the salon, etc. Why is Op's time worth less than a few seconds of the hairdressers time?!

Miffylou · 20/07/2024 14:56

I wouldn't be able to resist replying something like "This is really disappointing as I organised my whole day round this appointment. I’m sorry you’re not well but I wish you’d let me know sooner." Whether I’d use her again would depend on her response but I probably wouldn't go back.

Wigglytails · 20/07/2024 14:53

TheAfterthought · 20/07/2024 14:03

I'll try and keep this as concise as possible!

I had an appointment with my hairdresser today. I arrived at the salon and messaged her upon my arrival (Salon is on the first floor building and door is number coded for access). I waited a couple of minutes expecting the door to be open and greeted by my hairdresser. Instead, I receive a text message from her informing me she's unwell and been unwell all week and not in work today and that she's really sorry and will offer me a discount next time if I want to rebook.

Being unwell is one thing and I hope she feels much better soon. That said, texting me AFTER I confirm my arrival for my appointment is what's pissed me off. I arranged my day around this appointment. She says she's been ill all week so I would have thought she knows herself enough to know she had no plans on going into work while still feeling poorly and would have had the courtesy to message me much sooner (without prompting).

She works in a salon with other hairdressers. If she was so ill surely she could have asked one of them to call me and let me know, apologise for the inconvenience and rebook me in at a later date? Or offer to book me in with someone else the same day or later date as no idea how long she will be off sick for? Even as options that would have been appreciated to have been asked. Peter of thise options were offered.

I haven't replied to her message yet because I'm pissed off and I don't want to say anything mean to her because she's unwell. I don't think I can hide a sarcastic tone at the moment.

If this illness was an emergency then I would have understood, emergencies just happen. But she's been ill for a week and not had the thought or if she did, she didn't action the thought to contact me.

I'm unsure whether to give the hairdresser the benefit of the doubt. She's done a good job with my hair cuts previously. I'm a fairly new customer so only been to her twice before but I have been happy with her work. Or, should I find another hairdresser and take my business elsewhere?

I'm geared towards not replying and going elsewhere. Customers shouldn't be treated as an afterthought. It's not a way to run a business. Having worked in customer service for too many years lol 😆 I know how I don't like to be treated and I wouldn't treat a customer that way no matter how long they were a customer for.

I'm interested in outside opinions about this because I'm fed up and long term don't want to act in haste without considering further input.

YABU: Give the hairdresser the benefit of the doubt and rebook the appointment and make use of the discount.
YANBU: Find another hairdresser and take your business elsewhere.

Thanks for reading 😊

”sorry to hear you are unwell and I hope it’s a swift recovery for you and nothing serious.
I am however a bit miffed by not being told in plenty of time as I have made arrangements around our appointment today. I hope you understand I need reliable service providers so will have a think on whether I will rebook with you in future.”

StormingNorman · 20/07/2024 14:52

I would go back. Presumably this was a one off and it often takes a long time to build up a relationship with a hairdresser so they know how to work with your hair and your style.

Blondiebeachbabe · 20/07/2024 14:51

"Hi Kate. Sorry to hear you're poorly. Just to make you aware, nobody from the salon phoned to let me know that my appointment was cancelled. Consequently, I arranged for paid childcare and drove 30 minutes to the salon, only to find out once I was here, that you weren't in work today. Thought I should let you know, as I presume that you thought the salon were contacting your customers. Hope you feel better soon. Afterthought"

DingleDongBellEnd · 20/07/2024 14:49

What a massive princess you are. She is ILL. you have no idea how ill or how incapacitated. Its likely she was unable to let people know ahead of time and can only do this version of informing you, on getting a text herself.

I actually can't believe this even warrants a ranty thread.

Playinwithfire · 20/07/2024 14:45

I'm gearing towards YABU only because we have no idea what goes in people's life's and therefore (if this is completely out of character) then your hairdresser may have a very reasonably reason behind last minute cancellation. Her work maybe the last thing she is thinking about and therefore placing herself first. This my seem selfish but we are allowed to be selfish when needs must.

I turned up for an appointment one time and something similar happened, only I didn't get a text and the shop was shut. It turned out something really personal had happened. Which I heard through (nosey) people gossiping.

SilverSkyBirch · 20/07/2024 14:42

Sounds like she might have forgotten you were coming, as she had nothing to gain by not telling you in plenty of time. Still a sign she's unreliable though.

Trickabrick · 20/07/2024 14:40

Was she clear in her wording that she’d been off work all week, or just unwell all week and not working just today? I’d give her the benefit of the doubt if she’s struggled on all week and flaked out today, but if she’s been off work all week and not told you’d, I’d ditch and find someone else.

AzureAnt · 20/07/2024 14:39

Your discount amount should correspond with their cancellation fee. Get another appointment , get your discount then bugger off elsewhere

AndForAFortnightThereWeWereForever · 20/07/2024 14:38

Yeah find another hairdresser. That is a shitty way to treat a customer. Don't even respond to her.

Zanatdy · 20/07/2024 14:36

That’s out of order, I’d be going elsewhere personally

TimeandMotion · 20/07/2024 14:30

I guess that she was hoping she’d be well enough to do your hair even after having been ill all week. But unless your appointment was at 8:30 am it’s rude not to have let you know sooner.

IncompleteSenten · 20/07/2024 14:29

I'd just go somewhere else.
Or to a different hairdresser at the same salon.

PrincessMee · 20/07/2024 14:27

Ah is it good weather where you are today and she wants a long weekend?

Bignanna · 20/07/2024 14:26

I was on the bus going to my hairdresser appointment, and received a call saying she could not do my hair due to an emergency. I found another one.

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 20/07/2024 14:26

Did she say how much discount? If she didn’t go elsewhere as she doesn’t respect your time.

if she provided a healthy discount amount then she may be sincere.

Also is she actually sick or did she double book ?!? If she’s not shop front how are you to know

PassingStranger · 20/07/2024 14:24

Just simply ask her why she didn't let you know. It's not very professional.id be annoyed too.
There are loads of hairdressers around.

Normallynumb · 20/07/2024 14:19

That's so rude and dismissive! Surely she could have messaged given you notice or got a colleague to
I would go somewhere else
Perhaps ask friends for a recommendation?

Augustus40 · 20/07/2024 14:19

I hate unprofessional people. Personally I would go elsewhere.

Wendyinwonderland · 20/07/2024 14:15

I would take the discount. Then find another hairdresser. And once you have used your discount leave a honest review.

WatermelonMickeys · 20/07/2024 14:13

I would find another hairdresser, but I wouldn’t ignore her message. I would respond telling her exactly why I was taking my business elsewhere.